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3.71 AVERAGE
3.71 AVERAGE
Terrible
This book blames everything on women and teaches men to be jerks. Avoid at all costs. There are more beneficial books out there.
This book blames everything on women and teaches men to be jerks. Avoid at all costs. There are more beneficial books out there.
It's been about 6 or 7 years since I read this book. So I don't remember much about it other than I liked it and was inspired by the authors story about how it took him like 10 years to write it and his wife had to threaten divorce before he got off his perfectionist ass and finished it.
I was kind of shocked to see all of the extremely negative reviews. So I decided to chuck some stars up there for the author. Four of em to be exact. ****
Here's to every guy who starts out a pussy, becomes a marital and family therapist, writes a book about being a pussy and how to be more of a dick, becomes a dick in the process, and goes on conservative talk shows to promote his book about how to become more dickish.
As it turns out, the book made this guys career fucking explode. He's on the national level now.
Pussy gone dick + book + Rush Limbaugh = Kaboom!
That's inspirational I don't care who you are!
NOTE: I actually like nice people, and I hate Rush Limbaugh. Please don't mistake this for an endorsement of anything that guy's ever done.
But I still liked this book so fuck off :-)
I was kind of shocked to see all of the extremely negative reviews. So I decided to chuck some stars up there for the author. Four of em to be exact. ****
Here's to every guy who starts out a pussy, becomes a marital and family therapist, writes a book about being a pussy and how to be more of a dick, becomes a dick in the process, and goes on conservative talk shows to promote his book about how to become more dickish.
As it turns out, the book made this guys career fucking explode. He's on the national level now.
Pussy gone dick + book + Rush Limbaugh = Kaboom!
That's inspirational I don't care who you are!
NOTE: I actually like nice people, and I hate Rush Limbaugh. Please don't mistake this for an endorsement of anything that guy's ever done.
But I still liked this book so fuck off :-)
I'm incredibly hesitant about giving this four stars and if you read this, do it not with a grain of salt but a bucket. There's some sexism here, crude stereotypes, White Male Privilege and certain issues that he brings up and doesn't provide viable solutions about handling said challenges. It's also rather simplistic at times. HOWEVER... If you can get past all of that, there's a lot of great advice and insight here for so-called Nice Guys. The advice could apply to a lot of women as well.
It's a nice book, it proposes several interesting social experiments.
It’s hard to review a book like this, it’s even harder to read it with brutal honesty.
challenging
emotional
informative
inspiring
slow-paced
I give this book a four star rating because it's definitely not one of my all time favourite books. The author is not good enough a writer for that but that is probably more my standard. I bought this book for two reasons. The first was a failing relationship. The other was something which Mark Manson said about this book in one of his books. Spoiler alert, in my reading of Mark Manson's reading of this book the attitude of "What if it's a gift?" was supposed to be central to this book but it isn't.
What the relationship is concerned, while I did read the book straight away, the relationship ended before I had finished the introduction. After that it took me two years to finish this book. To be honest, I cannot say whether I didn't find the book exciting enough or because it was actually too emotionally taxing to engage with the subject matter. I did reexamine my relationships, I do now see my parents in a different light. I look learned a lot about how father's of people in my life shaped them. There's also some good advice on values, how you spend your (free) time, finances, ... I even found a useful remark on martial arts. That's a lot... it could potentially be a life changing book. I find it hard to tell because it's been with me for so long. I guess the book just isn't my style. The author isn't super eloquent or erudite and he repeats himself too oft. He keeps talking about case studies of people the author has helped which I personally never enjoy. There's no science to back up any of what the author claims. It does make perfect sense, though. I sort of see clearly why it took me so long to read this: I either read a short paragraph and went wow. Then I put the book down to think about something fundamental and question something important or I was forcing myself through repetitions or, to me, boring case studies. I mean, it's also a bit of a course of the subject matter; once you're aware of how much havoc "nice guys" cause to themselves but particularly the women in their lives, their children, their friends, their colleagues, etc. (in short everyone and everything), you sort of lose your patience with Tim or Steve or whoever Dr. Glover introduced next. If you've already read Mark Manson's "Models" and perhaps also but less relevant to "Nice Guy Syndrome" Russell Brand's "Mentors", you'll actually already be primed to hate on these guys. I think there is some solid advice, including suggested activities, in this book for someone who wants to not be a "Nice Guy" (spoiler alert, you'll find out they are actually jerks) anymore. You'll definitely end up not liking "Nice Guys" anymore (and think whether it's you or others that they've been your secret enemy all your life). What I find the book really, really lacking, as far as memory serves, is a message along the lines of "Don't be nice, be kind". Les Carter's "When Pleasing You is Killing Me" goes a lot further in that direction I would say (though, I haven't finished that one yet because "Nice Guys" often don't finish what they start according to Dr. Glover). You can be a Ted Lasso type guy or the Dalai Lama without being a jerk inside.
What the relationship is concerned, while I did read the book straight away, the relationship ended before I had finished the introduction. After that it took me two years to finish this book. To be honest, I cannot say whether I didn't find the book exciting enough or because it was actually too emotionally taxing to engage with the subject matter. I did reexamine my relationships, I do now see my parents in a different light. I look learned a lot about how father's of people in my life shaped them. There's also some good advice on values, how you spend your (free) time, finances, ... I even found a useful remark on martial arts. That's a lot... it could potentially be a life changing book. I find it hard to tell because it's been with me for so long. I guess the book just isn't my style. The author isn't super eloquent or erudite and he repeats himself too oft. He keeps talking about case studies of people the author has helped which I personally never enjoy. There's no science to back up any of what the author claims. It does make perfect sense, though. I sort of see clearly why it took me so long to read this: I either read a short paragraph and went wow. Then I put the book down to think about something fundamental and question something important or I was forcing myself through repetitions or, to me, boring case studies. I mean, it's also a bit of a course of the subject matter; once you're aware of how much havoc "nice guys" cause to themselves but particularly the women in their lives, their children, their friends, their colleagues, etc. (in short everyone and everything), you sort of lose your patience with Tim or Steve or whoever Dr. Glover introduced next. If you've already read Mark Manson's "Models" and perhaps also but less relevant to "Nice Guy Syndrome" Russell Brand's "Mentors", you'll actually already be primed to hate on these guys. I think there is some solid advice, including suggested activities, in this book for someone who wants to not be a "Nice Guy" (spoiler alert, you'll find out they are actually jerks) anymore. You'll definitely end up not liking "Nice Guys" anymore (and think whether it's you or others that they've been your secret enemy all your life). What I find the book really, really lacking, as far as memory serves, is a message along the lines of "Don't be nice, be kind". Les Carter's "When Pleasing You is Killing Me" goes a lot further in that direction I would say (though, I haven't finished that one yet because "Nice Guys" often don't finish what they start according to Dr. Glover). You can be a Ted Lasso type guy or the Dalai Lama without being a jerk inside.
It's a really good book that tries to deal with core paradigms that have been built over ones entire lifetime
informative
slow-paced
TLDR set boundaries, make sure you're meeting your needs and those of your partner, and don't be a dick reading a sexist book