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bananakare9a's review against another edition
4.0
Required reading for anyone who is married to the opposite gender....4 stars bc I thought there should be more
caitgoss's review against another edition
4.0
Hard to rate a book that made me angry. On the one hand, well written, researched, logic’d. On the other hand, just reading about this topic made me pufferfish a whole lot.
Uuuuugggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
I feel exponentially less interested in ever having a relationship with a man after reading this, and I remain unfortunately male-oriented. The book offers no answer for this, and I am slightly resentful.
Uuuuugggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.
I feel exponentially less interested in ever having a relationship with a man after reading this, and I remain unfortunately male-oriented. The book offers no answer for this, and I am slightly resentful.
miranda_sanford's review against another edition
4.0
Definitely reaffirmed to choice to never have children. The audiobook was fine but it's also really easy for me to get lost in the academic of it all when it's not physically in front of me (but that's a me problem)
robsfavoriteaudiobooks's review against another edition
5.0
A great book for everyone a MUST READ for all straight men.
This was my second time reading this book: first when it came out in hardback a couple years ago and this time as an audiobook. Lockman does a great job exploring how the work of women’s liberation remains unfinished especially around home and family life. While women are empowered to pursue more personal and professional success men in heteronormative relationships have not increased their efforts in child rearing to the same degree.
Lockman is careful to point out that there are immense societal and economic forces involved that no individual solution can completely correct. He most workable option she comes back to is that society itself has to change and soon. Until then, the best thing for parents to do is reduce hours at work and refocus their efforts on parenting.
This was my second time reading this book: first when it came out in hardback a couple years ago and this time as an audiobook. Lockman does a great job exploring how the work of women’s liberation remains unfinished especially around home and family life. While women are empowered to pursue more personal and professional success men in heteronormative relationships have not increased their efforts in child rearing to the same degree.
Lockman is careful to point out that there are immense societal and economic forces involved that no individual solution can completely correct. He most workable option she comes back to is that society itself has to change and soon. Until then, the best thing for parents to do is reduce hours at work and refocus their efforts on parenting.
itsautumntime's review against another edition
7/31/2020 DNF at 30%. Maybe this will feel more applicable if I have kids, but I wasn’t enjoying this because a lot of it didn’t feel applicable for me. Did appreciate everything I read so far about how men and women are biologically not very different. A lot of stuff is nurture rather than nature. I wish I had been told that more when I was growing up.
stelhan's review against another edition
3.0
Demand more always. This is something I think about a lot and definitely a cautionary tale for me. And I would like my mother to read this and demand more for herself.
trazeng's review against another edition
5.0
An absolute must-read, even for women who are currently single or not planning on having children. Although the book looks at partnership through the lens of childcare, there are important takeaways about the social dynamics of gender throughout many aspects of heterosexual relationships. Ultimately, it elicits rage not only about the standards we set on women (as compared to men) with respect to raising their children, but also with respect to their careers, housework, empathy, and self-sacrifice. I encourage all men to read this book - I personally read many passages out loud to my husband, who was equally as enraged as I. Those passages led us to many in-depth conversations about the unfairness of gender norms and resulted in a mutual commitment to making equal partnership a top priority as we build our life together / add to our family. This would also be a FANTASTIC book club read...it really does elicit great, thoughtful conversation about the issue of gender stereotypes in the household.
goldandsalt's review against another edition
5.0
Densely cited yet very readable. I'm going to be pushing every father I know to read this, because this can't be a conversation that only mothers are having amongst themselves again and again and again. For me this was a lot of well researched old news, with some particularly blood-boiling quotes from interview subjects. I've read a bunch of books on this subject. But are the men reading these books? They should be.
Please, if you have or are planning to have children in a heterosexual partnership, and aspire to egalitarian parenting, read this book with your partner.
Please, if you have or are planning to have children in a heterosexual partnership, and aspire to egalitarian parenting, read this book with your partner.
naoloumay's review against another edition
4.0
A little stat heavy, but I'm here for that.
Equal partnership will take hard work, it will feel like its gone to far, it will cost the mother in ways we need to understand. Naming sexism for what it is will be a solid start
Equal partnership will take hard work, it will feel like its gone to far, it will cost the mother in ways we need to understand. Naming sexism for what it is will be a solid start
helent3's review against another edition
4.0
My thoughts for the first 25% of this book: “Wow this woman is angry.”
My thoughts for the second 25% of this book: “I am angry.”
My thoughts the last 50% of this book: “We should all be angry.”
Enjoyed the research and breakdown of the myth of equal partnership in parenthood. Did not enjoy the organization of the chapters.
Would highly recommend.
My thoughts for the second 25% of this book: “I am angry.”
My thoughts the last 50% of this book: “We should all be angry.”
Enjoyed the research and breakdown of the myth of equal partnership in parenthood. Did not enjoy the organization of the chapters.
Would highly recommend.