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3.04 AVERAGE
3.04 AVERAGE
Didn't think it would be better than "I Kissed Dating Goodbye".
second read:
ahh. i was rereading this, hoping to have some clarity in a relationship, but….. nothing but discouragement and nonpractical advice. don’t ever enter into a relationship until you’re ready to be married in two years or so, and then immediately approach a courtship with the prospect of marriage. women should be subject first to their fathers, then to their husbands (i understand & agree with the idea, but the wording expressed a patriarchal harshness that was just gross.)
plus, joshua harris abandoned everything he taught and walked away from his family. how credible is this legalistic theology? i agreed with much of the book, and there were some really sweet stories. i just think it’s extremely legalistic — or, i suppose, relying on the rules as a safeguard rather than on christ.
there’s no magic formula for a good relationship, much as we might wish there was.
first read:
it really showed me how saving myself for my husband is a blessing rather than something withheld. treating a boyfriend as a brother in christ allows you the freedom to walk away from that relationship with no regrets.
while i may not follow everything as strictly as joshua did, i’m definitely going to rethink my idea of dating and my accompanying standards. (:
ahh. i was rereading this, hoping to have some clarity in a relationship, but….. nothing but discouragement and nonpractical advice. don’t ever enter into a relationship until you’re ready to be married in two years or so, and then immediately approach a courtship with the prospect of marriage. women should be subject first to their fathers, then to their husbands (i understand & agree with the idea, but the wording expressed a patriarchal harshness that was just gross.)
plus, joshua harris abandoned everything he taught and walked away from his family. how credible is this legalistic theology? i agreed with much of the book, and there were some really sweet stories. i just think it’s extremely legalistic — or, i suppose, relying on the rules as a safeguard rather than on christ.
there’s no magic formula for a good relationship, much as we might wish there was.
first read:
it really showed me how saving myself for my husband is a blessing rather than something withheld. treating a boyfriend as a brother in christ allows you the freedom to walk away from that relationship with no regrets.
while i may not follow everything as strictly as joshua did, i’m definitely going to rethink my idea of dating and my accompanying standards. (:
While popular culture's take on dating needs a good Christian criteria and a strong alternative, This book's model is insufficiently nuanced and fails to understand that more is accomplished in dating than finding a partner. I found parts of this book unrealistic, with a number of romantic stories of successful courtship which are almost fairytale in nature. I feel like the author fails to recognize that most true fairy-tales are often filled with heart break, struggles, and pain. I agree with the authors assessment that we need to be more purposeful in dating relationships, but believe this book is provide just one model, where there are a number which honor God. I would suggest that his focus on courtship, dating as a way to discover if this relationship will grow into a marriage can lead to a selfish orientation and removes opportunities someone could have to grow and learn. Besides discovering if the person you are dating will become the person you marry, dating provides a context to learn to love people better which prepares you to be a good marriage partner and lets you get to know someone (which is inherently good). I have seen many examples of people who benefited from dating, even when they were not yet at a point where they were prepared to get married. There is some very good content in the section on "the season of courtship", though I think the authors understanding of gender based roles is inadequate, having been influenced too much by 1950s popular culture. A quick read of Proverbs 31 would suggest a much more active and engaged role for women. I found this book very uneven. The appendix has some good suggestions for dates that help you learn about each other's lives. Some parts I thought deserved 1-2 stars, others 4 maybe 5 stars. I would recommend as an alternative Dating and Waiting by Bill Risk and Spiritual Relationships that Last (used to be Myth of Romance) by Dennis McCallum and Gary Delashmutt. Originally I rated this book 2 stars but dropped it to 1 star as I learned how the application of this book hurt people.
This was terrible. I have a lot more thoughts on it than just "UGH BAD" but wow. This was painful to read.
This book is not just for those who wants to take a new level from kissing dating goodbye. When I was reading this, my friends were on my mind. Everything is definitely exciting if we slow down our pace when it comes to relationships. The book is just so good it gives hope to those who have been in failed relationships and makes readers (who are willing to submit) have a conviction to do right decisions before going into relationships. It provided us clear view of the earthly and Godly relationships and I can't help but say they're true to me, or my friends, or other people I know. I hope readers will open their mind and hearts as they read this. Shannon Harris is lucky to have a husband who is as honest as he is. Joshua is as lucky to have Shannon who has been an instrument of God for Joshua to be this humble.
Being single in today's world is really hard. Especially when you're Christian. I started reading these books at a time when I really needed a solid foundation in the area of personal relationships with men.
Decent enough. Nothing mind-blowing. Too anecdote dependent, but a fairly enjoyable read.
See "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" for my overall feelings about this book. In general, I will say that I appreciated, even as a high schooler, that Harris and his wife were willing to talk about the fact that she (and many other people in this world) had a sexual history, instead of pretending like all Christians come to the marriage bed lily-white virgins. Other than that, the whole idea of courtship never made any sense to me - my environment didn't allow for it (I'm happy to say I met my fiancé on EHarmony - no church I EVER went to had any kind of reasonable set up for single people) and it felt like a reaction/rejection to something I wasn't really doing anyway.
On a whole I thought this book was good. I don't particularly agree with where Joshua Harris draws the line in certain areas of courtship. However in saying that the questions and areas he discusses are good. And I think a couple reading through this and discussing it together will find that they are having conversation about the deep things that matter when considering whether to get married or to even evaluating how their courtship/dating is going. For that reason I'll give it 4 stars.
Exploring courtship versus dating in a Christian perspective. Doing something differently so I'll prayerfully get a different result...