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nadiaray's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Graphic: Violence, Racism, Grief, Misogyny, Infidelity, Domestic abuse, and Sexual violence
moonadjacent's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? No
3.5
Two excerpts that showcase these themes:
"...how shame could grow and morph and swallow someone until she had no choice but to pass it along so that she wasn't forced to bear it alone... She saw the chain of shame passed from one woman to the next so clearly now, saw her place in the cycle so vividly."
With the bleakness of the violence described, it would be easy to feel hopeless and unable to see a pathway for Deya (central character) to ever become a well-adjusted young woman free to make her own choices. However, while the author does not shy away from some quite graphic descriptions they also manage to maintain some sense of hope throughout the book. I believe the sense of wonder and escapism that books and storytelling bring to the characters is what helps keep this seemingly unwarranted hope stay alive.
Although the novel is somewhat repetitive in its recounting back and forth between set events and timeframes, I stayed hooked and eager to read til the end. I think Etaf Rum has done well to portray and give voice to a story that is true representation for a number of some. Even in the book, there is evidence that religion is not the basis for all culture, and culture cannot be taken as the sole basis for every action taken by a specific family or individual. How these influences manifest will be different for all and unfortunately terrible for some. Hopefully anyone with critical thinking skills can discern this difference and more of these stories can be shared without fearing potential backlash such as increasing prejudice towards Islam or Palestine.
Graphic: Physical abuse, Abortion, Blood, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Pregnancy, Religious bigotry, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, and Violence
Moderate: Death of parent, War, Alcoholism, Colonisation, Genocide, and Rape
Minor: Child death, Islamophobia, Suicide, Xenophobia, and Murder
sassyykassie's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Rape, Gaslighting, Murder, Misogyny, Violence, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, and Injury/Injury detail
Moderate: Alcoholism, Suicide, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual violence, and Abortion
Minor: War, Car accident, Abandonment, Genocide, Xenophobia, Pregnancy, and Child death
linda97's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.25
Graphic: Violence, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, and Domestic abuse
casira's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.0
I'm also struggling a bit with the aspects of culture and tone regarding America, identity, and assimilation. I think Rum failed somewhat in marking the distinction between "there are elements of Arab/Palestinian culture that reinforce and enable abuse" and "Arab/Palestinian culture is inherently abusive." The reader walks away with a somewhat explicit message about the superiority of Western society. I think Rum's second book handles these themes far better.
Graphic: Injury/Injury detail, Misogyny, Violence, Emotional abuse, Blood, Physical abuse, Self harm, Domestic abuse, Sexism, Child abuse, Death of parent, Alcoholism, Colonisation, Grief, and Islamophobia
Moderate: Murder, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Sexual violence, Rape, and Pregnancy
boliv3's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
4.0
Moderate: Violence, Suicide, Sexism, and Sexual violence
ratnix's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Alcohol, Alcoholism, Child death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Grief, Medical content, Mental illness, Murder, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, Abortion, Sexual assault, Self harm, Toxic relationship, and Misogyny
haleylooloo's review
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.75
Graphic: Physical abuse, Abortion, Misogyny, Alcoholism, Domestic abuse, and Sexual violence
bookishbaker25's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
For fans of Khaled Hosseini's storytelling, Rum's narrative will resonate deeply. She skillfully captures a sense of despair and sadness that runs through the entire book. The characters weave together seamlessly, yet the reader is constantly faced with the harsh reality of the abuse and hopelessness they endure.
The book not only explores domestic violence but also sheds light on how cultural norms and expectations contribute to systemic abuse. While it's important not to stereotype an entire culture, it's equally important to acknowledge the struggles of women who face such challenges daily. Rum gives voice to the marginalized, highlighting their experiences.
While I appreciated the book's structure, with multiple points of view spanning three generations, there were moments where the story felt repetitive, slowing down the pace.
All in all, I think this is a great read, but please beware, it is a heavy and hard book to get through!
Graphic: Alcoholism, Racial slurs, Abortion, Addiction, Sexual violence, Mental illness, Physical abuse, and Rape
clovetra's review
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.0
ill be honest, i find trying to put my thoughts of this novel into words is quite difficult. i have many feelings over this story.
i felt like crying most of the time whilst reading this book. i did not expect this book to be *this* harrowing.
i love how there are perspectives from all three generations, and i enjoyed seeing each woman challenge the others thoughts and at times reinforce them.
ill be honest and say many aspects of this book were played up with an air of mystery, which seemed quite predictable for me. i don't feel like its right for me to comment on if its predictable nature was fair or not, but i will say it was a tad frustrating solely from a reader's perspective when mysteries were dragged on for so long.
i'll also say i am a bit disappointed at the ending. i understand the point of the last chapter - im not mad about that. i more so would've liked to see a general change in the atmosphere of fareeda's household. sure change doesn't happen over night, but i don't know, even possibly a chapter of fareeda
im conflicted on this book. it was quite a serious, emotional, and heavy story, which i usually stray from (i use my books as escapism, so reading incredibly depressing books usually destroys my mental health), but i will say this was written incredibly well. it feels tone-deaf to describe the writing as "beautiful" due to the content & subtext of this book, but i will say etaf rum has a magnificent way with words - it toes the line of lyrical yet colloquial which i adored.
i was very tempted to give this 5 stars, but i didn't scramble to read this book at certain parts, but i will say at the end of part II is when i got really into this book. before that, i wont deny, i was gripped by the plot, but only once the plot picked up, so did my interest. i also do think some of the speech the characters use is a bit forced and clunky, but it wasn't a glaring issue
the book can also be a bit repetitive at times with its dialogue, and it does sometimes feel like groundhog day. i feel i cant properly fault the book on this issue as it fits in its context, but yet again, as a reader it was a bit boring. that feels mean im so sorry
i don't know. i feel like this review is all over the place. and honestly, that's how i felt emotionally reading this book. i can see myself loving this book a lot more through a re-read though.
Graphic: Alcohol, Pregnancy, Murder, Toxic relationship, Religious bigotry, Domestic abuse, Physical abuse, Alcoholism, Misogyny, Sexism, Death of parent, and Violence
Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Drug use, Suicide, Sexual violence, Miscarriage, Medical content, Injury/Injury detail, and War
Minor: Genocide