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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love by Amir Levine
9 reviews
pjdotcom's review
challenging
reflective
Content Warnings
Graphic: Physical abuse, Misogyny, Gaslighting, Addiction, Domestic abuse, Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Sexism, and Mental illness
Minor: Infidelity, Grief, Homophobia, Physical abuse, Transphobia, Lesbophobia, and Self harm
aus10england's review against another edition
informative
medium-paced
4.25
I learned a lot from this book! Recommended by a therapist, would be helpful especially to those IN relationships.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Emotional abuse and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Misogyny and Sexism
oliverreeds's review
reflective
slow-paced
2.5
my thoughts: this book is for neurotypical, cis, straight people and not really for many others which is fine bc thats a lot of people but a lot of the language used just doesnt work for me. first the authors say: your partner isnt trying to make you feel bad! all attachment styles are valid. then they say actually anxious are trying to make you feel bad with protest behavior and avoidants are kind of shitty people who will never change. in fact, the only reliably healthy relationship is with a secure person whos willing to put up with if you yell at them! and dont forget its all bc they love you. like some of this was straight up like not condemning clearly abusive behavior? which was so confusing to me and also just like not a slay. the actual science and research portion was great, the self help part (didnt realize how self help this would be) not so much. inspiring for people whove had long series of failed relationships, parts interesting for ppl interested in psych, not much for anyone with any semblance of abnormal psych or dealing with abuse or having dealt with abuse in the past.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Infidelity, Toxic relationship, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, and Gaslighting
phillippa123's review
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Toxic relationship
bill369's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
4.5
I saw good responses to this book on the internet.
Great book about the attachment theory. As an introduction flawless, however, I would find it rather dull if I was more advanced. The thoughts were repeating which led to me learning yet it made the book more tedious.
Page 15, avoidant bond.
Výsledky mnoha výzkumů ukazovaly, že jeho chování je výslednicí dvou protikladných potřeb – být v blízkém vztahu a udržet si svého partnera „od těla“. Nešlo o to, že by Tamaru „nemiloval“ nebo že by si myslel, že „není dost dobrá“ (to si o sobě myslela Tamara). Naopak – odstrkoval ji od sebe právě proto, že cítil rostoucí blizkost a intimitu.
Page 29, the basic meaning of emotional bond.
Pokud bychom chtěli popsat základní význam citového pouta v dospělosti jednou větou, zněla by asi takto: Jestliže se chcete vydat na cestu k nezávislosti a spokojenosti, nechoďte sami; najděte si nejprve partneera, se kterým si na této cestě budete navzájem „krýt záda“. Ve chvíli, kdy porozumíte této větě, můžete si být jistí, že jste pochopili hlavní smysl teorie attachmentu.
I'm glad I read this book.
Great book about the attachment theory. As an introduction flawless, however, I would find it rather dull if I was more advanced. The thoughts were repeating which led to me learning yet it made the book more tedious.
Page 15, avoidant bond.
Page 29, the basic meaning of emotional bond.
I'm glad I read this book.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Toxic relationship
zombiezami's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
reflective
4.0
This was a really helpful and approachable introduction to the topic of attachment styles. I understand my own attachment style better, and I can better understand why certain past relationships happened the way that they did.
The book is rather heteronormative, though. Also, I feel like, by focusing on attachment styles as a sole cause of friction in relationships, they overlook when conflicts are a result of outright abuse, rather than incompatibility or different intimacy needs. The relationship with Craig in Chapter 10 strikes me as very verbally abusive, for example.
I also wish that the authors had gone into more detail about the anxious-avoidant attachment style. Other than saying it was really rare, they didn't seem to give many (or any) examples of it.
The book is rather heteronormative, though. Also, I feel like, by focusing on attachment styles as a sole cause of friction in relationships, they overlook when conflicts are a result of outright abuse, rather than incompatibility or different intimacy needs. The relationship with Craig in Chapter 10 strikes me as very verbally abusive, for example.
I also wish that the authors had gone into more detail about the anxious-avoidant attachment style. Other than saying it was really rare, they didn't seem to give many (or any) examples of it.
Content Warnings
Graphic: Toxic relationship
Moderate: Misogyny, Emotional abuse, Sexism, and Gaslighting
Minor: Infidelity, Sexual content, Cursing, and Pregnancy
vivikasweiven's review
emotional
hopeful
informative
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
4.5
Content Warnings
Minor: Toxic relationship, Gaslighting, and Emotional abuse
becksusername's review
informative
medium-paced
3.5
This book was very enlightening to me, though I felt there was a lot of redundant/over-explained information
Content Warnings
Minor: Toxic relationship
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