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onthesamepage's review
dark
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.0
I picked this up because I loved How We Met, which is the author's memoir, but her fiction didn't quite hit the mark for me. Because it's a collection of short stories, it quickly struck me that one common theme is that all her female main characters are POC and Muslim born, and the majority of them are in a romantic relationship with a non-Muslim man. Maybe this is because of the author's circumstances—some of the stories did feel like they came from a very personal place. I guess I was just hoping for more diverse stories and voices. I also noticed that she never calls the characters Muslims, or refers to Islam by name. She talks around the religion by using descriptors like "the holy book" when she clearly means the Quran. I personally dislike this because it feels like she's trying to make being Muslim more palatable to a white, Western audience.
There are a lot of common themes here, like the struggles between mothers and daughters. Some of the stories really hit the hard way—The Jammaker is a definite standout for me, but I also really liked Superstitious. I still appreciated her writing, but I'm not sure her fiction is for me.
There are a lot of common themes here, like the struggles between mothers and daughters. Some of the stories really hit the hard way—The Jammaker is a definite standout for me, but I also really liked Superstitious. I still appreciated her writing, but I'm not sure her fiction is for me.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Sexual assault, Miscarriage, Death, Infidelity, and Grief
hjb_128's review against another edition
emotional
reflective
sad
fast-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? N/A
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.25
Content Warnings
Graphic: Miscarriage, Grief, Toxic relationship, and Pregnancy
e11en's review
challenging
emotional
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Abandonment
Moderate: Infertility, Toxic friendship, Grief, Death of parent, and Miscarriage
Minor: Car accident
mooncraftbujo's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
reflective
sad
tense
fast-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
4.5
Content Warnings
Moderate: Death, Death of parent, Miscarriage, Toxic relationship, and Grief
Minor: Death, Grief, Pregnancy, Miscarriage, Infidelity, Suicidal thoughts, and Mental illness
nadia's review against another edition
emotional
reflective
medium-paced
- Strong character development? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
4.25
I really really liked this collection of stories. I just really connected with the writing and found some of the scenarios relatable or...is there a word for "you've not necessarily experienced the thing but you grok it hard"...? That.
I loved how accessible, and yet lovely, the writing was, I enjoyed the theme of love and relationships, especially cross-cultural romantic ones and those centred around motherhood, and I didn't often feel like: "I need more of this story!!" which is a common short story con for me.
My favourites were Too Much and Summer.
I loved how accessible, and yet lovely, the writing was, I enjoyed the theme of love and relationships, especially cross-cultural romantic ones and those centred around motherhood, and I didn't often feel like: "I need more of this story!!" which is a common short story con for me.
My favourites were Too Much and Summer.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Death, Grief, Miscarriage, Death of parent, and Infertility
Moderate: Infidelity
Minor: Sexual assault
serendipitysbooks's review
emotional
reflective
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? N/A
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
Things We Do Not Tell the People We Love is a gorgeous, poignant, bittersweet and quietly compelling collection of short stories. All involve relationships - between mothers and daughters, between spouses, between lovers, between friends - and the things not said and kept hidden within them. The characters, mostly young women from the UK’s Pakistani community, want nothing more than to be seen, to be heard, to be truly known. There is real emotional hurt and emotional vulnerability in the stories but they are - mostly- subtle and understated, written with a light touch. From beginning - a woman whose first crush led to a sexual assault she has kept secret for years - to end - a woman grieving her third miscarriage and folding one thousand paper cranes in the hope her baby wish will come true - I loved my time this book. It was a perfect pick for May, which is National Short Story Month.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual assault, Miscarriage, and Grief
Minor: Racism
lidia7's review against another edition
emotional
reflective
sad
tense
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? N/A
- Strong character development? N/A
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? N/A
- Flaws of characters a main focus? N/A
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Grief, Miscarriage, Sexism, Sexual assault, and Death of parent
hulkytwobelts's review against another edition
dark
emotional
reflective
sad
medium-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.0
Content Warnings
Minor: Miscarriage, Death, and Grief
yanaaxmaria's review
challenging
dark
emotional
informative
reflective
sad
fast-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? N/A
- Loveable characters? Yes
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
2.0
This book was compiled of 10 short stories, featuring a cast of predominantly women of Pakistani heritage with careers as writers or journalists. Many of these characters struggled with judgemental and overbearing mothers, patronising and unloving partners, or both.
These stories depict the experience of how constraining family life can be and how it feels to not quite fit into the norms of western culture.
I had first seen this book in July of 2021 and had been waiting to buy it since. I spotted the cover in a bookshop while travelling 2 weeks ago and immediately bought it, and to be honest, I picked it up mostly for the cover. Now, I wish I could have loved the collection as much as I hoped to.
Apart from 2 or 3 stories, I enjoyed this collection of short stories to an extent but I feel they lacked depth.
The writing in this book was simple and often felt like it was written for an English class creative writing task. This could appeal to others, but personally, I just felt like I was reading an assignment. I feel like the writing was able to tell what it needed to tell but it never went beyond that. I couldn’t find many lines or paragraphs that truly stood out to me.
The writing itself also seemed inconsistent. Some stories had a lot of realism while we experienced others that tried to be creepy or like fairytales but fall quite short of being either of those. Some stories, particularly “The Jam Maker”, struck me as random, aiming to be creepy but missing the mark. All in all, the stories didn’t particularly strike me as very original or creative.
The relationships explored in this collection were very repetitive in my opinion and it made me feel like I was reading a different version of the same story each time. Almost all of the daughters were reproachful and had a bad relationship with their mothers, they married bland white men who were wholly unaware of their privilege, and the women themselves were portrayed in a negative light, seeming moody, overly emotional, and petty. The repetitiveness of the stories made me uninterested after the fifth or sixth story. The characters, their backgrounds, the storylines, and pressure points all seemed to reoccur (stressful holidays, relationships becoming intolerable, complicated family lives, etc.).
The snippets we were given into the lives and thoughts of the characters also seemed inconsistent. For some of the short stories, I thought they ended extremely abruptly, leaving me confused and unsatisfied, particularly the second story. Other stories, I felt, dragged on for an unnecessarily long time, leaving me bored and uninterested. Mostly, I felt like they were too short to delve into enough detail to actually provide anything particularly satisfying, and a few felt more like they should be extracts from something longer rather than their own contained stories.
All things considered, I did enjoy the stories but unfortunately, a lot of them just felt a bit flat to me. The majority of my critiques are towards the writing style, the repetitiveness, and the lack of detail. The stories themselves I found interesting, I just personally don’t think Qureshi is the right author for me. I’m sure many other will read this book and be able to appreciate the writing and stories in a way I was unable to, but as of now, this definitely wasn’t a 5 star read for me.
Content Warnings
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Infertility, Miscarriage, Death, Racism, and Death of parent
Minor: Grief
linguaphile412's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
reflective
sad
slow-paced
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Content Warnings
Minor: Sexual assault, Death of parent, Miscarriage, Grief, Racism, and Infertility