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challenging dark emotional informative reflective sad fast-paced
disclaimer: I don’t really give starred reviews. I enjoy most books for what they are, & I extract lessons from them all. Everyone’s reading experiences are subjective, so I hope my reviews provide enough information to let you know if a book is for you or not. Find me on Instagram: @bookish.millennial or tiktok: @bookishmillennial 

I listened to an ALC from Libro FM and am providing an honest review voluntarily. I would definitely buy a physical copy, and probably want to re-read via physical copy or ebook too. I typically like audiobooks for nonfiction books. However, I think I'd want to try reading to myself next time.

Overall, I thought this was a much needed read for our current zeitgeist. Hooker clearly lays out the different implications of how Black grief operates versus how white grievances are weaponized. It's an evocative read, and also frustrating because it truly seems that Black people must be the "perfect victims" or the loudest social justice warriors if they have lost a loved one to federally-sanctioned violence. Hooker brings up the emotional labor and expectations that are placed upon those left grieving their loved ones, while these act as the impetus for White people to finally care/pay attention (if only, for a while).

I recommend this to everyone, and think it's quite disheartening that empathy is not a universal trait that everyone has. No one should have to die for you to care about their safety, quality of living, and their life! 

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