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The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Meg Jay
3.93 AVERAGE
2.75k reviews for:
The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now
Meg Jay
3.93 AVERAGE
While a few of the stories and points covered were not what I needed, I felt like the others were just a small reminder of how I should just continue “adulting” and trying (whatever that means).
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Digestible and easy to read book from very qualified author
informative
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medium-paced
hopeful
informative
inspiring
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Food for thought
A lot of great ideas in here. Specifically, that investing in the things that matter to you most (work, love, etc) in your twenties is kind of like compound interest for your life. It's really good to start early. And also, your brain is still developing its personality in the twenties and this is a time for change and exploration. And weak ties will help you move ahead. I really liked that one because it's true and paints a better light on "networking".
The only downside is it doesn't present any alternative lifestyles. It presents adulthood past 30s as all about marriage and kids and the constraints therein.
Overall, I'd definitely want to reread this book in a few years to see how I've changed. And I'd recommend it to anyone in their 20s. Past that, it'd probably be too depressing.
A lot of great ideas in here. Specifically, that investing in the things that matter to you most (work, love, etc) in your twenties is kind of like compound interest for your life. It's really good to start early. And also, your brain is still developing its personality in the twenties and this is a time for change and exploration. And weak ties will help you move ahead. I really liked that one because it's true and paints a better light on "networking".
The only downside is it doesn't present any alternative lifestyles. It presents adulthood past 30s as all about marriage and kids and the constraints therein.
Overall, I'd definitely want to reread this book in a few years to see how I've changed. And I'd recommend it to anyone in their 20s. Past that, it'd probably be too depressing.
Did I wait for this book to discuss non-Western societies' problems? Of course not. Did I want it to be helpful nonetheless? Yes, I did.
Reading this book as an Arab Muslim girl living in the Middle East, I couldn't relate to most of the things those twentysomethings were going through. In Egypt, in a population that is mostly Muslims and Orthodox Christians, premarital sex is completely off the table for like 95% of the population, if not more, and most couples don't get to live together until (and if) they get married, so people get married in their twenties, and to do so they have to be financially stable, as in working full time, if not two jobs.
I think the author was advocating for the conventional way of life (full-time job, marriage, and babies), which is totally compatible with such a society, but being almost 26 and seeking a "nonconventional" life, the book wasn't as helpful as I wanted it to be.
I got a few helpful insights, and it put some things into perspective. I would recommend this book to anyone seeking such a life, especially if they live in a Western society. Otherwise, it might not be as helpful.
Reading this book as an Arab Muslim girl living in the Middle East, I couldn't relate to most of the things those twentysomethings were going through. In Egypt, in a population that is mostly Muslims and Orthodox Christians, premarital sex is completely off the table for like 95% of the population, if not more, and most couples don't get to live together until (and if) they get married, so people get married in their twenties, and to do so they have to be financially stable, as in working full time, if not two jobs.
I think the author was advocating for the conventional way of life (full-time job, marriage, and babies), which is totally compatible with such a society, but being almost 26 and seeking a "nonconventional" life, the book wasn't as helpful as I wanted it to be.
I got a few helpful insights, and it put some things into perspective. I would recommend this book to anyone seeking such a life, especially if they live in a Western society. Otherwise, it might not be as helpful.
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced
I was really excited to read this book, but it just made me feel panicked and confused! The premise lacked nuance, and demanded a rigid conservative idea of success. It did not address that people experience different barriers to this “success” based on their socioeconomic status, race, gender, sexual orientation, where they live, etc. It seemed to paint anyone who lived a non-traditional lifestyle as secretly sad and screwed. I would have been more convinced if there was more research cited throughout. Instead, it feels full of anecdotal evidence, and only mentions research that doesn’t show the methods used to create that data, or where it comes from. At best I was skeptical, at worst I felt doomed.
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