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liv_txt's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Alcoholism, Blood, Death, Grief, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Abortion, Domestic abuse, Murder, Sexual violence, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Self harm, Sexual assault, Toxic relationship, Death of parent, and Sexism
Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Car accident, Pregnancy, Rape, Child abuse, and Miscarriage
puttingwingsonwords's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Misogyny, Emotional abuse, Grief, Domestic abuse, Death of parent, Rape, Physical abuse, Self harm, and Sexism
Moderate: Suicide, Murder, Child abuse, Pregnancy, Self harm, Abortion, Alcohol, Suicidal thoughts, and Alcoholism
moonadjacent's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
3.5
Two excerpts that showcase these themes:
"...how shame could grow and morph and swallow someone until she had no choice but to pass it along so that she wasn't forced to bear it alone... She saw the chain of shame passed from one woman to the next so clearly now, saw her place in the cycle so vividly."
With the bleakness of the violence described, it would be easy to feel hopeless and unable to see a pathway for Deya (central character) to ever become a well-adjusted young woman free to make her own choices. However, while the author does not shy away from some quite graphic descriptions they also manage to maintain some sense of hope throughout the book. I believe the sense of wonder and escapism that books and storytelling bring to the characters is what helps keep this seemingly unwarranted hope stay alive.
Although the novel is somewhat repetitive in its recounting back and forth between set events and timeframes, I stayed hooked and eager to read til the end. I think Etaf Rum has done well to portray and give voice to a story that is true representation for a number of some. Even in the book, there is evidence that religion is not the basis for all culture, and culture cannot be taken as the sole basis for every action taken by a specific family or individual. How these influences manifest will be different for all and unfortunately terrible for some. Hopefully anyone with critical thinking skills can discern this difference and more of these stories can be shared without fearing potential backlash such as increasing prejudice towards Islam or Palestine.
Graphic: Physical abuse, Abortion, Blood, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Pregnancy, Religious bigotry, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, and Violence
Moderate: Death of parent, War, Alcoholism, Colonisation, Genocide, and Rape
Minor: Child death, Islamophobia, Suicide, Xenophobia, and Murder
casira's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.0
I'm also struggling a bit with the aspects of culture and tone regarding America, identity, and assimilation. I think Rum failed somewhat in marking the distinction between "there are elements of Arab/Palestinian culture that reinforce and enable abuse" and "Arab/Palestinian culture is inherently abusive." The reader walks away with a somewhat explicit message about the superiority of Western society. I think Rum's second book handles these themes far better.
Graphic: Injury/Injury detail, Misogyny, Violence, Emotional abuse, Blood, Physical abuse, Self harm, Domestic abuse, Sexism, Child abuse, Death of parent, Alcoholism, Colonisation, Grief, and Islamophobia
Moderate: Murder, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Sexual violence, Rape, and Pregnancy
ratnix's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Alcohol, Alcoholism, Child death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, Medical content, Mental illness, Murder, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, Abortion, Sexual assault, Self harm, Toxic relationship, and Misogyny
bookishevy's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Brooklyn, 2008. Eighteen-year-old Deya, whose dreams of going to college are ignored while her grandmother sets up potential suitors for her, because she thinks the only way Deya can have a future is through marriage. Someone from Deya's past intervenes and Deya learns a shocking truth about her family that could strengthen her will to make her own choices about her future.
There are so many layers to this story that is told through the eyes of three generations of Palestinian women having to grapple with rules made by the men within their culture as they struggle to find their voices amidst the fear of bringing shame to their family. The flashbacks to Fareeda and her family getting kicked out of their homes by Isreali forces and having to live in camps for years before migrating to the U.S. Struggling with the cultural differences while trying to maintain their Muslim/Arab identity.
There were times I felt suffocated while reading Isra's dilemma. She's caught between wanting better for her daughters and a hopelessness around them ending up like her. I felt immense hate for Fareeda, while acknowledging that she's a product of this culture, raised to believe that girls/women should know their place or suffer the consequences. TW: domestic violence.
This is a heartbreaking read with a hopeful ending.
Graphic: Domestic abuse
Moderate: Self harm
elizabethwb's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Sexism, Toxic relationship, War, Miscarriage, Murder, Injury/Injury detail, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Violence, Death, Rape, Self harm, Gaslighting, Genocide, Sexual violence, Death of parent, and Pregnancy
michaelion's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
I do feel that if I had read this book first and Evil Eye second, I still would've given Evil Eye 5 stars. These books were written for the culture. Not my culture, but the importance of them, the weight of them, were not just to represent Palestinians and Arabs, but to show other Arabs "this is who we are, we have stories to tell, and we have to be honest with ourselves" and I love that SO much. Etaf Rum you will always be famous!!!
Graphic: Alcoholism, Death of parent, Misogyny, Violence, Suicide, Emotional abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Grief, Rape, Sexism, Injury/Injury detail, Murder, Self harm, Physical abuse, Child abuse, and Gaslighting
Moderate: Colonisation, Mental illness, Genocide, Abandonment, Child death, Confinement, Suicidal thoughts, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Deportation, Sexual assault, War, and Blood
Minor: Body horror, Car accident, Stalking, Fatphobia, Islamophobia, Drug use, and Miscarriage
jordynkw's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Rape, Emotional abuse, Sexual violence, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Injury/Injury detail, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual assault, Death of parent, Death, Domestic abuse, and Violence
Moderate: Racial slurs, Toxic relationship, Car accident, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Alcohol, Gore, Suicide attempt, Violence, Abortion, Addiction, Alcoholism, Child death, Mental illness, Blood, and Self harm
lilystheme's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Child abuse, Sexual violence, Mental illness, Death, Physical abuse, Religious bigotry, Misogyny, Rape, Emotional abuse, Domestic abuse, Violence, Toxic relationship, Sexism, Cursing, Abortion, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, Death of parent, and Murder
Moderate: Sexism, Suicide, Genocide, War, Pregnancy, Self harm, Islamophobia, and Alcoholism