Reviews with content warning for Medical trauma - Know My Name

“My advice is, if he’s worried about his reputation, don’t rape anyone.”

“We don’t fight for our own happy endings. We fight to say you can’t. We fight for accountability. We fight to establish precedent. We fight because we pray we’ll be the last ones to feel this kind of pain.”

“This book does not have a happy ending. The happy part is there is no ending, because I'll always find a way to keep going.”

This was easily one of the best memoirs I've ever read. Miller is a fantastic writer who really brings you into her world and allows you to experience her pains and triumphs first-hand. I'd obviously heard about her case in the news and her attacker's face and name are essentially synonomous with campus rape nowadays. There is something so powerful in how Miller has been able to reclaim the narrative around her assault while her attacker falls away into obscurity. As I was reading this, I felt the rollercoaster that she was on as she navigated the criminal justice system through celebrations and deep disappointments. Her story made me angry but also made me hopeful. I highly reccomend this memoir but if you're not familiar with Miller's story, she gained notereity as "Emily Doe," a victim in a sexual assault case at Stanford in 2015. The depictions of the assault are graphic and numerous and, sometimes, genuinely hard to read. Please take care of yourself (and maybe skip this one) if this topic is triggering to you.

Content Warnings