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How to Pronounce Knife by Souvankham Thammavongsa

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_forestofpages's review

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challenging dark emotional informative reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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blackcatkai's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.5

CW: racism, classism, abandonment, sexual content, grief, death, sexism, body shaming, implied infidelity, mentions of sexual assault

a short story collection about the immigrant experience of multiple characters from laos to canada. some are sweet, others heartbreaking, all of them are pretty great looks into culture, family, and belonging (or the search of them). i like the way thammavongsa writes and will probably be reading more of her work in the future. some stories felt a bit cut off, ending at points that felt like there should be more, but i'd recommend this to anyone who enjoys more emotional short story collections or slice of life character driven narratives.

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javafenn's review against another edition

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Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? No
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

I spent several weeks thinking about what to say about this book and I still can’t find the words. The stories were good but they almost felt like they were void of any hope and only meant to exploit trauma. It felt as if it was something to shock but nothing more. Not all of it was like that but it felt like a lot of it was.

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kelly_e's review against another edition

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Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.75

Title: How to Pronounce Knife
Author: Souvankham Thammavongsa
Genre: Short Stories
Rating: 3.75
Pub Date: April 7, 2020

T H R E E • W O R D S

Touching • Illuminating • Fierce

📖 S Y N O P S I S

How to Pronounce Knife combines 14 short stories following both immigrant and refugees trying to make their way in a new world. From language barriers to struggling to make a living this collection illuminates their hopes, disappointments, love affairs, acts of defiance and above all their pursuit of a place to belong.

💭 T H O U G H T S

I first heard about this collection of short stories after in won the Scotiabank Giller Prize (2020). Short stories aren't something I read often, yet something I'd like to explore on a more frequent basis, and this collection was an excellent place to start.

Each story has its place within the collection and they all opened my eyes to an immigrant experience I've never experienced personally. The intimate prose captured my attention and held it through each of the stories. At times I did want more from some of them. They made me stop and think about what it must be like to leave behind everything you know (oftentimes even family), and to find yourself in a place completely foreign to you.

The stories offered a mixture of humour and reality oftentimes making me feel sad and uncomfortable. It explores a wide array of topics including poverty and linguistic boundaries, community and culture, familial relationships and what it's like navigating new places. And because there is no real sense of place, this collection came across as feeling entirely universal.

How to Pronounce Knife is certainly worth picking up for the incredible writing alone, yet you are also likely to come away changed by each of the unique characters. None of the stories had that 'wow' factor, yet as a whole they speak volumes. I'll definitely be keeping my eye on this hugely talented writer going forward.

📚 R E C O M M E N D • T O
• readers wanting to learn more about the immigrant/refugee experience
• fans of the short story

🔖 F A V O U R I T E • Q U O T E S

"To know someone's dislikes was to be close to them."

"We lose each other, or the way we know each other gets lost."

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vihi_s's review against another edition

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emotional reflective sad fast-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

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dalmavatai's review

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dark reflective tense medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.0

This is a very poignant collection of short stories - some of them were really interesting both conceptually and as the story unfolded, but many of them didn't work for me because they were confusing as to their intent. This isn't really a fault of the book though, I think it did everything it set out to do, I am just a reader who prefers when I can understand clearly the goal and intent behind a story. Would recommend if you like literary fiction and can enjoy stories without understanding everything about them. My favorites in here are Slingshot, Randy Travis, Mani Pedi, Chick-a-Chee, and Ewwrrrkk - the second half didn't work for me as much as the first half.

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thewordsdevourer's review

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reflective sad medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Loveable characters? It's complicated
Diverse cast of characters? Yes

3.5

this collection of short stories reads like a much needed addition to the canon of american classics, one thats reflective of the diversity of current society, from a group of ppl whose voice's rarely heard.

how to pronounce knife reminds me of lucia berlin's stories in all the best ways w/ its subtle melancholy and humor, quick reversals, and tales of the marginalized's many struggles. i like how some of the stories defy social norms and taboos (slingshot and ewwrrrkk in particular), and many dont pan out the way i expected them to.

i also enjoy reading abt laotians of every kind, abt how life turns out for them after the supposed HEA of their successful refugee journeys across the sea or sky. sure, america offers them a new home, but it's def not an easy one, a new reality w/ racism, discrimination, scorn, and indifference from others.

overall, this is a reflective, quiet, bittersweet yet revealing book that is an undoubtedly good read.

