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vixenreader's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Abandonment, Alcohol, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Misogyny, Bullying, Toxic friendship, Lesbophobia, Dysphoria, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, Outing, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Body shaming, Child abuse, Cursing, Deadnaming, and Sexism
Moderate: Death, Medical content, Mental illness, Suicidal thoughts, Homophobia, Cancer, Stalking, Fire/Fire injury, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Pedophilia, and Pregnancy
Minor: Self harm, Drug use, Medical trauma, Pandemic/Epidemic, Biphobia, Alcoholism, Violence, Blood, Classism, and Drug abuse
Be aware that there are themes of parental neglect, rejecting a trans child, bi-erasure, putting actors in harm’s way, the influence of the internet, tension within unhealthy relationships, unhealthy polyamory, heartbreak, threats towards trans and queer folks, nudity in film, erasure of queer identity, and being forced back into the closet.nad_books623's review against another edition
4.0
This book would be 5 stars if the timeline wasn’t so confusing. I had to constantly go back or think about the timeline. Due to Elliot mentioning something where he’s 10 for example and then when he’s 33. If it was in chronological order I think it would be easier to piece together.
Graphic: Dysphoria, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Emotional abuse, Abandonment, Bullying, Eating disorder, Lesbophobia, Self harm, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Child abuse, and Transphobia
Moderate: Misogyny and Mental illness
Minor: Adult/minor relationship, Cancer, Pandemic/Epidemic, Stalking, and Vomit
phouka's review against another edition
3.25
Graphic: Lesbophobia, Dysphoria, Deadnaming, Eating disorder, Hate crime, Child death, Homophobia, Stalking, Transphobia, Child abuse, and Sexual content
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Suicide, Drug use, Medical content, Body shaming, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Violence, Bullying, Car accident, and Rape
Minor: Pedophilia, Religious bigotry, Panic attacks/disorders, Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Blood, Abandonment, Alcohol, Cancer, Self harm, Sexism, Mental illness, and Pandemic/Epidemic
stevia333k's review against another edition
4.25
Anyways, after a while certain parts about being trans were like oh good my transfemme self isn't alone.
The relationships though & the shadow work kinda went over my head because I'm aromantic but the workplace accident (because of how wreckless the directors were to black & queer lives) helped connect me to the kind of stuff he meant, so I am thankful he included workplace incidents like that.
Also the memoir isn't told as chronologically, so basically if you're taking notes then I recommend trying to make a character list sort of glossary since the time dimension doesn't sort them, but some segments are like public letters.
Graphic: Homophobia, Adult/minor relationship, Terminal illness, Dysphoria, Kidnapping, Medical content, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Rape, Toxic relationship, Vomit, War, Medical trauma, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Racism, Sexism, Confinement, Death, Body shaming, Gaslighting, Xenophobia, Fire/Fire injury, Infidelity, Cancer, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Stalking, Torture, Violence, Blood, Hate crime, Sexual content, Transphobia, Bullying, Child abuse, Child death, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Animal death, Injury/Injury detail, Murder, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexual harassment, Suicidal thoughts, Lesbophobia, Religious bigotry, Car accident, Gore, Grief, Body horror, Pandemic/Epidemic, and Self harm
usuallyaudio's review against another edition
4.25
The timeline jumped around somewhat, and only once was I unsure when a story was taking place. I am so happy for Page that he felt safe, secure and confident enough to share his story, but am so sorry he had to go through as much as he did. Page also graciously acknowledged his privilege, and how it helped him quickly receive medical/gender affirming care once he was finally ready to reach for it. I hope this memoir can help others feel seen, and can help to create safer spaces and foster healthy relationships. I really look forward to what he will do next!
