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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine
5 reviews
overduck's review against another edition
informative
slow-paced
3.0
Informative but ultimately pretty boring. I found the book to be really repetitive, and yet I still had several unanswered questions. I think, to its credit, part of what made it boring to me was that I was less interested by the segments on attachment styles that were not my own. I learned a lot, but I most likely wouldn't read it again.
Minor: Infidelity and Sexual content
pjdotcom's review
challenging
reflective
Graphic: Physical abuse, Misogyny, Gaslighting, Addiction, Domestic abuse, Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Sexism, and Mental illness
Minor: Infidelity, Grief, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Transphobia, Lesbophobia, and Self harm
oliverreeds's review
reflective
slow-paced
2.5
my thoughts: this book is for neurotypical, cis, straight people and not really for many others which is fine bc thats a lot of people but a lot of the language used just doesnt work for me. first the authors say: your partner isnt trying to make you feel bad! all attachment styles are valid. then they say actually anxious are trying to make you feel bad with protest behavior and avoidants are kind of shitty people who will never change. in fact, the only reliably healthy relationship is with a secure person whos willing to put up with if you yell at them! and dont forget its all bc they love you. like some of this was straight up like not condemning clearly abusive behavior? which was so confusing to me and also just like not a slay. the actual science and research portion was great, the self help part (didnt realize how self help this would be) not so much. inspiring for people whove had long series of failed relationships, parts interesting for ppl interested in psych, not much for anyone with any semblance of abnormal psych or dealing with abuse or having dealt with abuse in the past.
Graphic: Infidelity, Toxic relationship, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Gaslighting
zombiezami's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
reflective
4.0
This was a really helpful and approachable introduction to the topic of attachment styles. I understand my own attachment style better, and I can better understand why certain past relationships happened the way that they did.
The book is rather heteronormative, though. Also, I feel like, by focusing on attachment styles as a sole cause of friction in relationships, they overlook when conflicts are a result of outright abuse, rather than incompatibility or different intimacy needs. The relationship with Craig in Chapter 10 strikes me as very verbally abusive, for example.
I also wish that the authors had gone into more detail about the anxious-avoidant attachment style. Other than saying it was really rare, they didn't seem to give many (or any) examples of it.
The book is rather heteronormative, though. Also, I feel like, by focusing on attachment styles as a sole cause of friction in relationships, they overlook when conflicts are a result of outright abuse, rather than incompatibility or different intimacy needs. The relationship with Craig in Chapter 10 strikes me as very verbally abusive, for example.
I also wish that the authors had gone into more detail about the anxious-avoidant attachment style. Other than saying it was really rare, they didn't seem to give many (or any) examples of it.
Graphic: Toxic relationship
Moderate: Misogyny, Emotional abuse, Sexism, and Gaslighting
Minor: Infidelity, Sexual content, Cursing, and Pregnancy
paolina's review against another edition
informative
medium-paced
4.0
An interesting, logical way to view romantic relationships. Probably could use an updated edition to account for shifting patterns and more inclusivity.
Minor: Body shaming, Domestic abuse, and Infidelity
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