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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Meg Jay
2.74k reviews for:
The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Meg Jay
informative
medium-paced
informative
reflective
fast-paced
Better late than never to read this book. Anecdotal stories really resonated.
informative
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
Good questions and covers the main aspects of life. Uses stories to convey lessons and separated into quick, digestible chunks.
Main point is that you need to plan ahead and ask yourself what you want and what can you do to get there. Then do it.
But as another reader said, this is mainly advice for those who want a white collared job, are considering children, and privileged enough to afford higher education.
Main point is that you need to plan ahead and ask yourself what you want and what can you do to get there. Then do it.
But as another reader said, this is mainly advice for those who want a white collared job, are considering children, and privileged enough to afford higher education.
challenging
reflective
medium-paced
not me reading a self help book!
one of my friends told me to read this because I was complaining about how I hate my job (should I be saying this online? lol). in general i hate self help as a genre because like... what are your qualifications for telling me how to live my life BITCH. I BET YOURE MISERABLE BITCH. but this one is rooted in psychology which made it an informative read.
one of my friends told me to read this because I was complaining about how I hate my job (should I be saying this online? lol). in general i hate self help as a genre because like... what are your qualifications for telling me how to live my life BITCH. I BET YOURE MISERABLE BITCH. but this one is rooted in psychology which made it an informative read.
slow-paced
It took me a long time to finish the book. I remember being really frustrated with the work and love section, with the work section, I just found her incredibly condescending and with the love section, I found her to be rude and wrong.
The last section was probably her most reasonable and tolerable takes, but at this point I had a hard time trusting anything she said.
The last section was probably her most reasonable and tolerable takes, but at this point I had a hard time trusting anything she said.
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
challenging
informative
reflective
fast-paced
honestly some good advice in here, and it was very thought provoking. But it's definitely most applicable to privileged, college-educated, straight people. i find it disrespectful to exclude call low-paying/customer service jobs from being real jobs. also i have a lot of trouble buying some of her claims. she makes a point to bring up the big five and how your personality isn't good or bad but just is but then in the next chapter talks about how neuroticism kills relationships. she also says 20s are prime time to change your personality but really doesn't give any concrete advice on how to do that. most of all, i so did not enjoy reading this simply due to the author's judgemental and condescending tone throughout the whole book
As someone who's currently in his twenties, I'd say this book is targeted appropriately to me. Personally, I am struggling with figuring out how to get through this period in my life. I am a recent college graduate who hasn't a clue on what to do next. I had vague plans of being a teacher, but I seemed to have stopped pursuing it for various reasons, mainly my hesitancy over such a career and a lack of confidence in it.
I saw this book pop up as I was scrolling through this site, and I saved it to my "Want to Read" list for the future. When it came time for me to find some audiobooks to listen to, I thought this might be a good choice.
"The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now" is definitely blunt and firm about the importance of making the most of the twenties. Meg Jay is serious in her tone about it as she comes from a psychology background. She isn't kidding around and I appreciate that. It shows that she takes the concerns of the younger generation seriously. She doesn't talk down to her audience.
There's a lot of helpful advice and insights here that Jay offers. One thing I caught wind of as I listened to this book throughout my days is the importance of reaching out to people outside of your personal circle to get ahead. Sometimes it is those people who help us advance through life. That's not to say that our friends and family don't give us any support, but that doing something new requires going beyond our backyard. The power of weak ties is strong when you're young.
That being said, there is some advice here that indicate to a blind spot Jay has towards young people of this generation. She has her own biases, so I can't blame her, but it's worth pointing out that Jay assumes that it's simple for people in their twenties to simply do this and that and then they'll be set for life. She doesn't consider the factors outside that make it difficult. For instance, the economy and how it functions today was not the same as it was when she grew up. The opportunities are different. The culture is different. Simply applying conventional wisdom from yesteryear to today isn't going to work totally.
The book is helpful, though. It's not totally hogwash. Jay knows what she's talking about, but readers should be aware that she has her own limits when it comes to analyzing the youth of today.
I saw this book pop up as I was scrolling through this site, and I saved it to my "Want to Read" list for the future. When it came time for me to find some audiobooks to listen to, I thought this might be a good choice.
"The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter - And How to Make the Most of Them Now" is definitely blunt and firm about the importance of making the most of the twenties. Meg Jay is serious in her tone about it as she comes from a psychology background. She isn't kidding around and I appreciate that. It shows that she takes the concerns of the younger generation seriously. She doesn't talk down to her audience.
There's a lot of helpful advice and insights here that Jay offers. One thing I caught wind of as I listened to this book throughout my days is the importance of reaching out to people outside of your personal circle to get ahead. Sometimes it is those people who help us advance through life. That's not to say that our friends and family don't give us any support, but that doing something new requires going beyond our backyard. The power of weak ties is strong when you're young.
That being said, there is some advice here that indicate to a blind spot Jay has towards young people of this generation. She has her own biases, so I can't blame her, but it's worth pointing out that Jay assumes that it's simple for people in their twenties to simply do this and that and then they'll be set for life. She doesn't consider the factors outside that make it difficult. For instance, the economy and how it functions today was not the same as it was when she grew up. The opportunities are different. The culture is different. Simply applying conventional wisdom from yesteryear to today isn't going to work totally.
The book is helpful, though. It's not totally hogwash. Jay knows what she's talking about, but readers should be aware that she has her own limits when it comes to analyzing the youth of today.