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3.9 AVERAGE
3.9 AVERAGE
It’s hard to read this book and try to understand how By becoming what he is he becomes what he detested a x is happy to be who he is! An honest, academic and heartfelt telling of the becoming of a man.
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incredible incredible
“affirming the reality of trans lives as a vital part of the American landscape”
such a life-giving exploration abt what it means to embody masculinity, what it means to have performed as a woman in every possible iteration, what the true value of living as yourself might be
“affirming the reality of trans lives as a vital part of the American landscape”
such a life-giving exploration abt what it means to embody masculinity, what it means to have performed as a woman in every possible iteration, what the true value of living as yourself might be
informative
reflective
medium-paced
Content Warnings
Minor: Addiction, Alcoholism, Cancer, Deadnaming, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Homophobia, Mental illness, Misogyny, Racism, Self harm, Sexual assault, Suicidal thoughts, Transphobia, Dementia, Suicide attempt
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I really enjoyed this memoir, it's very well written and almost painfully honest. It was very fascinating to find how this man picked up toxic masculinity from a young age and kind of revels in it, even though he knows it's not the healthiest or best way to think. It's just that it means something totally different to him as a trans man.
What I didn't understand was how fine he was with all the women in his life basically deciding he was now the enemy. Not only is that generally not how women should think about men, I'm shocked to think that people out there can almost randomly decide that one of their best friend suddenly what they "hate" and treat him like that. I also don't understand why he thinks it's okay for the people in his life to feel betrayed by his transitioning, even though he says more than once (and I believe him) that the transition saved his life and made it worth living.
What I didn't understand was how fine he was with all the women in his life basically deciding he was now the enemy. Not only is that generally not how women should think about men, I'm shocked to think that people out there can almost randomly decide that one of their best friend suddenly what they "hate" and treat him like that. I also don't understand why he thinks it's okay for the people in his life to feel betrayed by his transitioning, even though he says more than once (and I believe him) that the transition saved his life and made it worth living.
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
medium-paced
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
reflective
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A memoir that is also a deep reflection on what it means to be a man. While a completely different story and take on the topic of masculinity, it also evokes (for me) Paul Monette's Becoming a Man.
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