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The End of Your Life Book Club by Will Schwalbe

fbroom's review against another edition

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4.0

This book is about the joy of reading books. Will Schwalbe's mother, Mary Anne Schwalbe, is diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and together with his mom they start reading book forming an informal book club. At every chemo appointment they discuss the books they’re reading and they suggest new books to each other. Will also talks about his mother’s work as a humanitarian traveling around the world helping refugees and the impact she had on so many lives.

I read many reviews where people complained about how controlling the mom sounded, how Will never really talked in depth about his family and his relationship with his mom, or even how privileged they were to have all of that medical care but this book is really mainly focused on the book club they formed together.

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4.0

Anyone who enjoys reading will enjoy this book -- many authors and genres are discussed. It is a memoir of publisher Will Schwalbe, whose mother died in 2009 after a long fight against advanced pancreatic cancer. Will and his mother, Mary Anne, used their book discussions to pass the time of cancer treatments/appointments, but more importantly to discuss their differing views on life in general.

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4.0

This was a memoir. Will Schwalbe wrote his story about his experience with his mother. She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer.

He and his mother had always loved to read, so it seemed natural that they would begin reading and discussing the same books. They started their book discussions during her chemo treatments. While this book is not filled with indepth book discussions it does have many snipets of those conversations, which tends to be just perfect. Those snipet of conversations opens the door to his childhood memories of his mother and family.

In between the chemo treatment/book club meetings we hear about a mother, grandmother, wife, sister, friend, humanitarian in a most delightful way. Mary Anne Schwalbe was a woman that loved and was loved.

I liked that Mr. Schwalbe started this book by saying that he did not intend to write a book. He did not take notes and this is a book of his best recollection of conversations and milestones of his life with his mother.

It is a fantastic story that I would recommend to anyone.

orinoco450's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0

jini25's review against another edition

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emotional hopeful informative reflective slow-paced

4.0

alidottie's review against another edition

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5.0

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. Although it is about books and reading which is so appealing, to me this book was really about an amazing woman who shows us how to live a truly inspiring life even while dying.

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4.0

At times this book lulled me a bit, I admit. It was kind of a slow read for me. I enjoyed reading about a very dynamic woman's life, but I would have preferred that the author broke from his narrative voice to tell her stories a bit differently. He tells us that his mom told a story or shared an anecdote, but the immediacy of what sounds like a fascinating life is lost in the telling. There were passages that made me want to skim or sleep, where the details of Mom's eating habits or examples of her manners made me glaze over.

In the same vein, I really enjoyed the book recommendations, and seeing the ways that the common reads between mother and son enhanced their lives and conversations...but some of the built-in reviews droned on a bit long for me.

In the end I decided on 4 stars, though, because I love the concept of a mother and son book club, and the woman that I got to know through this memoir. Though every book mentioned isn't for me, I still added quite a few to my to-read shelf. Best of all, this book made me take the time to reflect on how the books that I read tie me to other people and inform my life. It was definitely worth the time.

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4.0

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This was a beautiful book that I would certainly recommend. I finished it within two days of starting it, which doesn't happen with me often these days.

roseleaf24's review against another edition

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5.0

I loved this book. Perhaps it's because I connect with it as a reader, and as one who has recently lost a parent. I didn't always like or agree with the people involved in the story, but their conversations sparked much thought, even when I found them frustrating.

sarahlreadseverything's review against another edition

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4.0

The End of Your Life Book Club is the story of Will, a New York publisher who almost accidentally starts a two-person bookclub with his mother as he takes her to chemotherapy sessions after she is diagnosed with terminal cancer (the treatment is to prolong her time, rather than cure). They are both avid readers and over the two years of their bookclub the books they read serve to bring their already close relationship even closer, allow Will to find out more about his mother's past and lets them have conversations about her death that they wouldn't be able to have straight on.

I love books-about-books at the best of times and this one is a stunner. The books Will and Mary Anne read range from the popular (Alexander McCall Smith) to the more obscure (Eleanor Rathbone), but each one brings to light different aspects of their respective characters and relationship with each other. The story behind each selection and what they as two ultimately very different people got out of each one was fascinating to read.

That being said, the true hero of The End of Your Life Book Club is Mary Anne and Will's treatment of her. She is a woman who has had an amazing life, accompanying a ground breaking career in admissions for Ivy League universities (in a time where most women didn't work, let alone in high profile jobs) with high profile lobbying for the plight of refugees and other charitable causes worldwide - at the time of her diagnosis, she is deeply involved in building library's in war-torn Afghanistan. Will's narration of her life and illness brings her to life in a way that an ordinary memoir couldn't. She comes across as kind-hearted, caring and what my family would refer to as a 'pocket-rocket' (she uses her death to cheekily advocate among her friends for health-care reform). At the same time, she is not a saint and Will is careful to portray her faults in an honest and tender-hearted way.

It is insinuated that Mary Anne's relationship with her children, especially Will himself, has not always been easy, but their closeness and Will's tone of respect and ultimate pride in his mother is extremely touching. I loved their continual back and forth on spiritual matters - Mary Anne's continual subtle attempts to convert her 'not interested in religion' son to her own Christian faith using books as her vehicle was amusing and well-portrayed. It could easily have come across as pushy, guilt-inducing and almost abusive on behalf of the mother, but Schwalbe does very well to portray it in a lighter (and likely more accurate to how he felt it as the receiver) way and emphasises that he took no offense in it and even enjoyed it. Indeed, he comes to truly appreciate his mother's faith and is thankful for the peace books such as 'Daily Strength for Daily Needs' gave Mary Anne towards the end of her life. One of my favourite moments was Will's commitment to pray for his mother after a discussion about how she considers prayers from those who have no faith to be some of the most powerful.

I was also glad for Will's care in portraying the rest of his family and his mother's friends. Although it is a story about his relationship with his mother and their bookclub, he is careful to show the loving relationship between his mother and father, and his two other siblings. He acknowledges all of the people that cherished his mother and because of this, the story moves beyond just him and her to become a tender memoir about the negotiation of death and dying.