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The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps by Melissa Orlov
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emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
4.25
This book may be 14 years old, but it was so helpful and informative. This is the kind of ADHD book I was looking for. I checked this book out from the library, but I'll be getting my own copy. As a non-ADHD person, it was incredibly validating and gave me a lot to think about.
What I loved the most about this is that it gave the perspectives of an ADHD person and a non-ADHD person. It gave advice, actions, phrases to try, and ways to work together (for both ADHD and non-ADHD). Reading the various personal stories was really validating, especially in the second part. Without getting too much into my personal life, we're going through a lot of the scenarios that other couples currently have/had. I want to stress that this is does not have to be a book you read when your relationship is rocky. I wish I had this book earlier so I had realized how ADHD was/is affecting us, it explained so much. I think this book should be read to recognize the signs and symptoms a person may have and how that will affect your relationship. I would go so far as to say that this book is focused on marriage, but it has advice that could be applied to other relationships in your life.
Obviously, ADHD affects each person differently and some people might not exhibit the same symptoms as others. I think it's also helpful to recognize that everyone is dealing with different things. Like they could have a dual diagnosis that affects their ADHD.
I'm docking a little because I think the layout and writing could be more accessible to people with ADHD so they can read it easier. My partner would benefit from shorter chunks of text.
Another thing is that the hypothetical couples she uses as examples are heteronormative (using he/she pronouns to describe couples). I think there was one gay couple the author labeled. I did appreciate that she switched the couple dynamics here and there, where the woman would have ADHD sometimes. I think it's really common to assume the husband has ADHD.
I think the reviews are mixed because everyone needs and wants something different out of a self-help book. There's definitely flaws in it, but the core of the book, the information about ADHD in relationships is solid.
The book is separated in three parts: Understanding ADHD in Your Marriage, Rebuilding Your Relationship in Six Steps, and Worksheets & Tools. There's also a list of resources and index.
What I loved the most about this is that it gave the perspectives of an ADHD person and a non-ADHD person. It gave advice, actions, phrases to try, and ways to work together (for both ADHD and non-ADHD). Reading the various personal stories was really validating, especially in the second part. Without getting too much into my personal life, we're going through a lot of the scenarios that other couples currently have/had. I want to stress that this is does not have to be a book you read when your relationship is rocky. I wish I had this book earlier so I had realized how ADHD was/is affecting us, it explained so much. I think this book should be read to recognize the signs and symptoms a person may have and how that will affect your relationship. I would go so far as to say that this book is focused on marriage, but it has advice that could be applied to other relationships in your life.
Obviously, ADHD affects each person differently and some people might not exhibit the same symptoms as others. I think it's also helpful to recognize that everyone is dealing with different things. Like they could have a dual diagnosis that affects their ADHD.
I'm docking a little because I think the layout and writing could be more accessible to people with ADHD so they can read it easier. My partner would benefit from shorter chunks of text.
Another thing is that the hypothetical couples she uses as examples are heteronormative (using he/she pronouns to describe couples). I think there was one gay couple the author labeled. I did appreciate that she switched the couple dynamics here and there, where the woman would have ADHD sometimes. I think it's really common to assume the husband has ADHD.
I think the reviews are mixed because everyone needs and wants something different out of a self-help book. There's definitely flaws in it, but the core of the book, the information about ADHD in relationships is solid.
The book is separated in three parts: Understanding ADHD in Your Marriage, Rebuilding Your Relationship in Six Steps, and Worksheets & Tools. There's also a list of resources and index.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Mental illness
Moderate: Infidelity
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