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Pretty easy and basic but fine for what it is. It wasn't an eye opener for me but it might be an easy baby wheels intro for questioning people, baby aces and any friends or family that are just trying to understand what is going on. The jkr mentions in comments worried me but as far as i can remember they are contained in two instances.
1. Brief mention while explaining how one of the authors met her then partner.
2. (And a bit more edge case) At the very end of the book in the media section, as one of the examples when the authors were discussing viewing media critically and our opinions on media changing as we grow and our understanding of the world expands. The passage basically says that just because we know better now doesnt negate anything positive we may have gained from said media when we were younger. The passage mentions harry potter as an example in like one line. Then it adds homophobic jokes in otherwise funny sitcoms as another example. The entire rest of the section is just talking about media in general.
Harry potter is never discussed in depth and the chapter on gender plainly shows that the authors dont share any of jkrs views. Im as tired of harry potter refrences as the next queer but i dont really think this is something to doom a whole book over. I dont think that saying 'harry potter was an important part of some peoples lives in the past' or 'harry potter had a positive impact on some people' is untrue and while obviously talking about how one should figure out their own reletionship with problematic media leaves a bad taste in ones mouth when previous examples include an author that is causing active harm, that too isnt an untrue or really controversial concept in general.
I dont know the authors, i havent listend to their podcasts, i dont know if they do actually support jkr, but from purely book standpoint i found the mentions distasteful and annoying but not really harmful. Just wanted to put in the full context for anyone looking for it.
1. Brief mention while explaining how one of the authors met her then partner.
2. (And a bit more edge case) At the very end of the book in the media section, as one of the examples when the authors were discussing viewing media critically and our opinions on media changing as we grow and our understanding of the world expands. The passage basically says that just because we know better now doesnt negate anything positive we may have gained from said media when we were younger. The passage mentions harry potter as an example in like one line. Then it adds homophobic jokes in otherwise funny sitcoms as another example. The entire rest of the section is just talking about media in general.
Harry potter is never discussed in depth and the chapter on gender plainly shows that the authors dont share any of jkrs views. Im as tired of harry potter refrences as the next queer but i dont really think this is something to doom a whole book over. I dont think that saying 'harry potter was an important part of some peoples lives in the past' or 'harry potter had a positive impact on some people' is untrue and while obviously talking about how one should figure out their own reletionship with problematic media leaves a bad taste in ones mouth when previous examples include an author that is causing active harm, that too isnt an untrue or really controversial concept in general.
I dont know the authors, i havent listend to their podcasts, i dont know if they do actually support jkr, but from purely book standpoint i found the mentions distasteful and annoying but not really harmful. Just wanted to put in the full context for anyone looking for it.
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"There is nothing about you that is broken or wrong." Oh to have read those words from the final note to the reader at the end of the book back when I was in college first figuring out my identity. I wish a book like this had existed back then but I'm so glad it does now for everyone who needs to hear it.
After reading Ace by Angela Chen and as many online resources as I could find back when I first discovered asexuality, I felt like I already knew many of the terms and facts presented here. However, what Sarah and Kayla uniquely provide (although Angela Chen addresses the idea too) is the is the concept of viewing the world through an acespec lens (short for asexual/romantic spectrum). This lens, which the authors also call viewing the world through purple-colored glasses, involves de-centering sex and romance from every aspect of one's life. Why do we value spending time with romantic-sexual partners over our friends? Why is our housing system based on the assumption that you will live with a romantic-sexual partner? Etc. Definitely gave me lots to think about.
As always, I would love to read a book like this that does a deeper dive into demisexuality in particular. But I do love that the two authors each bring their own perspective into this (one is ace and one is demi) and that they include quotes from survey respondents representing a broad range of gender, sexual, and romantic identities.
After reading Ace by Angela Chen and as many online resources as I could find back when I first discovered asexuality, I felt like I already knew many of the terms and facts presented here. However, what Sarah and Kayla uniquely provide (although Angela Chen addresses the idea too) is the is the concept of viewing the world through an acespec lens (short for asexual/romantic spectrum). This lens, which the authors also call viewing the world through purple-colored glasses, involves de-centering sex and romance from every aspect of one's life. Why do we value spending time with romantic-sexual partners over our friends? Why is our housing system based on the assumption that you will live with a romantic-sexual partner? Etc. Definitely gave me lots to think about.
As always, I would love to read a book like this that does a deeper dive into demisexuality in particular. But I do love that the two authors each bring their own perspective into this (one is ace and one is demi) and that they include quotes from survey respondents representing a broad range of gender, sexual, and romantic identities.
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Well written and easy to relate to.