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4.12 AVERAGE
4.12 AVERAGE
The core of this book is patience. Understand that your kid is just a kid and that you can't have the same expectations for them as you would have for an adult. Obvious advice but still good to hear.
Short & sweet. Key is to treat kiddos with respect. Sounds simple but forces me to confront my own upbringing, emotional management (or lack of), and issues with respecting others.
This book really gave me a lot of food for thought. I'm still not 100% convinced about some of the techniques and this is definitely not a research/reference heavy book. There are a lot of statements about the reasons kids behave certain ways that don't seem to be based on any real science, so those I just took with a grain of salt. The things I liked were: the follow-through emphasis, the acknowledgment of the parent's needs, and the firmness around certain situations.
What I felt a little weird about is the outright rejection of time-outs and the what other reviewers describe as the robot voice. I agree that some of the language feels pretty unnatural. But I also thing you can get the general idea and adapt it to your style/family. Overall, I feel like I got some great tools and the book was short and sweet. Unlike most parenting books, there wasn't too much repetition and I appreciated all the examples. Not a bad one to check out and see if you can get some tools out of it.
What I felt a little weird about is the outright rejection of time-outs and the what other reviewers describe as the robot voice. I agree that some of the language feels pretty unnatural. But I also thing you can get the general idea and adapt it to your style/family. Overall, I feel like I got some great tools and the book was short and sweet. Unlike most parenting books, there wasn't too much repetition and I appreciated all the examples. Not a bad one to check out and see if you can get some tools out of it.
Collection of the following blog posts:
1. No Bad Kids
2. Why Toddlers Push Limits
3. Talking to Toddlers
4. Baby Discipline: Person to Person
5. A Toddler's Need for Boundaries
6. The Key to Cooperation
7. 5 Reasons to Ditch The Distractions
8. Why Children Won't Follow Our Directions
9. The Choices Our Kids Can't Make
10. The Power of "No"
11. No Fan of Timers
12. Staying Unruffled
13. My Secret for Staying Calm
14. Why the Whining
15. Biting, Hitting, Kicking
16. Food Fight
17. Sassy, bossy Bac-Talk
18. Stop Feeling Threatened
19. Don't Fight the Feelings
20. The Healing Power of Tantrums
21. Your Child's New Baby Blues
22. Common Discipline Mistakes
23. Setting Limits Without Yelling
24. The Truth About Consequent res
25. Letting Your Child Off the Hook
26. How to Be a Gentle Leader
27. If Gentle Discipline Isn't Working
28. Parenting a Strong-Willed Child
29. When Respect Becomes Indulgence
30. Guilt-Free Discipline (a Success Story)
31. Respectful Parenting Is Not Passive Parenting
32. Gentle Discipline in Action
1. No Bad Kids
2. Why Toddlers Push Limits
3. Talking to Toddlers
4. Baby Discipline: Person to Person
5. A Toddler's Need for Boundaries
6. The Key to Cooperation
7. 5 Reasons to Ditch The Distractions
8. Why Children Won't Follow Our Directions
9. The Choices Our Kids Can't Make
10. The Power of "No"
11. No Fan of Timers
12. Staying Unruffled
13. My Secret for Staying Calm
14. Why the Whining
15. Biting, Hitting, Kicking
16. Food Fight
17. Sassy, bossy Bac-Talk
18. Stop Feeling Threatened
19. Don't Fight the Feelings
20. The Healing Power of Tantrums
21. Your Child's New Baby Blues
22. Common Discipline Mistakes
23. Setting Limits Without Yelling
24. The Truth About Consequent res
25. Letting Your Child Off the Hook
26. How to Be a Gentle Leader
27. If Gentle Discipline Isn't Working
28. Parenting a Strong-Willed Child
29. When Respect Becomes Indulgence
30. Guilt-Free Discipline (a Success Story)
31. Respectful Parenting Is Not Passive Parenting
32. Gentle Discipline in Action
This was a reasonable, easy-to-follow, and quick-to-read book about how to get a small child to behave appropriately. I enjoyed reading it, and while I didn't get a lot of new ideas out of it I did appreciate seeing how a pro agrees with the things I'm already doing.
Here were some notes I took from the text:
Letting the child sit by themselves while they eat at toddler-sized table and chair (rather than at the table in a highchair) that the kid can leave themselves often helps. Also give them tiny portions that let the kid ask for more when they finish something.
Saying, “I won’t let you.” is a better "no" because it is gentle, focused, and doesn't invite an argument.
The author laid out a clear roadmap for toddler discipline like this:
1. Respectful, honest, first-person communication about expectations and plans.
2. Acknowledging the child's desires and feelings.
3. Keep directions simple and concise, in a confident, matter-of-fact, unquestioning tone.
2. Set limits early before the child becomes upset.
3. Follow through with limits and keep your word about what will happen when limits are reached or exceeded. For example, catching the child’s hands (or feet) when he lashes out while saying, “I won’t let you hit.
Here were some notes I took from the text:
Letting the child sit by themselves while they eat at toddler-sized table and chair (rather than at the table in a highchair) that the kid can leave themselves often helps. Also give them tiny portions that let the kid ask for more when they finish something.
Saying, “I won’t let you.” is a better "no" because it is gentle, focused, and doesn't invite an argument.
The author laid out a clear roadmap for toddler discipline like this:
1. Respectful, honest, first-person communication about expectations and plans.
2. Acknowledging the child's desires and feelings.
3. Keep directions simple and concise, in a confident, matter-of-fact, unquestioning tone.
2. Set limits early before the child becomes upset.
3. Follow through with limits and keep your word about what will happen when limits are reached or exceeded. For example, catching the child’s hands (or feet) when he lashes out while saying, “I won’t let you hit.
Not going to lie…I questioned the validity of everything in this book when the author said the song “A Few of my Favorite Things” was in Mary Poppins…
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
This book has helped me tremendously! I have been so frustrated with my relationship with my 2 year old and the things I’ve learned in this book are already helping me. I don’t agree with everything, but I especially like the way she teaches you to handle certain situations and talk to your child.
I really like Lansbury's approach to discipline. I've started using her techniques with Eliot and am already seeing results. Definitely recommended!