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The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace
Laura Doyle
3.28 AVERAGE
32 reviews for:
The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide to Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace
Laura Doyle
3.28 AVERAGE
challenging
funny
slow-paced
challenging
funny
hopeful
informative
medium-paced
This is a rough one to review. The practical how-to-surrender stuff is very valuable. Valuable enough that I’ll hold onto the book and reference it again.
On the other hand, the general philosophy is lacking, and not because I’m at all offended by highly patriarchal marriage roles (I’m significantly more of an “evil woman-hating fascist” than the the author). Laura Doyle is a feminist who admits she made up her own “god” to be whatever she likes. Worst of all was the admonition that we need to just accept our husbands watching pornography and its related activities because “98% of men masturbate and 2% lie.”
So wrong on so many levels, most especially her ideas that pornography is normal and should be acceptable! Sad. I also don’t like one section that basically says to tolerate your husband treating your kids poorly as long as it isn’t physical. Also, in her mind, verbal abuse should mostly be tolerated under many conditions. Again, big nope.
At one point she suggests that you never correct your husband to the point of LETTING THEM DRIVE ACROSS THE STATE LINE IN THE WRONG DIRECTION. I’m sorry, my very humble, practical husband would be super mad at me if I did this, lol. This book goes a bit far in assuming men can’t handle any assistance or even correction, though in general most women (me included) err too far on the side of distrust and nitpicking.
Overall, I’d still recommend this, but only to those who understand God given roles in marriage and who know when their situation warrants separation (this author also clearly has no problem with divorce and remarriage when it’s warranted in her narrow view of true abuse).
For people like myself, there is a ton of helpful info in here. I consider my marriage pretty great, but at times I still struggle with control and the resulting anxiety and I need the reminder that I don’t have to carry the world on my shoulders. :)
reflective
fast-paced
Many wives have the "pants on", being the "Man" in the house. Well, if You live like a man, You are going be treated like a man. There is always a price to pay.
Anyone who knows me would probably be shocked to hear that I read this book, and even more shocked to hear that I loved this book.
I read this in my post-divorce, where did I go wrong in my marriage phase. And while this book for sure does not have ALL the answers, it had the ones I needed at the time.
I would absolutely recommend this book to friends - male or female - who are in a marriage that's struggling, or contemplating marriage.
I read this in my post-divorce, where did I go wrong in my marriage phase. And while this book for sure does not have ALL the answers, it had the ones I needed at the time.
I would absolutely recommend this book to friends - male or female - who are in a marriage that's struggling, or contemplating marriage.
The name & cover art is very عالم حواءish lol xD
Maybe I'll write a review later!
Maybe I'll write a review later!
hopeful
informative
inspiring
medium-paced
Some weird sexism stuff and at times feels culty, but makes good points about respect and love and care.
The Surrendered Wife: How to manipulate your husband into doing what you wanted him to do anyway while stoking your own ego about what a good person you are. *shudder*
Pro tip: If you begin communicating honestly and respectfully before you get married and continue to do so after you get married, then very little of what this book says will be applicable!
Pro tip: If you begin communicating honestly and respectfully before you get married and continue to do so after you get married, then very little of what this book says will be applicable!