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queer_bookwyrm's review against another edition

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emotional reflective medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? Character
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? No

4.0

4 ⭐ CW: inappropriate workplace relationships, sex, boxing, death of a parent, anti-asian hate

How to Pronounce Knife by Souvankham Thammavongza is a short story collection depicting Laotion immigrants and refugees in daily life. This was a great short read, and a nice break from the Asian inspired fantasy I usually read. It was nice to get the refugee/immigrant perspective.

I loved how unexpected some of the characters are. Thammavangsa writes from the perspective of a seven year old child, a young woman, and old woman, an ex-boxer turned nail salon tech, and a woman obsessed with a country music singer. Each story is unique, but carries the same themes of not fitting in, loneliness, and hopelessness. Don't let that fool you into thinking this is a downer of a read, there was plenty in this that made me smile.

My favorite stories were Slingshot, a story about 70 year old woman who starts a sexual relationship with her 35 year old neighbor; Chick-a-Chee, a story about young immigrant kids going trick-or-treating for the first time; and Mani Pedi, a story about an ex-boxer who starts working at his sister's nail salon and becomes quite popular.

These were a nice look into immigrant life and the unique difficulties they face, but ultimately, these are stories about people's lives and families, the dramatic and the mundane.

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emotional reflective medium-paced

Plot- or character-driven? A mix
Strong character development? It's complicated
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

I loved the title of this collection from the moment I first read it. I remember, even as a native English speaker, not even getting a clear explanation for words like knife (or pterodactyl!) and those ridiculously unnecessary silent letters. And then after studying multiple languages throughout college (including Arabic, Russian, Chinese and, of course, Spanish), it really came home to roost in how complicated these weird lingual tics are for second-language speakers, so matter how hard one tries. Anyways, the title alone made me want to read it, even though I’m not always a short story person. So, I kept it on the back burner til I was ready for that type of reading experience. Plus, I have never (to my knowledge) read anything by a Laotian author, and I always love expanding my reading horizon in this way.

On the whole, this collection seems to pull from memories or experiences or stories that Thammavongsa herself may have had or heard, as a Laotian born in a refugee camp in Thailand and then raised for the most part in Toronto. I’ll give my overall thoughts at the end (so feel free to skip there if you want), but in between I have done my customary jot-down-quick-reactions/thoughts-on-each-story-for-posterity style review. So that’ll come first:

How to Pronounce Knife – An extra short story with an extra big punch to open us up. This titular tells of a child whose father’s lack of knowledge about the silent “k” in knife makes her question, at an incredibly young age, how much more there is to the world that he doesn’t know, how much she’ll have to learn on her own. Ooof – feels.

Paris – Not sure what the title has to do with this one, but it’s a understated rumination on how the effort to be beautiful, based on arbitrary standards of whatever society/eyes hold power, is often more a burden than a boon. However, there’s a lovely message, too, about the burdens of loneliness that come from not having it, even as one accepts that reality. “To know someone’s dislikes was to be close to them.”

Slingshot – A ships passing in the night sort of romance, a fling as one person’s life is closing and another’s is only partway through. The way two people who only overlap for moments can have lasting impacts on each other’s lives. And a gorgeous commentary on how really living has no age limit. “ You can do that with a joke, hide how you feel and mean what you say at the same time, and no one will ask you which it is.” / “Old is a thing that happens on the outside. A thing other people see about us.”

Randy Travis – There was a subtle power to this story, the family at its center brought to life in their own quiet way. Mournful and yearning, tender and sweet, a portrait of people doing their best to live, grabbing onto whatever hope they can, in a place that is both home and not. “People die sometimes, and there doesn’t have to be a reason why. That’s just the way life is.”

Mani Pedi – A very interesting juxtaposition in this story: boxing, which makes the outside ugly but can leave the inside in a better place, and working at a nail salon, where the outside is beautified but the inside can remain ugly. There’s musing about the way that is the same for people, and the way different people react to the promise, or lack thereof, of hopes and dreams. Touching brother and sister relationship here too. “That I can dream at all means something to me.” / “Hope […] meant it wasn’t there for you, whatever it was you were looking for.”

