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drraytay's review
4.0
Moderate: Violence, Pregnancy, Domestic abuse, Toxic relationship, Medical content, Emotional abuse, Medical trauma, Infidelity, Death, Child death, Rape, Abandonment, War, Colonisation, and Miscarriage
Minor: Fire/Fire injury
nitar8's review against another edition
4.0
Moderate: Child death, Colonisation, War, Emotional abuse, Grief, Pregnancy, Classism, Abandonment, Death, and Miscarriage
koreanlinda's review
4.25
I learned a lot about what Vietnamese and Vietnamese Americans went through in the last few generations. I recommend coupling this book with Year of the Rabbit by Tian Veasna, which talks about a painful part of Cambodian history around a similar time as this book.
Review by Linda (Any Pronouns) in Feb 2024
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Artwork on Instagram @KoreanLinda
Graphic: Violence, Miscarriage, Colonisation, and War
Moderate: Genocide, Child abuse, and Emotional abuse
alixsbooktherapy's review
4.5
Bo cheated on his wife while the kids were in the house they saw the women naked and had lots of questions
Thi used to get weird calls from creepy men saying really inappropate things to her as a kid she used to read her dads paraphernalia memorizing all the pictures
The kids childhoods weren't your average childhoods they watched the exorcis at 5 years old (definitely not a movie for kids)
I hate that we go into the "to understand how my father became the way he was I had to learn what happend to him as a little boy" that's no excuse for what he did. Or how he wasn't a good dad
We learn alot about the past and how growing up back then is 10x different then it is now
Bo was raised in the jungle at the time in 1940 during the world war 2
Bos dad cheated on his mom with the neighbor at the end of the street and when she asked about it she was screamed at
Bo watched one night as his father beat his mother badly and threw her out of the house in 1945 at the height of the famine
Her mom hit the kids and the servants
Back in these times kids were forced to work if you didn't work then you were seen as lazy
Bos grandfather had cheated on his grandma, the fight escalted into her falling and cutting open her head on the door which Bo had to take her to the hostipal the next Day Bos grandma left Bos grandfather his grandfather when they arrives in sài gón tried to ask bos grandma "let's make a new home together " after what he did to her thankfully she said "no I don't need you" so fricken proud of her but sooner then later the diêms forces ended up fighting with others and it led to Bos grandmothers doorstep making her lose her securites and more scared of violence she agreed to go back to her cheating husband
"And there in 1962 I met your mother"
Thi's mom "besides the very first year, I met Bo and that was it he just monopolized me, it was like I was married from the very first year of college'
It was wholesome that Bo and thi's mom after they lost their first kid remembered the movie they went to and the place they both wanted to go, it became a place they went for a time to forget but also a brief honeymoon period
This book was so beautiful we got to learn about Thi's parents and her journey as a mom
When thi had her baby they ended up with jaundice so her and her partner were only allowed to see their kid for 20 minutes enough time to feed him then go back sleep for 90 minutes and do it again
The nurse when thi's baby was allowed to go home helped Thi breastfeed her baby as it didn't work the first try and it successfully worked
"To accidentally call myself mẹ was to slip myself into her shoes just for a moment"
"To let her be not what I want her to be but someone independent, self- determining, and free,means letting go of that picture of her in my head."
"What becomes of us after we die? Do we live on in what we leave our children?"
This book is a must read and I mean it this was a book that broke my heart then healed it again this was so beautiful thank you to Thi Bui for writing this beautiful book!
Graphic: Infertility, Medical trauma, Mental illness, Rape, Sexual assault, Body shaming, Chronic illness, Domestic abuse, Emotional abuse, Kidnapping, Medical content, Sexual harassment, Child abuse, Abandonment, Blood, Gore, Hate crime, Injury/Injury detail, Miscarriage, Murder, Cursing, Death of parent, Gaslighting, Grief, Gun violence, Panic attacks/disorders, Physical abuse, Pregnancy, Abortion, Bullying, Child death, Death, Fire/Fire injury, Religious bigotry, Sexual content, Slavery, Torture, and Violence
lasafica_reads's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Violence, War, Pregnancy, and Xenophobia
Moderate: Gun violence, Grief, Emotional abuse, Miscarriage, Classism, and Racism
kaitlinlovesbooks's review
4.0
Graphic: Pregnancy, Child death, Death, and War
Moderate: Blood, Emotional abuse, Grief, Violence, and Miscarriage
Minor: Xenophobia and Racism
booksandboba's review against another edition
4.5
Graphic: Grief, Child death, War, Pregnancy, Death, Genocide, and Mental illness
Moderate: Blood, Colonisation, Classism, Emotional abuse, Medical content, Racial slurs, Racism, and Physical abuse
Minor: Alcohol
thewordsdevourer's review against another edition
3.25
i personally think the structure can be a lil confusing w/ the frequent back-and-forth and the past-present transitions; there's a lot going on here after all. nevertheless, bui's placing of her familial history against the larger unfolding historical backdrop is great, providing useful context and deeper understanding. my fav thing abt this book, however, is bui's reflections on her family legacy, as well as her familiar feelings of equal gratefulness, resentment and guilt towards her parents. idk if it's simply an immigrant thing but it hits deep..
in terms of the art, i dont find it too eye-catching, not that it's unremarkable but perhaps bc it complements and flows rly well - too well - w/ the story. there's an appropriate level of detail and bui knows when to give her pages space, and the watercolor paints and lineart are nice. sometimes, however, the characters come across as unintentionally comical bc of the overly big head compared to their body; a few of the paneling can be confusing as well.
this is a good graphic novel for those who are interested in not only vietnamese history but also the human impact of its upheaval, the smaller stories of common ppl against the backdrop of historic change.
Graphic: Violence, Colonisation, War, Infidelity, and Racism
Moderate: Death, Emotional abuse, Pregnancy, Child death, and Domestic abuse
Minor: Mental illness and Fire/Fire injury
kathis_wonderland's review
4.0
This is my first graphic novel. It is quite a different reading experience than reading a book without illustrations, but I enjoyed it. I learnt a lot about Vietnam's history, which was really interesting. The mixture of personal story and history was awesome. I keep thinking about using this memoir in my history classes at some point in the future. It just gives a different point of view on the events than there is in the history books. The memoir also illustrates perfectly how your parents' trauma can affect your own life. I discovered that there is a teacher's guide, discussion questions and a pronunciation guide available on Thi Bui's website. Reading through some of the questions helped me to understand the book more and reflect on the story.
I find it difficult to write a review about a memoir that tells a personal story about someone's life. However, I really liked this book and learnt a lot while reading it. It educates the reader about historic events and at the same time, shows multi-generational struggles. To be honest, this book is quite a masterpiece that can be used in education.
Moderate: Miscarriage, Bullying, Child death, Colonisation, Death, Emotional abuse, Forced institutionalization, Genocide, Murder, Pregnancy, Domestic abuse, Grief, Racism, Violence, and War
brookey8888's review
3.0
Graphic: Fire/Fire injury, Confinement, Grief, Violence, Colonisation, Infidelity, Misogyny, Racial slurs, War, Child death, Racism, Sexism, Abandonment, Classism, Death, Emotional abuse, and Genocide