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Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters

51 reviews

bookwormbi's review against another edition

challenging funny informative reflective slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.75

Whatever I feel about this book, it is a fascinating read. I have a counter argument for every opinion I have about the book, which makes it very difficult to boil down my thoughts into something that makes sense. To me, this book is what happens when a white trans woman is terrified of writing the trans equivalent of Girls, and then, inevitably, writes the trans equivalent of Girls. This is most obvious in the book’s treatment of race and identity politics. It took me a moment to figure out whether Peters was a self aware antiracist white writer writing white characters who were clumsy about race, or if she herself was clumsy about race. (Spoiler alert: it’s the latter.) Katrina is the mouthpiece for the racial considerations that Reese and Ames sidestep, but it just got exhausting to listen to her constantly fighting with clueless white people. To be clear, the concerns Katrina brings up are important and I appreciate Peters’s attempt to bring a different perspective into her chronicle of Ames and Reese’s privileged experience of transness, but as a person of color, it hurt my heart to imagine Katrina having this fight with Ames and Reese for the rest of her life. At no point does the narrative acknowledge the emotional labor Katrina is putting into this whole experience not just as a woman, but as a woman of color. Reese and Ames then marshal their trans experiences against her, and it just turns into this very futile game of oppression Olympics in which Peters, try as she might to detach herself from the outcome, ultimately lands her sympathies with the white women.

I got the impression that much of what I disliked about Detransition, Baby was Peters’s attempt to be write a story that could ostensibly be for all trans women from a very narrow perspective, instead of owning that narrowness. The best parts of the book—the Sex and the City Problem, the juvenile elephants, the journeys of Reese and Ames’s transitions and detransition and the dissolution of their relationship—were the parts where Peters wrote as a white trans woman for white trans women. In the wider book landscape, there are very few trans stories, and even less stories about trans women, and I understand Peters’s desire to try to universalize her experience a little bit. To her credit, she rarely tries to speak for trans women of color (although she certainly speaks for cis women of color via Katrina), and much of the discussion about race and racism seems to be a well-intentioned attempt to telegraph her awareness of her privilege, so people don’t say things like what I’m saying right now. To be frank, I wish this book could be the trans version of one of the thousands of TV shows that centers cishet white men and doesn’t trouble itself to think about anybody else. Peters is not the first queer or trans writer whose anxiety over whether or not Twitter would call them racist I could feel through the page. I’m tired of it, frankly. I am a trans person of color, I know I am exactly who Peters is afraid of, and I understand why. I can see a version of this book that I dislike because there are no people of color in it and the characters’ racial insensitivities go unchallenged. But to be honest? I think I’d respect that version of the book a bit more.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Miscarriage, Misogyny, Domestic abuse, and Transphobia

Minor: Racism

lily_peach's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.25

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, Infidelity, and Violence

Moderate: Transphobia, Racism, Outing, Homophobia, Sexual content, Suicide, and Suicide attempt

Minor: Body shaming

maarigirl's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny informative reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.0

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, and Transphobia

Minor: Suicide attempt, Racism, Miscarriage, Mental illness, Lesbophobia, Abortion, Pregnancy, Outing, Infidelity, and Hate crime

leadpal's review against another edition

emotional funny reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Transphobia, Sexual content, Misogyny, Miscarriage, Toxic relationship, Infidelity, Infertility, Toxic friendship, and Dysphoria

Moderate: Suicide attempt, Violence, Pregnancy, Stalking, Self harm, Hate crime, and Abortion

Minor: Cultural appropriation, Racism, Rape, Medical content, Homophobia, Mental illness, Alcoholism, and Eating disorder

auudrey's review against another edition

challenging emotional informative reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Physical abuse, Violence, Emotional abuse, Deadnaming, Outing, Pregnancy, and Transphobia

Moderate: Miscarriage, Racism, Sexism, Body shaming, Toxic friendship, Toxic relationship, and Hate crime

talonsontypewriters's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Homophobia, Hate crime, Panic attacks/disorders, Toxic relationship, Outing, Infidelity, Misogyny, Grief, Dysphoria, Transphobia, Sexual content, Pregnancy, Sexism, and Violence

