Reviews tagging 'Toxic friendship'

On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong

21 reviews

nehaanna's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

This book rides the fine line between poetry and novel, book and art. Sometimes the line between abstract free form poetry is blurred, and the narrative runs together. But somehow the story is preserved. The premise of the book is to answer the question of a displaced Vietnamese woman - who am I? Where are we? However, the question is answered in snapshot for from the voice of her son, who writes to her in the form of letters. It is an impossible paradox - the mother does not speak or write English and did not learn enough of her native tongue to pass it down to her son. So the son, the first generation in America, is forced to converse in a foreign language. 

The journey the son, Little Dog goes through takes one through everything from domestic abuse, child abuse, bullying at school from other children, internalized misogyny, homophobia, xenophobia, racism, drug use, and death. The definitions of family, lover, friend, and more are all reassessed, reframed, readdressed. This boy longs for recognition more than anything, searching for identity in the swath of the US ravaged by cycles of poverty, abuse, drug use, and drug crises. There is freedom in telling one’s story but also an act of taking, of possession, something not afforded often to everyone equally.

In all, this is a stunning debut novel that may read as too high brow, pretentious, vulgar, or debasing to some. But that is life, is it not? That is what storytelling allows us to do. While I definitely struggled at times when the story used abstract poetry or the narrative switched timelines, I still came away from this novel knowing more language to put to experiences. Which is the greatest gift this novel can give. 

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Animal cruelty, Animal death, Body horror, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, Chronic illness, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Genocide, Gore, Gun violence, Hate crime, Homophobia, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Violence, Xenophobia, Blood, Excrement, Vomit, Medical content, Grief, Medical trauma, Car accident, Abortion, Death of parent, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Pregnancy, Cultural appropriation, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Alcohol, Sexual harassment, War, Injury/Injury detail, and Classism

Moderate: Cancer, Chronic illness, Homophobia, and Colonisation

smors101's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Such an amazing look at the life of generational trauma triggered by war through the eyes of the youngest generation. His way with words are magical. His awards absolutely deserved. 

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Animal death, Bullying, Cancer, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Hate crime, Homophobia, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Panic attacks/disorders, Racial slurs, Racism, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Medical trauma, Abortion, Death of parent, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Cultural appropriation, Toxic friendship, War, and Classism

katie_belle's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

I decided to try this book at the recommendation of a friend, and I can only describe the feeling I had while reading it as being swallowed whole. At times the main character describes himself as drowning and reading this made me feel as if I was drowning with him. He writes in such a tangible way, using everyday things to pull a memory, in the same way a smell or a song might take you back to a past experience. His thoughts aren't necessarily linear which gave the narrative a fever- dream feel at times. This book is aching and reaching, longing and regretful. But cutting through the pain are breath-giving moments of love and gentleness. Definitely a read that left me with a lot to digest and dwell on. 

---

Content Warnings

Moderate: Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Mental illness, Racial slurs, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, and Toxic friendship

perth_is's review against another edition

dark emotional sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Animal death, Bullying, Cancer, Child abuse, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Hate crime, Homophobia, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Racism, Sexual content, Violence, Grief, Toxic friendship, and Alcohol

branson03's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

5.0

A lovely and eloquent read. 

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Animal death, Bullying, Cancer, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Hate crime, Homophobia, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, Excrement, Dementia, Grief, Car accident, Abortion, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, Fire/Fire injury, Toxic friendship, Colonisation, and War

emrosch's review against another edition

dark emotional sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? N/A
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

Hauntingly beautiful & raw with emotion.

---

Content Warnings

Moderate: Addiction, Cancer, Child abuse, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Homophobia, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexual violence, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Xenophobia, Grief, Abortion, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Toxic friendship, and War

tessa52's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Animal cruelty, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Homophobia, Miscarriage, Racism, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Excrement, Dementia, Medical trauma, Car accident, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Toxic friendship, and War

arainey's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.5

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Animal cruelty, Animal death, Cancer, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Racism, Toxic relationship, Violence, Blood, Grief, Abortion, Toxic friendship, War, and Injury/Injury detail

Minor: Dementia and Car accident

pastelmeganes's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional inspiring reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

Ocean Vuong is a brilliant poet and you can see it in his writing. There are so many good quotes from this book and his perspective and reflection on his Vietnamese identity and how that intersects with his status as a first generation child of a poor single mother as well as his struggles with his sexuality are conveyed with such thought provoking idioms, metaphors and similes that it requires you to try and encapsulate the true feelings he is trying to convey to his mother. He paints such vivid images with his mastery of the english language. His work envoked many emotions within me that i never reflected on. I would adore reading another book by him; I know he writes poems mainly but his work here was just so breathtaking and tantalizing and left me craving either another memoire in the future about his life again OR a work of fiction. This book was so simple gorgeous.

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Child abuse, Cursing, Drug abuse, Drug use, Homophobia, Racism, Grief, Abortion, and War

Moderate: Bullying, Cancer, Emotional abuse, Xenophobia, Dementia, Death of parent, Toxic friendship, and Alcohol

Minor: Genocide

nlammata's review against another edition

dark emotional sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

---

Content Warnings

Graphic: Addiction, Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, Racial slurs, Sexual content, Violence, Death of parent, and Toxic friendship