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Delicatele frumuseţi ale vieţii. Sfaturi despre dragoste și viață de la „Dragă Sugar“ by Cheryl Strayed
20 reviews
iamnita's review against another edition
5.0
Minor: Addiction, Alcoholism, Cancer, Child death, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, Rape, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Grief, Stalking, Death of parent, Murder, Pregnancy, and Toxic friendship
smoladeryn's review against another edition
5.0
Content Warning: abuse
I don’t read “self help” I thought as I grabbed this from a shelf on the way out of my beautiful home that I didn’t want to leave. I was fleeing an abusive relationship of 16 years when this book jumped out at me—no doubt given by his mother that he never read—like so many books of this kind.
I don’t know why I took it. I hadn’t been able to read much in 8 years-- the second half of our relationship. I also really didn’t read “self help” or even memoirs. I never read Sugar’s column, although I did read TheRumpus, I didn’t know that’s where it came from at the time.
I saw the ugly orange cover, read the title that seemed so overwrought (honestly), and picked it up in my already much too full hands with my cat and as many “important” possessions as I could take.
I was terrified that day and I was terrified for weeks, months still. I was homeless for 2 months, but not the kind of homelessness I experienced in my early 20s. It was the kind where I had to stay in a horror story air bnb, a hotel, and then a dank and noisy basement I paid way too much for.
In each place I unpacked this book and put it next to where I slept. I didn’t read it. When I got to my noisy and deeply lonely new rental apartment in the heart of downtown, I put it next to my pillow and didn’t read it.
One day about 4 months into this “new life”, after the homeless period, I started reading it.
I’ve wept at nearly every letter. Before I started reading this collection, that no doubt my ex-mother-in-law gave to her stubborn and abusive son that refuses to look inward, she picked a fight with me. The details aren’t important, but she said some of the most hurtful and painful things anyone has ever said, even more so than my own horribly abusive family.
I don’t know if I finally read this out of stubbornness (spite?) myself but all I know is Tiny Beautiful Things is the thing that started my healing. I’m still healing.
There were times I didn’t read this book, and times I devoured 3 letters at once. There were times I had to process a letter for what seemed like an eternity before I could bare to pick up the weight of it again. Then, there were times where this book sat in a bag on my back, light as a feather, and as warm as a familiar friend.
Tiny Beautiful Things is one of those Things itself. The phrase comes from the description of a sweet purple balloon. It might not be the sweet balloon Sugar describes, but there are times where it is. And she is right—it is something we all deserve.
I kept a journal of endless quotes. I was going to post them as a review which is what I usually do, but those quotes are important mostly to me, probably.
Graphic: Addiction, Child abuse, Death, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Infidelity, Mental illness, Misogyny, Sexism, Sexual content, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Death of parent, Gaslighting, Toxic friendship, Abandonment, and Classism
Moderate: Addiction, Bullying, Cancer, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Infertility, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Violence, Dementia, Grief, Pregnancy, Sexual harassment, and Dysphoria
emilyinherhead's review against another edition
5.0
"I'll never know, and neither will you of the life you don't choose. We'll only know that whatever that sister life was, it was important and beautiful and not ours. It was the ghost ship that didn't carry us. There's nothing to do but salute it from the shore."
This book is a warm, reassuring hug. Obviously not every letter and response will be directly relatable to every reader, but Sugar answers such a wide variety of people that there's bound to be something here that speaks to you.
I found myself tearing up a few different times, just at how thoughtful and tender Cheryl Strayed's advice is, how stern but also how gentle her voice. She obviously cares very much about everyone who writes to her, and a lot about her own life comes out in the process of writing back, which makes her even more admirable and trustworthy as someone giving counsel to others. She's been there, she gets it, and she wants better for you. Her writing is also excellent on a language level—I wrote down a few sentences to remember just because they were beautiful.
This book is one I've had on my shelf for a while. I'm so glad I finally read it, and I will absolutely be revisiting it in the future whenever I need another dose of Sugar's wisdom.
Moderate: Addiction
Minor: Domestic abuse
becksusername's review against another edition
5.0
Graphic: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Incest, Infidelity, Pedophilia, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Grief, Death of parent, and Toxic friendship
elliebell7's review against another edition
4.25
Moderate: Addiction, Cancer, Cursing, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Physical abuse, and Toxic relationship
lya_thebananahead's review against another edition
5.0
Minor: Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Homophobia, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Sexual content, Toxic relationship, and Abortion
raelong12's review against another edition
4.0
Graphic: Addiction, Alcoholism, Cancer, Child abuse, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Eating disorder, Emotional abuse, Infidelity, Mental illness, Physical abuse, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Car accident, and Death of parent
immodestgender's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Infidelity and Toxic relationship
Moderate: Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Bullying, Child abuse, Domestic abuse, Mental illness, Pedophilia, Rape, Abortion, and Death of parent
paigieodo's review against another edition
4.75
So I pressed on with Tiny Beautiful Things.
And it was the right decision. Through Sugar, Cheryl Strayed offers the most honest and kind-hearted advice rooted in a deep love for her fellow humans. I consider myself to be very reflective, very intelligent, very aware of myself and how to operate as a good person in this world. I didn't think I would learn much from this collection. But I did. It filled me. It brought me the feeling that all of us, even those who feel sickeningly wrong so much of the time, will be okay if we try.
Strayed is unafraid to explore the awful and the absurd. But more than that, she is unafraid to try to find wonder and possibility in all of it. It is hopeful. It is terrifying. It is brimming with love. And it is absolutely worth reading, no matter who you are.
Graphic: Pedophilia and Sexual assault
Moderate: Addiction, Child abuse, Death, Infidelity, Miscarriage, Sexual violence, and Toxic relationship
Minor: Addiction, Alcoholism, Body shaming, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Incest, and Sexual content
carabones's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Addiction, Adult/minor relationship, Alcoholism, Cancer, Child abuse, Child death, Death, Domestic abuse, Drug abuse, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Incest, Infidelity, Mental illness, Miscarriage, Pedophilia, Physical abuse, Rape, Self harm, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Terminal illness, Toxic relationship, Transphobia, and Grief