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It Ends with Us by Colleen Hoover

73 reviews

lorri_scribbles's review against another edition

emotional sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Gaslighting, Misogyny, Physical abuse, and Rape

reading_fixations's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

• What you need to know- this book follows Lily Bloom, a 23 year old who’s moved to Boston and meets this amazing Neurosurgeon Ryle, and everything seems perfect. Seems. Lily is faced with meeting her childhood love again, and this is where we begin to see a shift. Lily has to navigate an abusive relationship while trying to make the most of her life. We watch her try and make the best decisions she can, while life throws the very worst at her. 

• A character that stood out- I never like picking the main character, so I have to chose Alyssa. She is Lily’s best friend and Ryle’s sister. She stands by Lily no matter what, even when it is her family that is the problem and I truly admire her for standing up for what she knows is right. 

• Why you should read it- I think this book highlights the answer to the age old question of “why doesn’t she just leave him” I think it allows us to have clarity on how difficult it is for the one that you love the most to be the one that is hurting you and despite all the pain, the love is still there. This book sinks your teeth into you and does not let go. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pregnancy, Violence, Panic attacks/disorders, Domestic abuse, Gaslighting, Sexual content, Misogyny, Rape, and Sexual assault

capybooks's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

It Ends With Us is beautiful, heartbreaking and infuriating all in one. as much as i didn’t enjoy reading the abuse scenes, colleen hoover did a fantastic job making me love it. it made me laugh, cry, and shake with anger. i love that this story wasn’t all suffering - i enjoyed lily having an outlet for her emotions during her childhood and adult life, by writing her letters to ellen. i loved lily and atlas’ relationship and how they are both always there for eachother regardless of what is happening in their lives. the writing was brilliant and fast-paced, which made this book easy to read, even with the graphic abuse detail. the ending was beautiful. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual harassment, Toxic relationship, Violence, Sexual content, Rape, Pregnancy, Panic attacks/disorders, Misogyny, Injury/Injury detail, Grief, Gaslighting, Blood, and Alcohol

Moderate: Child death, Death of parent, Death, and Suicide

Minor: Infertility and Bullying

A disturbing and upsetting, but vital read.

into_the_aether's review against another edition

dark sad fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

1.0

This is trauma porn, and I hope we learn to stop recommending these kinds of books. I am totally into a book that takes a mature, reflective look at the lives of survivors, but that’s not what this is. It’s graphic and sensational. I was triggered at multiple junctures in the story. READ THE CONTENT WARNINGS BEFORE YOU PICK THIS ONE UP.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Blood, Bullying, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Medical content, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Rape, Self harm, Sexual violence, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Suicide, Toxic relationship, and Violence

villainsandpoets's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

Taylor Swift songs I associate this book with: Invisible String,  You are in love, Better Man<3

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Abandonment, Blood, Cursing, Death, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Genocide, Grief, Medical content, Mental illness, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Violence, and Vomit

madeline_brainard's review against another edition

emotional lighthearted reflective tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? No

3.5

It starts out slow & doesn’t pick up until about halfway through the book 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Cursing, Gaslighting, Infertility, Medical content, Medical trauma, Misogyny, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Rape, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Toxic relationship, and Violence

princess_peach's review against another edition

dark reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? N/A
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

0.5

This is frequently cited on social media as a "must read," so we read it for a book club one month. It was one of the worst books I've ever read. Within the first few pages, I already hated the two main characters Lily and Ryle. People rave about how young people should read about abusive behaviors and relationships, but the problem was that the red flags or instances of emotional abuse, love bombing, manipulation, and control were NOT actually called out or addressed in anyway. As an adult who frequently reads YA, it took about half way through the book for me to finally realize that the author wasn't glorifying this behavior or making it seem like this was a good relationship.

I was yelling at Lily to get off of the roof within the first few pages when Ryle was 30, she was 23 (red flag 1), he was already physically attacking the chair (red flag 2), he physically got close to her when she didn't want him to (red flag 3), was asking her basically if she would consider having sex with him after knowing each other for 10 minutes (red flag 4), and played "naked truth" with her because it implies that he's always going to think she's lying, which he does as their relationship progresses (red flag 5).

Even in the author's note, the author doesn't actually name or call out the abusive tactics as a way to educate young (or older) readers about red flags or signs of abuse. She just says, (paraphrasing) "My parents had an abusive relationship, so I know what I'm talking about."  If you want young people to actually learn something/be exposed to toxic characters to show them what toxic and abusive behaviors look like, there HAS to be other options.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Bullying, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Injury/Injury detail, Misogyny, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, and Violence

tharini's review against another edition

dark reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix

4.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcohol, Alcoholism, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Pregnancy, Rape, Self harm, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Suicide, and Toxic relationship

Moderate: Abandonment, Death, Death of parent, Misogyny, Murder, and Panic attacks/disorders

Minor: Infertility and Suicide attempt

jasannalise's review against another edition

dark emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

1.0

Blatant glorification of abusive relationships. Option A for Lily (Lily Bloom the florist btw) was a red flag from the start, manipulating her and is a grown man incapable of emotion regulation. These toxic aspects of their relationship are never addressed or corrected - leaving the reader with the impression that option A's abuse is a plot twist/device. It is not.

AND THE BEST FRIEND SAYING SHE SHOULD MAYBE STAY WITH HIM??? <

Then her reflective letters at age 15 (to Ellen????) further glorify a manipulative relationship with option B that is between her as a practical child and an 18 year old. To have this guy as her good option was a joke. The message at the end was encouraging but hypocritical, as it definitely will not end with option A. Feel as though trigger warnings were breezed over, the authors note should have been first, not last. Couldn't pay me to read the sequel.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Domestic abuse and Emotional abuse

Moderate: Misogyny, Toxic friendship, Physical abuse, and Toxic relationship

Minor: Death and Gun violence

gabrielleclarke05's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

I just couldn’t get into it or the characters till the last 50 pages

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Blood, Bullying, Child abuse, Death, Death of parent, Domestic abuse, Gaslighting, Misogyny, Sexual content, Sexual harassment, Stalking, Pregnancy, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic friendship, Medical content, Mental illness, Vomit, Pedophilia, Panic attacks/disorders, Sexism, Abandonment, Addiction, Alcoholism, Cursing, Emotional abuse, Physical abuse, Rape, Toxic relationship, Violence, Adult/minor relationship, Alcohol, Classism, Dysphoria, and Infidelity