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Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman

197 reviews

sonshinelibrarian's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional hopeful inspiring mysterious reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated

4.0

I'll admit, I very nearly put this down after a couple of chapters. I was not connecting to the story or any of the characters. In fact, I was really wondering why this is so popular. But I was listening to it on audio and didn't have another book waiting for me, so I gave it a little more time and I'm glad I did. It didn't take too much more time before I was really invested in Eleanor's journey. The pacing of the revelations about her past is done so very well. I also really appreciated

that her relationship with Raymond stayed platonic, though it's definitely headed to romance. But I was really worried that it would end up being that her relationship with him would "fix" her. His friendship had a massive impact on helping her view herself differently, and he encouraged her to get the help she needed but he didn't try to save her himself other than just as any friend would do.

There are definitely some really dark themes and I don't really think that "funny" is the best word to describe this book, as a lot of professional reviews and cover copies say. But it is a book about working through past trauma, learning how to move forward, and how letting other people into your life is scary and often leads to heartache but is absolutely necessary to be a healthy, happy human.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Emotional abuse

Moderate: Suicidal thoughts

Minor: Toxic relationship and Sexual assault

elizabeth_henry's review against another edition

emotional funny hopeful inspiring lighthearted relaxing medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child abuse, Death of parent, Grief, Suicide attempt, Abandonment, Addiction, Body shaming, Child death, Fire/Fire injury, Toxic relationship, Alcoholism, Alcohol, Death, Mental illness, and Suicidal thoughts

kickitupanotch7's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful mysterious reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Mental illness, Child abuse, Child death, Emotional abuse, Suicide attempt, Stalking, Toxic relationship, and Suicidal thoughts

Moderate: Vomit, Grief, Alcoholism, Alcohol, Sexual assault, Cursing, Sexual violence, and Domestic abuse

bella613's review against another edition

challenging emotional funny reflective medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

Made me laugh and cry. Relatable and heartbreaking. Highly recommend ♡

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Rape, Toxic relationship, Death, Fire/Fire injury, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Child death, Stalking, Alcohol, Grief, and Child abuse

silver_lining_in_a_book's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

 

These days, loneliness is the new cancer—a shameful, embarrassing thing, brought upon yourself in some obscure way. A fearful, incurable thing, so horrifying that you dare not mention it; other people don’t want to hear the word spoken aloud for fear that they might too be afflicted, or that it might tempt fate into visiting a similar horror upon them.

This book has been a long-time coming. I was a little scared going into this because of all the high praise surrounding this book, but I shouldn't have been. I thought it was very well written, with an engaging plot and a lot of important messages to get across to the reader. I certainly had a couple of issues with how some things (the therapy, the SA, and the alcoholism to give just some examples) were handled and I found Eleanor's fatphobia (although in no way endorsed in the book) was somewhat difficult to read.

However, Eleanor was a very unique character and her charm really grew on me throughout the book. Despite the dark themes, Gail Honeyman's humour came across very well in my opinion and I loved the way she made me feel Eleanor's loneliness. If the trigger warnings do not look to overwhelming, I can definitely recommend this book to many of my close friends, it is one that is certainly worth the read! 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Physical abuse, Mental illness, Child abuse, Fire/Fire injury, Grief, Injury/Injury detail, Child death, Drug abuse, Addiction, Suicidal thoughts, Toxic relationship, Death of parent, Alcoholism, Abandonment, Suicide attempt, Panic attacks/disorders, Alcohol, Death, Emotional abuse, and Drug use

Moderate: Sexual harassment, Domestic abuse, Rape, and Sexual violence

Minor: Fatphobia and Body shaming

bootrat's review against another edition

emotional funny reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

This book is a bit slow to get going, but once we meet Sammy I started to really enjoy it. It made me cry several times, and hit slightly close to home, but overall I enjoyed it and it was definitely worth reading.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Alcoholism, Suicidal thoughts, Fire/Fire injury, and Mental illness

Moderate: Death, Child abuse, Rape, Stalking, Child death, Toxic relationship, and Vomit

Minor: Grief

jennnw's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny hopeful mysterious reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? A mix
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

A great story in many ways, but I felt it could do without two things. First,

the plot twist added very little to the story. Perhaps if it had been written differently, it may have worked better, but I honestly think the book may have been better without it. Written as it is, it feels like a cheap trick.