Moderate: Miscarriage, Emotional abuse, Suicide, Deadnaming, Drug use, Classism, Medical content, Sexual harassment, Sexual assault, Domestic abuse, Stalking, Abortion, Racism, Death, Suicide attempt, and Alcohol

Minor: Suicidal thoughts, Alcoholism, Pedophilia, Animal death, Car accident, Murder, Eating disorder, Rape, War, Colonisation, Ableism, and Incest

annabulkowski's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Death of parent, Racism, Self harm, Sexual content, Suicidal thoughts, Homophobia, Mental illness, Misogyny, Suicide attempt, Abortion, Alcohol, Body shaming, Cultural appropriation, Dysphoria, Emotional abuse, Grief, Body horror, Car accident, Cursing, Fatphobia, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Death, Domestic abuse, Eating disorder, Sexual harassment, Infidelity, Lesbophobia, Panic attacks/disorders, Alcoholism, Biphobia, Hate crime, Suicide, Blood, Miscarriage, Police brutality, Sexism, Transphobia, Classism, Deadnaming, Gaslighting, Ableism, Adult/minor relationship, Bullying, and Pregnancy

briannasilveira's review against another edition

challenging emotional reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

What defines a family? Ames, currently living as a man, gets his boss, Karina, a cis woman, pregnant. While a family is something he has always wanted, he doubts his ability to fulfill the masculine role of father as he still feels like a trans woman at heart. So, Ames reconnects with his former partner, Reese, a trans woman, to see if she would like to parent with them. Ames believes that Reese will be able to understand Ames and make this parenting arrangement less cisnormative. Eventually, Karina warms up to the parenting arrangement and develops a relationship with Reese. Over time, Karina develops a more nuanced understanding of gender and family structure.

This book was such an interesting read and unlike anything, I had ever read before. I loved the nuanced approach to family and was excited to see how the book played out. Peters examines the characters’ past and present to help us understand how it informs their current situation. There is also a nuanced understanding of gender, which made me realize why someone may detransition while not coming off as anti-trans. These characters are beautifully complicated, and I loved getting to know them. I also loved how it didn’t shy away from Karina’s grappling with the whole situation, and I think that was realistic to how a situation like this would play out in real life. I loved Reese and Karina getting to know each other; it was a bright spot in a heavy book.

Since I’m cisgender, I’m hesitant to list out weaknesses of this book related to the characters. Ultimately, it’s not my place to say whether or not this book was one accurate portrayal of trans people. I was disappointed in the ending because I wanted to see their decision and how their lives turned out. A time jump for the last chapter would’ve sufficed. Some metaphors and concepts were hard to follow, and I had to read them 25 times. I assume the author just got excited while writing and went hard. One thing I will say is I wondered how the trans community felt about the repeated use of the word “transexual” or Reese’s affinity for married men. 

Overall, I found this book to be interesting and a great first read of 2023. I might be biased because I love character explorations and stories about families. I would recommend this book to most people, particularly those with a more advanced understanding of the LGBTQ+ community. I wouldn’t recommend this story to my mom because she may take away that trans people are unhappy once they transition and want to transition back. This book requires a nuanced understanding of gender to grasp fully.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Transphobia, Infidelity, Homophobia, and Hate crime

Moderate: Racism, Physical abuse, and Miscarriage

Minor: Suicide attempt and Suicide

sluckyy14's review against another edition

emotional funny inspiring reflective tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

4.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content and Transphobia

Moderate: Suicide and Suicide attempt

Minor: Misogyny and Racism

rionstorm's review against another edition

emotional sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.75

 I really wanted to like this, but it kind of just feels like watching my least favourite kind of trans people do things that make me sad on loop with no resolution or change. I don't think I liked a single character in it? There were a few moments that made me go Wow! because they hit on something very real and true about being trans, but there were more moments that just equated being trans to being exactly the miserable caricature cis people think of us as? I am sad that I didn't like it.  Also please I beg, enough with the weird "transfems in opposition to transmascs" / "transmascs have it so easy" / "transmascs and transfems arent REALLY friends" narrative? So not realistic and so not helpful.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Transphobia

Moderate: Mental illness, Suicidal thoughts, Addiction, and Racism