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14 reviews for:
The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to Do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life
Jo Robinson, Patricia Love
4.0 AVERAGE
14 reviews for:
The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to Do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life
Jo Robinson, Patricia Love
4.0 AVERAGE
I kind of hate the terms emotional incest/covert incest, but what are you gonna do. It's a real thing that I wish more people knew about since I think it's really prevalent and often hard for those people who have experienced it to identify it. A really great article that I'd recommend to anyone who wants to know more is Parentification: The Child Who Is Forced to Become His Parent's Crutch
challenging
informative
More of a 3.5. The exercises in part 2 wouldn't quite work for me as my family dynamics are really complicated. But, I do feel validated knowing my mixed feelings about my childhood make sense.
It got to the point where I wasn’t ready to move on and I want to go back to it in the future but right now it’s not something that I can really work on. It’s good to know some of the stuff in there but also I can’t really focus on healing from it just yet. I think I need to wait a few more years.
informative
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
To Love, emotional incest is not an inevitable consequence of the family structure but that structure thrown out of balance. This balance just so happens to be two successfully married parents who instill a healthy respect for hierarchy and authority in least two children—the hegemonic form in Love's society. Without the ability to imagine alternatives, Dr. Love prescribes appropriate libidinal flows to the treat the symptoms of enmeshment. The genuinely valuable parts of this book (your mileage will certainly vary) are bounded by this commitment to family ties.
In general, abuse and trauma literature needs to be mined for insights that can be re-situated in a family abolition politic.
In general, abuse and trauma literature needs to be mined for insights that can be re-situated in a family abolition politic.
No one wants to have this book recommended to them, but when your therapist assigns you homework, you do it. After reading this book I was able to label some of my uncomfy feelings better, and find good talking points to say what I needed to say to my family.
A painful book to read and work through, but I found most exercises very helpful. I don’t love some of the language used; it is almost aggressively heteronormative at times.
Well...
This is awkward.
Boy am I glad that most of you don't know me IRL. For those of you who do - don't worry. It's just me trying to figure out what's wrong with me, how that relates to family, and if this is even the case (which there are several reasons both strongly for and against that theory.)
TLDR: I'm not in danger or any other such nonsense. I'm just lost and trying to find my way.
pray for me, will ya?
This is awkward.
Boy am I glad that most of you don't know me IRL. For those of you who do - don't worry. It's just me trying to figure out what's wrong with me, how that relates to family, and if this is even the case (which there are several reasons both strongly for and against that theory.)
TLDR: I'm not in danger or any other such nonsense. I'm just lost and trying to find my way.
pray for me, will ya?