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134 reviews for:
I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
Michael S. Sorensen
4.03 AVERAGE
134 reviews for:
I Hear You: The Surprisingly Simple Skill Behind Extraordinary Relationships
Michael S. Sorensen
4.03 AVERAGE
Everything in this book makes perfect sense and all adults should know it - I did not. Strongly suggested quick read.
I liked this but felt it could have been quite a bit shorter.
This was a simple, straightforward book on validation and it is well worth reading. The author points out that he could have made the book long, by adding anecdotes and extraneous discussions, but he wanted to keep it short so that it would be easily read and easy to come back to and go through again, for this I am grateful. One of my major complaints about self-help type books is that they take a concept that could be handled in pamphlet length, and purposefully expand it to book length for no other reason than to sell books! This Mr. Sorensen does not do.
Most of us, myself included, are better talkers than listeners and consequently we give little effort to, and do not really understand, validation. Mr. Sorensen walks the reader carefully through what validation is, four steps to validate in any situation, and then gives practical examples of what validation might look like.
I think this book would be great for couples in terms of communication, and also for any interpersonal relationships, like work, family, church, etc. While we are not generally great listeners, we do all want to be heard, and this is the point of validation.
Can you validate someone while not agreeing with them? Read the book and find out.
Most of us, myself included, are better talkers than listeners and consequently we give little effort to, and do not really understand, validation. Mr. Sorensen walks the reader carefully through what validation is, four steps to validate in any situation, and then gives practical examples of what validation might look like.
I think this book would be great for couples in terms of communication, and also for any interpersonal relationships, like work, family, church, etc. While we are not generally great listeners, we do all want to be heard, and this is the point of validation.
Can you validate someone while not agreeing with them? Read the book and find out.
I Hear You is about the importance of validating the feelings of others and how to do it, regardless of whether or not you agree with them. Nothing profound here, but interesting. Worth the short read.
A good overview of how to be more empathetic and how to validate others.
Every mansplainer in the world needs to read this book.
Every mansplainer in the world needs to read this book.
informative
reflective
fast-paced
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
Description
I hear you is a short introduction to achieving connection and improving communication through validation.
It offers a 4 step approach to opening up conversation and meeting people where they are, while still being assertive in your own viewpoint.
Concerns
At first I felt that the examples where too kind to the author and didn't really address more difficult situations.
I found it hard to distinguish this form of validation from basic lipservice. But as the book progresses it does teach you how to validate the other person and meeting them in what you can relate to or understand while still maintaining your own stance as well.
Strengths
It is short. It is easily followed and interesting with examples given. It is concrete in it's advice and explains the background for why that advice is given.
Conclusion
I believe that following type advice laid out in this book will give you more opportunities for empathy and getting to know the people around you. People are more likely to listen to people they respect and from whom they feel heard. So this book will also allow you to influence others more effectively.
I hear you is a short introduction to achieving connection and improving communication through validation.
It offers a 4 step approach to opening up conversation and meeting people where they are, while still being assertive in your own viewpoint.
Concerns
At first I felt that the examples where too kind to the author and didn't really address more difficult situations.
I found it hard to distinguish this form of validation from basic lipservice. But as the book progresses it does teach you how to validate the other person and meeting them in what you can relate to or understand while still maintaining your own stance as well.
Strengths
It is short. It is easily followed and interesting with examples given. It is concrete in it's advice and explains the background for why that advice is given.
Conclusion
I believe that following type advice laid out in this book will give you more opportunities for empathy and getting to know the people around you. People are more likely to listen to people they respect and from whom they feel heard. So this book will also allow you to influence others more effectively.
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced