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Loveless

Alice Oseman

4.26 AVERAGE

adventurous emotional funny informative reflective medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

This book had a slow start at first, but once the main character and her 2 best friends entered college to meet the rest of the cast in the book, that’s when things start rolling. It was a delight to read this from start to finish. I literally kept turning the page somewhere in between part two and three of the book because everything about the characters and exploring sexualities kept it interesting. I was happy to have found this book about asexuality and aromanticism because I had recently started to think of myself as being aromantic, so to read that Georgia was fighting great inner turmoil about this and receiving some guidance from Sunil confirmed some thoughts that I had. Enlightened, if you will. I’d have given this 5 stars but I kind of got annoyed at Georgia during some parts but I mean, she’s still a teenager.
hopeful informative reflective slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated
emotional funny inspiring lighthearted reflective medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes
emotional hopeful reflective medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes
emotional informative lighthearted reflective medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: No
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes

I’ll say it: Nothing is more relatable as an ace person than reading the panicked section where Georgia has an existential crisis (and moment of horror) upon discovering her friends actively fantasize about sleeping with other people. My college self had the same epiphany and I’ve been forever changed. (Kidding. But not really. It was a big shock. Insert that clip of the fish shouting “YOU WHAT” from the April Fools SpongeBob episode—you know what I’m talking about.)

Funny, heartfelt, and educational, Loveless feels like such a nice love letter to asexuality. It talks about the anger, confusion, and heartbreak of discovering you’re different in a way that other people can’t always understand. But it also talks about how deeply ace and aro people love, despite it not being in the conventional way. Insatiable admiration for fictional romance, deep love for friends, passion for hobbies and experiences—this book erases the sometimes assumed stigma that ace and aro folks just don’t feel affection (or just haven’t found the right person to open them up). Oseman really nicely weaves in the broadness of the spectrum—being ace but not aro, aro but not ace, and being both—which is so important for a book that may be some readers’ first look at this often-obscured identity.

More like this, please!
informative reflective medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: No
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: No
emotional hopeful reflective slow-paced
Plot or Character Driven: Character
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Complicated

This book has a lot of information and details that discerning people may or may not find relatable. So far all of Oseman’s books have been like this and I absolutely love their openness and approachability. I would highly recommend, though I did give it 4 stars just for how melancholy it’s been making me feel.
emotional funny hopeful inspiring lighthearted medium-paced
Plot or Character Driven: A mix
Strong character development: Yes
Loveable characters: Yes
Diverse cast of characters: Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus: Yes