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Gender Queer: A Memoir by Maia Kobabe

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athenian_frog's review against another edition

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4.0

I thought this was a really cool look into the thoughts of someone who is genderqueer. I am cisgender, and have limited experience reading about/in the perspective of nonbinary/trans identities. I can only recount one other book where I’ve seen someone use e/em/eir (which, I also didn’t know they were under Spivak pronouns. Neat!).

I felt like Kobabe was very thoughtful about how eir experiences and upbringing affected how e approached eir gender. I found it funny that fanfiction and queer artists remain avenues through which LGBTQIA+ people have sought self discovery. E touches on a lot of other aspects of being queer, such as grappling with how one experiences sexual and romantic attraction, the different ways loved ones can react, and how one’s identity can affect existing relationships. 

The illustrations served the story well. The one about the first Pap smear e had was especially striking. There are some very pretty page long spreads, and some good uses of space to place text in a thematically relevant way. The ending was a little puzzling, but I like to imagine it is hopeful in its implications. 

 I think this could be a good intro for someone who is questioning if they are transgender, or even just queer in general. It does not shy away from the bodily discomfort one can experience as a non-binary person. There are discussions of first periods, Pap smears, masturbation, and intimacy with other people. Sexual drive (and the deficit thereof, in Kobabe’s case) is also visited. 

People who are cisgender could also benefit from listening to this perspective; now more than ever, I think, it’s critical to be aware of the existence of non binary/transgender individuals, and the struggles they may be experiencing.  

Thank you for reading!


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cymbal_curtain's review

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3.0

This book was ok. This is a book about growing up queer mostly. about question gender and sexuality and about hanging out with friends and partners.


1) this book presents "brain sexes" as a scientific truth. This is instead a very controversial topic, without scientific consensus. read the linked for more info (it backs up my claim and is a scientific journal)
https://bsd.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s13293-022-00448-w

2) it, if not misinforms, at least confuses, the reader about what "asexual" means. Although the word has some multiple meanings, it primarily means not experiencing attraction, not "not masturbating". And it's fine to me if the author identifies/identified to some extent with the label, but because this is a book I'm a bit disappointed about this.

cws:
 I can't list this in the storygraph system as a content warning, but the book does contain romance.


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bellebookstitch666's review against another edition

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5.0


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amylynn44's review against another edition

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4.75


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raereads23's review

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5.0


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missrosymaplemoth's review against another edition

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4.5

“Some people are born in the mountains, while others are born by the sea. Some people are happy to live in the place they were born, while others must make a journey to reach the climate in which they can flourish and grow. Between the ocean and the mountains is a wild forest. That is where I want to make my home.” p. 191

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sallytiffany's review

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5.0

I felt so, so seen. I love this. It’s been an incredible read. I loved the characters. 

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4.75


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stacy837's review

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4.0


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miguelfilipe_1's review

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3.5


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