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tinkerer's review against another edition
I liked the beginning and had many insights. The example dialogues were not as convincing or helpful as I imagined. The audiobook of that section in particular, sounded so rote and untransformative…I figured I got what I needed which was a framework. Nothing is perfect.
cdjdhj's review against another edition
4.0
Lots to think about in this book. I think the last part of the title "How to Stop Seeking Love, Approval and Appreciation and Start Finding Them Instead" best describes what the book is about. The book encourages readers to question everything we have been taught to do to gain love and approval, finding a genuine connection in the process. Byron Katie teaches that in questioning and changing our thoughts, we can change our our results and our reality. Much good here. Worth reading.
elledom's review against another edition
5.0
shes a genius. it feels like the best therapy session in a book.
ecooper99's review against another edition
inspiring
reflective
fast-paced
5.0
I've become so cynical of self help books in the past few years that I almost didn't pick this one up, despite countless people recommending it to me. I'm so glad I was able to overcome my skepticism of the industry as a whole to grab "I Need Your Love - Is That True?" As a perpetual people pleaser, I didn't just read this book; I devoured it!
Full disclosure: a few years ago, I learned a version of "The Work" from another coach. I see now that what she was teaching was a diluted and much less impactful version of Byron Katie's inquiry.
Reading this book felt like I was having a heart-to-heart conversation with a wise friend who isn't afraid to ask some very tough questions, but in a loving and understanding manner. Katie doesn't tiptoe around the uncomfortable realities of seeking validation and love. Instead, she asks: "Do you really need someone else's approval to feel worthy?" Spoiler alert: The journey to answering that question is transformative.
I love that this book didn't just preach about compassion; it showed me how to be truly compassionate with myself, which, in turn, transforms my interactions with others. It's one thing to be told to practice self-love and acceptance, but it's another to be handed the tools to do so effectively and to see immediate, applicable changes in your life. This book does just that, making it an invaluable companion for anyone on the path to self-discovery.
allarminda's review against another edition
5.0
What shows up for me reading this book is an overwhelming sense of gratitude for every single relationship I've thus experienced, from intimate ones to friendships to the sacred role of mother to my daughter.
Listening through others' stories about love and lost expectations I saw so much of myself that I'd never questioned or even challenged. Since there are no new stories, I was able to vicariously turn around my own so that by the end of the book I had not only rewritten my stories, but transformed my perception of self and now see the love I always thought was "out there" has always been inside me.
It's difficult to describe it. Perhaps you should just get your own copy, but get the audio version: it's only 4+ hours and listening to Katie is reason enough to treat yourself. I have been recommending this book to clients all week and don't expect that will stop. I will also be revisiting this, along with her other body of work, as it's so instructive in its simplicity and profoundly impactful in its application.
Love is fabulous.
Listening through others' stories about love and lost expectations I saw so much of myself that I'd never questioned or even challenged. Since there are no new stories, I was able to vicariously turn around my own so that by the end of the book I had not only rewritten my stories, but transformed my perception of self and now see the love I always thought was "out there" has always been inside me.
It's difficult to describe it. Perhaps you should just get your own copy, but get the audio version: it's only 4+ hours and listening to Katie is reason enough to treat yourself. I have been recommending this book to clients all week and don't expect that will stop. I will also be revisiting this, along with her other body of work, as it's so instructive in its simplicity and profoundly impactful in its application.
Love is fabulous.
dejahentendu's review against another edition
1.0
this woman is psychotic. her advice is dangerous, and this should come with a warning that the advice is only applicable to people who are highly self-aware to start with.
pwyllugh's review against another edition
5.0
Many things I recognize from cognitive behavioral therapy where you also examine your thoughts. She gives you the tools to check your thoughts, I particularly like the one, where you have to think "What if the opposite of this thought were true?"
Eye-opening, and I have noticed how I do check my thoughts more often now. Life gets easier and there is some core truth to it: Once you see clearly, there is only love left.
Eye-opening, and I have noticed how I do check my thoughts more often now. Life gets easier and there is some core truth to it: Once you see clearly, there is only love left.
dariasn's review
4.0
Metoda zadawania 4 pytań i kwestionowania naszych przekonań/emocji wydaje się fantastyczna. Jestem bardzo ciekawa efektów.
queerlesen's review against another edition
1.0
In my opinion the questions you ask yourself in „The Work“ are dangerous. It might work in a few cases but in a lot of cases it might lead to gaslighting yourself. Especially when your partner is abusive and you haven‘t realized it yet. I think it‘s always better to not be alone with your thoughts. Just talk to your partner, friends or a therapist. If your friends or therapist say you partner is abusive, leave! They won‘t change. The glimpses of hope are a lie in most cases, they just manipulate you to stay in the abusive relationship. When your partner is loving and not abusive it helps to share the thoughts you project on them and talk about them together.
Additionally I didn‘t like how she belittled the people who she interviewed by calling them honey/sweetie (not sure if they are the right English words, I read the German translation). This is a no go for me.
Additionally I didn‘t like how she belittled the people who she interviewed by calling them honey/sweetie (not sure if they are the right English words, I read the German translation). This is a no go for me.