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suma_smoothie044's review
5.0
A thorough, critical, heartfelt discussion about rape, rape cultures and victims of rape. I couldn't put the book down until I finished it. Sohaila Abdulali discusses this topic expertly, and I wish everyone had a copy of it to read and learn from.
Book quote:
"I am more interested in moving along from this unevolved state of human interaction. I don't want to care about rapists' motivations. They should just stop. Whether it's wired in or because their daddy didn't play with him or they're just jerks or they're sexually frustrated or they do it because they can or they do it because they can't not do it or they're normal or they're abnormal, who cares? They should just stop.... the truth is that the only people who are truly responsible for preventing rape are rapists."
Book quote:
"I am more interested in moving along from this unevolved state of human interaction. I don't want to care about rapists' motivations. They should just stop. Whether it's wired in or because their daddy didn't play with him or they're just jerks or they're sexually frustrated or they do it because they can or they do it because they can't not do it or they're normal or they're abnormal, who cares? They should just stop.... the truth is that the only people who are truly responsible for preventing rape are rapists."
omelas33's review against another edition
5.0
It's sad that not many will pick up this book at a bookstore lest they'd be judged. I myself would never have come across this one, if not for a buy by the box book fair. I'm so glad I picked it up. The dialogues in the book is exactly what we need in the world right now. It's heartbreaking and infuriating, that human beings who capable of doing anything in the world CHOOSE to avoid CONSENT. Two of the basic rights that everyone deserves.
specificwonderland's review against another edition
challenging
dark
informative
sad
medium-paced
3.5
msteasam's review
4.0
Rape and murder are perfectly commonplace. The sun rises, someone is raped, the sun sets, someone is killed.
"Rape is not sex. If you hit someone on the head with a rolling pin, it's not cooking."
Seems like it's my year for thematically difficult reads! I dove into domestic abuse earlier this year, and now it seems I'm up to sexual violence. There's an unfortunate amount of cross-over between the two topics.
The style of this book is conversational and a bit jumpy, contributing to the personal feel of the writing. It's thoughtful, warm and very interesting.
I wouldn't say I learnt much from this book and it's certainly not an advanced dive into the subject; but is well worth a read, especially for beginners.
I really hope this book opens up some more conversations about this topic and makes it less taboo.
4.5. stars.
"Rape is not sex. If you hit someone on the head with a rolling pin, it's not cooking."
Seems like it's my year for thematically difficult reads! I dove into domestic abuse earlier this year, and now it seems I'm up to sexual violence. There's an unfortunate amount of cross-over between the two topics.
The style of this book is conversational and a bit jumpy, contributing to the personal feel of the writing. It's thoughtful, warm and very interesting.
I wouldn't say I learnt much from this book and it's certainly not an advanced dive into the subject; but is well worth a read, especially for beginners.
I really hope this book opens up some more conversations about this topic and makes it less taboo.
4.5. stars.
madscientisthair's review against another edition
challenging
dark
emotional
hopeful
inspiring
tense
medium-paced
5.0
ashfrxns's review against another edition
5.0
É uma leitura essencial quando falamos de feminismo e mais ainda quando falamos de estupro e todas suas complicações. Sohaila consegue abordar o assunto de todos os lados todos de uma forma sensível e leve ao mesmo tempo.
Ao mesmo tempo que vemos as dificuldades de uma vítima para decidir falar sobre a violência que sofreu ou não, para procurar ajuda, para procurar justiça, também vemos as causas de um estupro, porque uma coisa tão vil acontece e parece ser (e é tratado como se fosse) só uma quarta-feira na vida de um homem.
A autora abre espaço para a revolta do leitor, para acalma-lo e acima de tudo para lembrá-lo de uma forma muito responsável que AINDA estamos falando de estupro, ainda estamos falando de algo que transformou pra sempre a vida de alguém que de maneira alguma merecia isso.
Ao mesmo tempo que vemos as dificuldades de uma vítima para decidir falar sobre a violência que sofreu ou não, para procurar ajuda, para procurar justiça, também vemos as causas de um estupro, porque uma coisa tão vil acontece e parece ser (e é tratado como se fosse) só uma quarta-feira na vida de um homem.
A autora abre espaço para a revolta do leitor, para acalma-lo e acima de tudo para lembrá-lo de uma forma muito responsável que AINDA estamos falando de estupro, ainda estamos falando de algo que transformou pra sempre a vida de alguém que de maneira alguma merecia isso.