You need to sign in or sign up before continuing.
Take a photo of a barcode or cover
3.99 AVERAGE
3.99 AVERAGE
A great idea, well written, interesting and engaging. Offers practical solutions and tests. The book says that family problems are often caused by lack of expressions of love in a way that our partner understands and this is fixable. A partner might repeat 100s of times that he loves the other while she expects daily vacuuming. On the other hand, if you do excessive vacuuming and cleaning and all that stuff and the partner expects you to come back home with a love note on a perfumed paper or pizza in a box, your vacuuming love message might not reach the recipient.
4 stars for this audiobook due to the extremely helpful chapters on the love languages, and examples of how that might look when being both recognized and missing in one’s relationship, and how to bridge that gap in order to be a better partner. I appreciated these chapters most, as well as the opening ones about the process of “falling in love” and the development of love after that period of time (seemingly the “honeymoon” period sometimes referred to as well).
I understand that the author’s professional background includes specifically marriage counseling and religious leadership, but it would be nice if this book was updated to:
1. Avoid specific Christian and religious references and “examples”
2. Focus on partnership as opposed to marriage and spouses specifically
3. Be more diverse with relationship examples given and avoid heterosexual relationship stereotypes
4. Include other relationships other than just romantic in the text. (A chapter at the end does touch on parent-child relationships but it seemed more of an afterthought). One can extrapolate the text to meet this but it could be nice to have included explicitly.
I understand that the author’s professional background includes specifically marriage counseling and religious leadership, but it would be nice if this book was updated to:
1. Avoid specific Christian and religious references and “examples”
2. Focus on partnership as opposed to marriage and spouses specifically
3. Be more diverse with relationship examples given and avoid heterosexual relationship stereotypes
4. Include other relationships other than just romantic in the text. (A chapter at the end does touch on parent-child relationships but it seemed more of an afterthought). One can extrapolate the text to meet this but it could be nice to have included explicitly.
A must read whether your marriage is struggling or strong. It is always good to learn about your spouse and how to better love them.
Good insights but maybe a tad more religious than necessary.
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
fast-paced
If the original publishing was in 1992 then I suppose it makes sense that there is an enforced binary and heterosexual only examples. Somewhat jarring to read in 2025 however, I can't see why the content can't work for all couples and relationships. (In the FAQ section, Chapman does mention publishing a book on the 5 Love languages for parent- child relationships and also for single adults wanting to improve any relationships they may have.
I was going to rate as a 2 since I really couldn't see past the test section where there's one "for her" and "one for him". If the love languages are communicated differently amongst the genders, why was that not discussed until the FAQ and quiz?
I was going to rate as a 2 since I really couldn't see past the test section where there's one "for her" and "one for him". If the love languages are communicated differently amongst the genders, why was that not discussed until the FAQ and quiz?
Content Warnings
Minor: Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Physical abuse, Death of parent
The Bible is referenced and quoted, but only briefly. Author does add in a personal note at the end of the actual book about how he was personally touched to find God and Jesus's teachings
I am not sure that this is the version I listened to, Audible lists it as a 2015 version. Narrated by the author. In any case. I am split on this book. I actually really like the idea of those five languages, and I find them to be extremely simple, straightforward, and of course, easy to "apply". They might even work, actually. This is one of those methods that you learn about and that you then see everywhere (ie. after reading the book you actually look around to see if you recognize everyone's love language). But the sexism, the religious proselytism, the ...outdatedness of it all makes it difficult to stomach at times. This book would really benefit from being rewritten from scratch with more gender neutral and more era-aware examples (it seems the author can't have enough of women in the kitchen and men working like crazy). I did find the underlying idea interesting. Once crossed with other theories/models (for example Mindset by Carol Dweck to mitigate the problems of Words of affirmation), I would say it will definitely influence the way I act with people. Just, take a step back to stomach the sexism and all.
informative
reflective
medium-paced
There was truly no better book for me to bring on my little birthday getaway. What an amazing book to read when you’re in a place of self-reflection. Wow. I give this book 10 stars out of 5!
This is the perfect book to read at times when you may be feeling a bit “low.” It’s an excellent reminder of what your “love tank” needs in order to be filled from those around you.
It’s also offers a fantastic opportunity to really tap in to what you need if you haven’t already, because so much of this goes unsaid and untaught. There isn’t just one way to love someone. More specifically, there isn’t just one way to give love and there isn’t just one way to receive love.
You. Need. This. Book. I promise you won’t regret it
This is the perfect book to read at times when you may be feeling a bit “low.” It’s an excellent reminder of what your “love tank” needs in order to be filled from those around you.
It’s also offers a fantastic opportunity to really tap in to what you need if you haven’t already, because so much of this goes unsaid and untaught. There isn’t just one way to love someone. More specifically, there isn’t just one way to give love and there isn’t just one way to receive love.
You. Need. This. Book. I promise you won’t regret it
This book spoke to me. I hope anyone struggling and wanting more from their significant other can look here and find an answer.