Graphic: Bullying, Eating disorder, Lesbophobia, Homophobia, Dysphoria, Transphobia, and Mental illness
Moderate: Vomit, Sexual content, Pandemic/Epidemic, Self harm, Medical content, Alcohol, Excrement, Emotional abuse, and Stalking
Minor: Vomit, Addiction, Gaslighting, Panic attacks/disorders, Child death, Confinement, Sexism, Violence, Sexual violence, Adult/minor relationship, Religious bigotry, Alcoholism, Drug use, Gore, Outing, Cancer, Deadnaming, Suicidal thoughts, Blood, Child abuse, Car accident, and Pedophilia
hollalorenz's review against another edition
3.5
Graphic: Cancer, Deadnaming, Mental illness, Pandemic/Epidemic, Drug use, Bullying, Dysphoria, and Rape
tigger89's review against another edition
4.5
As far as the queer memoir side of things go, this was a satisfying, illuminating read. Obviously Page's experience isn't everybody's experience. He admits that he's privileged in many ways, but he isn't ashamed — nor should he be — in recounting his lived experiences. I was particularly interested in his depiction of life as a closeted queer person, secretly dating women while working in the film industry, as well as how his childhood experiences shaped how he interacted with the world as an adult. I would caution readers that there are many passages — particular pertaining to sexual assault and gender dysphoria — that read as incompletely-processed trauma. There's not a lot of shielding on the emotions. Page provides content warnings at the front of the book, so please, take them seriously.
For the celebrity side of things, I don't really feel qualified to judge. I primarily know Page from his activism, and also I watched Juno. So mostly I was interested in how the celebrity stuff interacted with the queer stuff, and all the names just washed over me. The experience worked for me, but I can also understand someone who might want more anchoring being frustrated at the lack of explanation of who most of these people were. And of course there was the obligatory discretion, where "a member of crew" or "an acquaintance" did horrible things. I have no idea who those people were. In a way, the facelessness works. They could be anybody and we wouldn't know, which is the reality, since we know the list of people who have faced consequences for their behavior is woefully limited.
I personally loved the nonlinear format. The chapters are each gathered around a theme, concept, or state of mind, though it's not always obvious when you start off. Sometimes I had to flip back through, looking at the chapter title, before I spotted the connection and understood why the things were arranged the way they were. Another thing that will bother some people is Page's writing style. He frequently emphasizes or describes by stringing together several short sentence fragments. Distinct, painting a picture, individually striking. While Page is guilty of blatant comma abuse, I actually liked it. But I completely understand why it made some readers' skin crawl.
Important question time: do the dogs die?
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, Stalking, Child abuse, Homophobia, Eating disorder, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Self harm, and Transphobia
Moderate: Car accident, Alcohol, Cancer, and Outing
Minor: Pandemic/Epidemic, Pregnancy, and Animal death
beatingaroundthebooks's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Homophobia, Injury/Injury detail, Lesbophobia, Misogyny, Sexual harassment, Sexual content, Stalking, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Bullying, Transphobia, Drug use, Eating disorder, and Cursing
Moderate: Alcohol, Cancer, Medical content, Suicidal thoughts, Sexual violence, Sexism, Self harm, Panic attacks/disorders, and Misogyny
Minor: Deadnaming, Death of parent, and Racism
julesadventurezone's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Medical content, Self harm, Sexual content, Bullying, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Injury/Injury detail, Rape, Religious bigotry, Violence, Vomit, Dysphoria, Hate crime, Alcohol, Blood, Body shaming, Deadnaming, Excrement, Sexual violence, Stalking, Suicidal thoughts, Transphobia, Child abuse, Drug use, and Mental illness
Moderate: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Animal death, Body shaming, Pedophilia, Bullying, Misogyny, and Sexism
Minor: Car accident, Lesbophobia, Murder, Gaslighting, Infidelity, Pregnancy, Classism, Torture, Xenophobia, Colonisation, Confinement, Toxic friendship, Cancer, Child death, Drug abuse, War, and Schizophrenia/Psychosis
chasingpages1's review against another edition
3.75
Graphic: Body shaming, Medical content, Misogyny, Stalking, Sexual harassment, Suicidal thoughts, Transphobia, Lesbophobia, Self harm, Sexism, Sexual content, Homophobia, Eating disorder, Adult/minor relationship, and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Panic attacks/disorders, Bullying, Religious bigotry, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Emotional abuse, Excrement, Hate crime, Child abuse, and Fatphobia
Minor: Drug use, Death, Alcohol, Cancer, Car accident, Outing, Vomit, Pandemic/Epidemic, Alcoholism, Cursing, Deadnaming, and Drug abuse