Secondly, I was shocked and disappointed by the brief bit about

fat shaming. The author states, through the protagonist's voice, reasons and ailments that may lead to someone being fat, implying that being fat is less than ideal or a fault to be corrected if medically possible. It is inaccurate and insensitive to portray fat as inherently being unhealthy.

The more I think on this last one, the more I'm disturbed by it and may adjust my rating.

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Mental illness, Suicide attempt, Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Suicidal thoughts, Grief, Fire/Fire injury, Death, Fatphobia, Child death, Alcoholism, Alcohol, and Adult/minor relationship

Minor: Fatphobia and Body shaming

I found the author's brief bit about fat people to be insensitive. The author lists forgiveable reasons/ailments why someone may be fat or overweight. In this the author, through the protagonist's point of view, makes a case for how fat doesn't inherently imply inferiority, but she fails to mention that fat does not inherently mean unhealthy.

lovelymisanthrope's review against another edition

4.5

I picked this up as a buddy read with a friend.
"Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine" follows Eleanor, a young woman who is striving to have a very okay life. Eleanor really struggles in most social situations, and she follows a pretty rigid routine, even on the weekends. But her life is completely fine, until she meets a new character: Raymond. Raymond's presence causes Eleanor to begin to question her life and Eleanor begins to wonder if there could be more to living than her monotonous, mundane day-to-day.
Eleanor is such a plain, ordinary character, but she captivated me in a way I cannot describe. I felt a kinship to Eleanor and her desire to lead a simple life, and I really enjoyed her commitment to a predictable routine. Eleanor being socially awkward and not being able to read people super well is also highly relatable. I wanted more for her and wanted to see her truly live her life, not just survive. I loved the balance Raymond brought to her life, and how, without really trying, he brought her out of her shell and showed her that there is more to life than what she thought, and that it is okay to live a more fully.
Eleanor's relationship with her mother is clearly toxic from the first interaction, but I did not see the direction that relationship was going until it was revealed. Eleanor's complicated relationship made her all the more relatable and I had even more empathy for her.
The writing style of this book really reminded me of Fredrik Backman, and Eleanor specifically reminded me of the main character in "Britt-Marie Was Here". The writing is very approachable, but engaging, and has a plainness to it that should not be misconstrued as boring.
I really enjoyed this novel, and I will definitely be keeping Gail Honeyman on my radar in the future. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Fire/Fire injury, Toxic relationship, Mental illness, and Alcohol

Moderate: Death, Medical content, Death of parent, Child death, Suicidal thoughts, and Suicide attempt

melli29_'s review against another edition

dark emotional funny hopeful inspiring reflective sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

didn't expect to enjoy this book so much

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicide attempt, Toxic relationship, Emotional abuse, Gaslighting, Child death, Mental illness, Alcoholism, Child abuse, Vomit, Alcohol, and Physical abuse

Moderate: Rape, Fire/Fire injury, Death of parent, and Grief

Minor: Cancer

chelsea_shelves's review against another edition

This was initially too silly for me and then much too dark especially when the blurb describes it as “smart, warm and uplifting.” I found it bleak, traumatic and flat. I looked up the content warnings about 40% through and realized it was only spiraling to harrowing. Thought I could do it, but after reading the synopsis I am so glad I put it down. This book was not for me at this point in my life. I also didn’t find the writing beautiful enough to balance out the darkness. I think the subplot of pursuing the singer and having a makeover were supposed to add levity but I found it disjointed and ridiculous. The new friendships would have been enough instead. Overall though it was all a bit dull and uncomfortable and I found it a chore to read that always left me sad. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Physical abuse, Child abuse, Child death, Confinement, Emotional abuse, Mental illness, Alcoholism, Fire/Fire injury, Murder, Toxic relationship, and Domestic abuse

Moderate: Fatphobia, Suicidal thoughts, and Rape