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How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women by Terrence Real

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ediotsana's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful informative inspiring fast-paced

3.75

booksnooksandcrannies73's review against another edition

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challenging emotional hopeful informative reflective medium-paced

5.0

sloanhepler_'s review against another edition

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challenging emotional informative inspiring reflective slow-paced

5.0

This book helped me empathize with men — something that’s been very difficult for me recently. Terry highlights the way patriarchy affects men relationally and how it impacts women too; patriarchy is oppressive to everyone (albeit different ways). Super helpful. I liked the first half and ADORED the second half— it even brought me to tears twice. I will revisit my notes from this again and again. I have more respect for Terry Real than ever.

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4.0

Like all of Terry Real's books, this isn't necessarily a how-to guide so much as it's an exploration of his thoughts. I really appreciate his work and loved this earlier book.

rebeccazh's review against another edition

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5.0

I finished this book over a couple of months. Terrence Real is one of those pioneers in doing great work for toxic masculinity. I've been quite interested in the way gender and heterosexual dynamics work in our society and read a few books about it from various perspectives and authors, like Audre Lorde, bell hooks, nonfiction about violence against women. The next step was really to hear from a male author about the issues with masculinity - depressingly relevant with the frequency of news reports of violence committed by men nowadays. Real put into words a lot of my own analysis and thoughts about masculinity and he goes further into pulling back the veil and showing exactly how men and women relate to each other in intimate relationships, in the socialization a child receives to become a man and a woman and the unique wounds they leave. I enjoyed this book tremendously.

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challenging emotional informative reflective tense medium-paced

4.0

I really enjoyed this book. I feel like I understand better why it is so hard to communicate with men in general. I do wish that not all of the cases were of a marriage between a man and a woman, though I understand that those are probably the only people visiting Terrence Real's office. I also would have hoped for more actual tips on how to get along better with men, because I didn't get any new insight on a different approach, or something to feel hopeful for.