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genderqueer_hiker's review against another edition
5.0
A very accessible, validating read with many practical suggestions on ways to process and integrate trauma.
milesandmiles's review against another edition
hopeful
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Minor: Child abuse, Emotional abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, and Physical abuse
mveveobrien's review against another edition
emotional
inspiring
reflective
sad
slow-paced
4.75
brilliant, life changing book
fasika's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Life changing
lpawade's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
fast-paced
5.0
Content Warnings
Graphic: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Bullying, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Incest, Mental illness, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Schizophrenia/Psychosis , Gaslighting, Abandonment, and Alcohol
kamijo3014's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
slow-paced
3.5
defenders_iris's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
slow-paced
5.0
A beautiful book that gives some solid concrete advice on where trauma comes from and how to address it. I think it would be challenging on its own but combined with some experience it's quite powerful.
teyn's review against another edition
4.0
I have a feeling this is one of those books that I'm going to need to come back to several times to get the good out of it. I learned a lot (because) it was also a hard read which forced a lot of uncomfortable introspection.
My favourite quotes were:
"You are free now as an adult to develop peace of mind and a supportive relationship with yourself. A self-championing stance can transform your existence from struggling survival to a fulfilling sense of thriving"
"much of the plethora of loneliness, alienation, and addictive distraction that plagues modern industrial societies is a result of people being taught and forced to reject, pathologize or punish so many of their own and others’ normal feeling states."
"Cptsd is a syndrome of the dearth of unconditional love"
"The fawn-fight [type] is sometimes misdiagnosed as borderline personality disorder [BPD]. This is because the fawn-fight can be emotionally intense during flashbacks. When triggered into a panicky sense of abandonment, he feels desperate for love and can vacillate dramatically between clawing for it or flatteringly groveling for it"
"we can harvest recovery out of these unpleasant flashbacks by seeing them as proof that we were traumatized. When we do the latter, we can morph our anger into healthy indignation about the outrageously unfair conditions of our upbringing"
"most survivors need to empower their efforts with a healthy rage against their parents for destroying their self-loyalty and their self-individuation."
"Grieving is at its most effective when the survivor can grieve in four ways: angering, crying, verbal ventilating and feeling."
"Deep level recovery from childhood trauma requires a normalization of depression, a renunciation of the habit of reflexively reacting to it."
My favourite quotes were:
"You are free now as an adult to develop peace of mind and a supportive relationship with yourself. A self-championing stance can transform your existence from struggling survival to a fulfilling sense of thriving"
"much of the plethora of loneliness, alienation, and addictive distraction that plagues modern industrial societies is a result of people being taught and forced to reject, pathologize or punish so many of their own and others’ normal feeling states."
"Cptsd is a syndrome of the dearth of unconditional love"
"The fawn-fight [type] is sometimes misdiagnosed as borderline personality disorder [BPD]. This is because the fawn-fight can be emotionally intense during flashbacks. When triggered into a panicky sense of abandonment, he feels desperate for love and can vacillate dramatically between clawing for it or flatteringly groveling for it"
"we can harvest recovery out of these unpleasant flashbacks by seeing them as proof that we were traumatized. When we do the latter, we can morph our anger into healthy indignation about the outrageously unfair conditions of our upbringing"
"most survivors need to empower their efforts with a healthy rage against their parents for destroying their self-loyalty and their self-individuation."
"Grieving is at its most effective when the survivor can grieve in four ways: angering, crying, verbal ventilating and feeling."
"Deep level recovery from childhood trauma requires a normalization of depression, a renunciation of the habit of reflexively reacting to it."