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ohsunnyaa's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
inspiring
reflective
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5.0
"You are not a statistic or a stereotype, so when they minimize you, dehumanize you, objectify you, you must push back with your whole weight, with your lifetime of experiences. To the faceless, the ones who remain anonymous. We each have a name. You have taught me to be proud of mine."
No other book has ever moved me like this one did. I cried so many times. I felt pain. I was angry. It broke my heart. But I was also moved: by Chanel and her strength, by her small and big victories, how she didn't give up even when she felt hopeless, how she still saw good in people and by the people that stood with her.
"The place to be remembered is not where I was assaulted, but where he fell, where I was saved, where two men declared stop, no more, not here, not now, not ever."
Everyone needs to read this. Everyone needs to learn how much suffering is caused by a broken justice system, that favors criminals and silences victims. The system that is supposed to help, but forces the
victims to relive the most painful moments of their lives instead.
"We don’t fight for our own happy endings. We fight to say you can’t. We fight for accountability. We fight to establish precedent. We fight because we pray we’ll be the last ones to feel this kind of pain."
When I hear about sexual assault cases, it makes me sick how the rapist is treated like a poor boy that got his life ruined, while the victim is the one "ruining him". Why does he get to have "brilliant" written next to his name? Why is his victim denied humanity? Why is the victim reduced to what happened to her, while the rapist happily lists his lifetime accomplishments? "You made me a victim" The rapist creates the victim, not the other way around.
"Oh but his reputation! That's really where he suffers. My advice is, if he's worried about his reputation, don't rape anyone."
To Chanel: I know your name. I know your pain. You are not 'just a victim', you are so much more. I heard your voice and I will remember your words. Thank you.
"And finally, to girls everywhere, I am with you. On nights when you feel alone, I am with you. When people doubt you or dismiss you, I am with you. I fought everyday for you. So never stop fighting, I believe you."
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Graphic: Rape and Sexual assault
danikaye13's review against another edition
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5.0
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Graphic: Rape and Sexual assault
vanessamex's review against another edition
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5.0
Prepare for your heart strings to be rugged at. Chanel's telling of her story and how her life was uprooted is incredible. Wonderful writing and even more powerful and thought provoking content.
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Graphic: Rape
bloomingbookworm's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
sad
5.0
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Graphic: Violence, Rape, Alcohol, Suicide, and Sexual violence
Moderate: Police brutality, Gun violence, Mass/school shootings, Suicidal thoughts, Death, and Murder
Minor: Blood and Vomit
mimo_'s review against another edition
4.5
its hard to review a memoir bc its not just a made up story but smn that actually happened and i dont want to discount her experience but i will say i liked her writing and how she goes through everything that happened to her and the effects of it
i did leave a lot of rants in a buddy read and i did end up googling the case and reading the entire wiki page jdsjxndnxn
i did leave a lot of rants in a buddy read and i did end up googling the case and reading the entire wiki page jdsjxndnxn
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Graphic: Injury/Injury detail, Blood, Grief, Gaslighting, Sexual violence, Panic attacks/disorders, Alcohol, Misogyny, Sexual assault, Rape, Sexual harassment, Medical content, Sexual content, and Mental illness
justagirlwithbooks's review against another edition
4.75
“We don’t fight for our own happy endings. We fight to say you can’t. We fight for accountability. We fight to establish precedent. We fight because we pray we’ll be the last ones to feel this kind of pain.”
I honestly have no words. This is a phenomenal book. But, it is quite heavy as well, due to Miller's narrative style and the subject matter. I listened to this as an audiobook and the experience was something else. I only have one quote highlighted here, but there are so many others that I could have used. This book made me angry, frustrated, sad, disgusted, and also happy for so many reasons. The suffering that victims experience is unimaginable. The justice system that perpetuates this is also absolutely disgusting and it needs to change. If more people speak out, and write stories that need to be told, it just might do that.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Rape
Moderate: Cursing
wiebke_0603's review against another edition
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dark
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reflective
sad
fast-paced
5.0
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Graphic: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Rape, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Panic attacks/disorders, and Gun violence
Moderate: Suicide
jessicavaldez1115's review against another edition
4.25
Content Warnings
Graphic: Rape and Sexual assault
blizzardinsummer's review against another edition
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5.0
Thank you, Chanel, for sharing your story and standing up for fellow survivors of sexual assault. Your words are powerful. You are powerful.
This was one of the most heart wrenching and beautifully written memoirs I’ve read. It’s a must read for everyone, especially survivors and people who know a survivor, and trust me, even if you don’t think you know one, you likely do, they just haven’t shared that part of their lives with you.
And if you are a survivor yourself, know that you are not alone. Chanel is with you. I am with you. All of us are with you.
This was one of the most heart wrenching and beautifully written memoirs I’ve read. It’s a must read for everyone, especially survivors and people who know a survivor, and trust me, even if you don’t think you know one, you likely do, they just haven’t shared that part of their lives with you.
And if you are a survivor yourself, know that you are not alone. Chanel is with you. I am with you. All of us are with you.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Sexual harassment, Rape, Sexual violence, and Sexual assault
Moderate: Mass/school shootings and Suicide
Minor: Racism and Suicidal thoughts
ninahuynh's review against another edition
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5.0
Chanel Miller is such a great storyteller. I remember when this case broke in the news. I did not realize the incident happened just months before I myself attended college! Hearing Miller tell us her story, displaying her anger, frustration, sadness, numbness, loneliness, hopelessness really brought power to her story, especially in Emily Doe's Victim Impact Statement at the end of the book.
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Graphic: Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Alcohol, Blood, Gaslighting, Sexual assault, Grief, Rape, and Medical trauma