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edencameron's review
5.0
Moderate: Medical content, Panic attacks/disorders, Fatphobia, Alcoholism, Terminal illness, Body shaming, Death, Suicide, Death of parent, Toxic relationship, Abortion, Addiction, Cursing, Grief, Medical trauma, and Mental illness
murve's review against another edition
4.75
Graphic: Death of parent, Medical content, Chronic illness, Terminal illness, Medical trauma, and Drug use
arbramirez's review
4.5
Graphic: Physical abuse, Medical trauma, Death, Cancer, Death of parent, and Drug abuse
mattyvreads's review
4.75
The story is heartbreaking and gorgeous. It is raw.
I enjoyed it immensely.
Graphic: Death of parent, Racism, Cancer, and Terminal illness
Moderate: Medical trauma, Abortion, Addiction, Alcoholism, Bullying, Car accident, Drug abuse, Misogyny, and Rape
scmiller's review against another edition
4.25
Graphic: Body shaming, Cancer, Death of parent, Death, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Terminal illness, Alcoholism, Alcohol, Body horror, Medical content, Medical trauma, and Vomit
Moderate: Suicidal thoughts, Toxic friendship, Abortion, Bullying, Car accident, Drug use, Racism, Addiction, Drug abuse, Excrement, Fatphobia, and Mental illness
Minor: Infidelity and Religious bigotry
aksmith92's review
4.5
Michelle Zauner talks about her upbringing in this memoir—she's living a decent life and recognizes that, but somehow does not get along super well with her parents, particularly her mom. I don't know about you, but as a teenage girl once, this was highly relatable.
More importantly, though, this memoir talks about Michelle's identity as a half-Korean woman, trying to find solstice and being in the food she grew up hearing about and/or eating. She struggles regularly with her identity since she barely speaks the Korean language and only visits Korea every so often. And most important, this book is about dealing with grief and, acknowledging and accepting your past, and moving on from it during traumatic times. There is no mystery or spoiler here: Michelle talks about her family's experience with her mother's cancer diagnosis.
Michelle feels real in this book. She makes decisions you question and doesn't always know the answer. However, the heart in this book is so apparent, and it is simply moving. Not to mention all the incredible references to Korean recipes—this was SO good to add.
I do feel the 50-70% dragged just a little bit, but overall, this was an incredibly captivating story about a woman finding her own identity in massive grief while leaning on some of the most amazing food recipes she can to feel in her place and with her family. Highly recommend this memoir!
Graphic: Racism, Car accident, Body shaming, Death of parent, Medical content, Cancer, Medical trauma, Cursing, and Grief
Moderate: Abortion, Fatphobia, and Alcohol
Minor: Addiction
Addiction = not described, but talked about when describing someone's past. Also implied with a potential alcohol addiction.espressoreads's review
4.0
Moderate: Medical trauma, Death of parent, Death, and Abortion
undecidedpersonality's review
4.75
Graphic: Medical content, Alcohol, Excrement, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Car accident, Death, Death of parent, Cancer, Terminal illness, Medical trauma, Vomit, and Chronic illness
Moderate: Alcoholism, Blood, Child death, and Violence
Minor: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, and Suicide attempt
gracer's review against another edition
5.0
Unfortunately for me, I read it on a kindle library book, and now I can't seem to access my notes anywhere. (Not through goodreads and not through the Libby app, I've read all the FAQs and questions, I swear.) Oh well. This is probably going to be a re-read at some point anyway.
This book is exceptional: Zauner writes about the tragic loss of her much-too-young mother and manages to strike a perfect tone. It isn't whiny or complainy. It isn't cold and distanced. It isn't overly indulgent. She seamlessly combines everything: memories of childhood visits to South Korea, where her mother is from; growing up Asian-American in the small city of Eugene; the sort of angst and frustration and rebelliousness that is often born of youth early adulthood; and the grave, bleak diagnosis of mother and her mother's subsequent treatment and care.
Furthermore, she does not shy away from the awful things -- terrible words members of the family sometimes said to each other, reasons she rebelled -- and then she does an exceptional job of showing the love of the family despite these things. She reminds us that families can sometimes cause any of us the most unbelievable pain, even the "best" ones. As I read this book, I thought that in many ways this would be a good book for a new parent to read, as an example of what not to do but also as a reminder that no one is perfect, that parents have been making mistakes for as long as there have been parents and not all parents are horrible for it.
She dances so gracefully around the complicated topic of her father, with whom she has a complicated and even resentful relationship. She addresses her issues but is at the same time very respectful, and all the while the book is dedicated completely to her mother - none of the father complications take a way from that, it is still only through the lens of her mother and her mother's death.
There is also so much food writing in this. I suppose that is somewhat implied by the title, but discreetly so, I would say, and nicely done. Be warned, you'll get hungry. But food is just another mediary through which Zauner navigates not only her identity and her relationship with her mother; it's also a reflection of her emotional changes throughout her mother's illness. It ties everything together.
When I started reading this book, I hadn't made it far before I found a line about growing up without a diaspora that really resonated with me. I wish I could find my notes and highlights now! I knew I was in for something good, and it just continued to be that. Even though it's such a tough and serious topic, it never dragged me down. I found this book so easy to read, like I just glided through it, stopping only to highlight striking phrases. Just beautiful. It lives up to the hype. I'm in awe of what Zauner did here. Read it.
Graphic: Death of parent, Terminal illness, Grief, Medical trauma, and Cancer
Moderate: Alcoholism
Minor: Car accident and Drug abuse
pseudolain's review
5.0
Graphic: Medical content, Body horror, Death of parent, Cancer, Grief, Terminal illness, and Medical trauma
Moderate: Abortion
Minor: Car accident