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4.05 AVERAGE
4.05 AVERAGE
Rounded up from 3.5 because of the conclusion, which is mandatory reading for anyone who is, has been, or cares about a Quarterlifer.
informative
reflective
medium-paced
The central argument of this book is that ‘quarterlife’ (roughly the ages 18-35) should be considered as a defined developmental stage, both in therapeutic practice and in the wider world. This is justified particularly because of the increasing pressures and instability that characterise this stage of life (yay!).
I was initially turned off this book because of the Byock’s argument that people can be separated into ‘meaning types’ and ‘structural types’, each lacking the other’s qualities and needing to engage in self work to hold them both. I felt like I didn’t really fit into this and so got frustrated with it. However I’d recommend reading on as it becomes clear through Byock’s retelling and analysis of some of her clients sessions that this is just a mechanism to demonstrate the extremes of this phase of life, how lacking structure can cause mental fatigue and frustration, but also how following what is expected of you and not paying attention to your creative and emotional needs is equally draining.
I’ve never really read a ‘selfhelpy’ style book but the fact Byock is a qualified psychotherapist meant her advice felt very grounded in her training and her experience with her clients. This is very readable and definitely useful if you’re interested in thinking about adult development, psychotherapy and basically just how to be a grown up. It’s not going to solve your life, but more a call to be reflective, to start to parent yourself and listen to your needs as you go through your twenties.
I was initially turned off this book because of the Byock’s argument that people can be separated into ‘meaning types’ and ‘structural types’, each lacking the other’s qualities and needing to engage in self work to hold them both. I felt like I didn’t really fit into this and so got frustrated with it. However I’d recommend reading on as it becomes clear through Byock’s retelling and analysis of some of her clients sessions that this is just a mechanism to demonstrate the extremes of this phase of life, how lacking structure can cause mental fatigue and frustration, but also how following what is expected of you and not paying attention to your creative and emotional needs is equally draining.
I’ve never really read a ‘selfhelpy’ style book but the fact Byock is a qualified psychotherapist meant her advice felt very grounded in her training and her experience with her clients. This is very readable and definitely useful if you’re interested in thinking about adult development, psychotherapy and basically just how to be a grown up. It’s not going to solve your life, but more a call to be reflective, to start to parent yourself and listen to your needs as you go through your twenties.
A book I’ll return to over and over — that affirms the reality of searching for oneself in their 20s-30s and provides guideposts to help
informative
reflective
medium-paced
emotional
hopeful
reflective
medium-paced
listened to the audiobook in one sitting while staying in on a Friday night working on a puzzle…
easy content to consume and has made me really proud of the work I’ve done for myself in therapy this year (this book was recommend by my therapist thank you Sarah)
easy content to consume and has made me really proud of the work I’ve done for myself in therapy this year (this book was recommend by my therapist thank you Sarah)
Super interesting and thoughtful framework. As I’ve seen other people say - it could use more concrete examples or as a companion to therapy.
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
informative
reflective
medium-paced
I found parts of this book very helpful. There were a couple of insights and discussions that really resonated with me, and have helped me think a little clearer about what I want my life to look like and how to slowly move towards those goals.
That being said, I didn’t love all the references to fairy tales. I also didn’t really buy into the ‘there are two wolves within you’ kind of approach; assigning people on a spectrum between stability and meaning. And having the ‘integration’ between your two halves be where fulfillment and breakthroughs happen felt more like a story rather than a real therapy methodology. That doesn’t really land for me.
That being said, I didn’t love all the references to fairy tales. I also didn’t really buy into the ‘there are two wolves within you’ kind of approach; assigning people on a spectrum between stability and meaning. And having the ‘integration’ between your two halves be where fulfillment and breakthroughs happen felt more like a story rather than a real therapy methodology. That doesn’t really land for me.