Chick-A-Chee! – The sweetest little story about two young siblings getting dressed up and going trick-or-treating. Nothing extraordinary here, but so tender in the way it gives the reader a chance to see such “normal” traditions from new eyes, eyes that have never experienced it before.

The Universe Would Be So Cruel – This one hits the reader with some bittersweet emotions on the reality of love, the way it can be cruel and the way it does whatever it can to protect. Also, I loved all the little details about Lao lettering and superstitions related to wedding invitations. “…sometimes what felt like love only felt like love and wasn’t real.”

Edge of the World – A sad one about the way being a refugee, the things one experiences in the “life before” can affect a person. And the way it can create a gulf between one and the people in the “new” life, in this case, a mother and their child/family. “To lose your love, to be abandoned by your wife was a thing of luxury even – it meant you were alive.”

The School Bus Driver – Oh wow, this one is the type of quietly sad that really hurts to read. And another example, this time a couple, being pulled apart by the experiences in a country foreign to them both and the actions they each take (or don’t take).

You Are So Embarrassing – This is like, the opposite of Edge of the World, the gulf between two people after immigration, but from the mother’s perspective this time. But with the added tension of normal teenage pulling away, it’s a gulf that where just one of those two obstacles could have been overcome with time, perhaps both cannot. Heartstring-jerking story. “When you’re a mother, you create a life and then you watch it go on its own way. It’s what you hope for, and want, but when it happens, it happens without you.”

Ewwrrrk – Ahhhh the no-filter wisdom of grandparents and great-grandparents. Hilarious in its special way. And then a closing paragraph takes pops the sweet bubble the rest of the story created, when the “you’ll see” snark of a grandmother’s insight/prediction is shattered in an extra unfulfilling way.

The Gas Station – Whoa. This one was weird. Kinda grotesque, but also kinda awesomely feminist, and a bit of a unique take on finding what you need where you can get it. I don’t know. It had a bit of a different feel from a lot of the other stories, so maybe that’s why I’m feeling like I didn’t like it as much. But also, it shocks you out of the comfort of the collection, so that makes it stand out even more. “What was the difference between someone who lied about love and someone who didn’t love you? Nothing.”

A Far Distant Thing – This story perfectly captures that childhood feeling of having that one perfectly best friend, and the way that life generally leads to you growing apart, but you know you can always look back on what was with the rose-colored glasses of nostalgia. Just, a spectacular rumination on that nearly universal experience.

Picking Worms – What a closing story! Loved the thematic juxtaposition of a real, legit worms and the euphemistic human kind. Insight into a job/industry that I had no idea existed (or why…all I can think of is fishhook bait?). And the emotional impact of such a clear example of the patriarchy/white supremacy/western superiority complex in action to the always-diminished immigrant/refugee/brown-skinned person.

In reading blurbs and other reviews of this collection, I have to agree with the majority opinion. While these stories appear understated on the surface, there is a deep well of emotional power behind them. They bring the insides of life, the things we don’t tell or show others, alive in a precise way that reverberates deep in one’s soul, like the way a deep bass note from a speaker vibrates your body. Told from perspectives that run the gamut on age from under ten to over seventy, and in emotional depth from the sweet to the heartbreaking to the every-day normal, from the universal human experiences to the refugee/immigrant experience, the voices in this collection bring the narrative power that comes through the sharing of truths. Sophisticated yet accessible, with a quietly devastating open rawness, Thammavongsa’s storytelling is powerful.

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dark emotional mysterious reflective sad tense medium-paced

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Strong character development? N/A
Loveable characters? Yes
Diverse cast of characters? Yes
Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

3.5

This book had a mixture of questionable and great stories. It could be that I did not understand what the author was trying to portray in some of them, so I felt it was a little random? However, there were also a great handful that made me smile, reflect on my personal experiences with immigrant parents, or made me feel empty inside afterwards. I think this book is a decent introduction to short story collections. It’s an easy read and you will definitely find at least one you’ll want to come back to.

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