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kimball_hansen's review against another edition
4.0
Good short little book! Hmmm I wonder if it was abridged...
Notes:
Worry is the central component of all anxiety disorders and depression.
Chronic worriers have a higher level of trauma especially physical threat of harm when they were kids. A lot of worry is an attempt to avoid your emotions.
Adults who worry had parents who worried.
Worrying reinforces the belief that you are not competent to handle the problems.
If you never make any decisions then you risk possible growth and your regret will be even greater.
Radical acceptance of reality can help us when we are frustrated, angry, depressed, or anxious. Radical acceptance means you are going to look at reality not the way you demand that it has to be, but the way that it is.
Uncertainty training helps combat worry.
It is not failure that leads to depression but how you interpret that failure.
If you fail at something you can still do everything you did before you failed.
Failing at something means I tried, not trying is worse than failure.
Every failure is followed by a success.
I love how he met his wife by leaving his apartment instead of ruminating about being single and being bored.
If you're a worrier then think about the present moment and what's in your control."what is going on right now?"
Notes:
Worry is the central component of all anxiety disorders and depression.
Chronic worriers have a higher level of trauma especially physical threat of harm when they were kids. A lot of worry is an attempt to avoid your emotions.
Adults who worry had parents who worried.
Worrying reinforces the belief that you are not competent to handle the problems.
If you never make any decisions then you risk possible growth and your regret will be even greater.
Radical acceptance of reality can help us when we are frustrated, angry, depressed, or anxious. Radical acceptance means you are going to look at reality not the way you demand that it has to be, but the way that it is.
Uncertainty training helps combat worry.
It is not failure that leads to depression but how you interpret that failure.
If you fail at something you can still do everything you did before you failed.
Failing at something means I tried, not trying is worse than failure.
Every failure is followed by a success.
I love how he met his wife by leaving his apartment instead of ruminating about being single and being bored.
If you're a worrier then think about the present moment and what's in your control."what is going on right now?"
clarke11235's review
4.0
Similar content as “Feeling Good” but with a narrower focus. Targeted for those that struggle with excessive worry and anxiety. A good read, but I’d definitely recommend “Feeling Good” over this one.
bookscatteandme's review
4.0
I'm amazed at how helpful this book was. It really does have some great tips in it. I highly recommend it for anyone with anxiety or worry issues. My only problem is that about halfway through it starts to drag. It seems like he rephrases techniques he has described earlier and is repeating himself. That said, don't let it scare you away.
rebeccazh's review
3.0
i really needed this. i have been having incredibly bad anxiety continually for at least half a year -- my body is in flight/fight terror almost perpetually, i lost one of my strongest personality strengths (the ability to stay present/be grateful, appreciative and satisfied with what i have instead of fixating on what i don't), i wasn't eating/sleeping well, i couldn't relax, i was in almost perpetual mental pain, i was hypersensitive, i was either hopeless/despairing/incredibly sad or paralyzed by anxiety or both, there were some days when i spent more time crying than not... it was pretty bad.
the greatest benefit i got out of this was learning how to better spot the ways my mind distorts things and thus having more emotional peace of mind (i am still anxious and depressed af but it's like 50% of the time instead of 95%, lol, big win tbh). i've also benefited from the exercises hugely because i have been getting a lot better at understanding my emotions.
the greatest strength of this book is how practical it is. it's written in very easy to understand language, there are examples and they offer concrete and solutions that you can practice. it explains the psychology behind worrying/anxiety (what emotional payoff we get out of it), cognitive biases, the costs of this worrying, and simple solutions. i had a very clear idea of all the tricks my mind likes to employ after i read this book. after reading this, i also began to realize i have perfectionistic standards of myself and i suck at handling my own vulnerability/flaws, which is why i'm currently reading [b:Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead|13588356|Daring Greatly How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead|Brené Brown|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1337110319l/13588356._SY75_.jpg|19175758].
some of the weaknesses of this book: it lacks nuance. it's a bit of a one-size-fits all type of book -- the advice and examples that he gives are general. and maybe i'm a bit sensitive but leahy's description of some of his clients/the general tone is almost dismissive/condescending. i'd say this book is an easy introduction/starting point to understanding the psychology behind worrying.
anyway, i am definitely checking out more cbt books because i find the practical nature of these books extremely helpful.
the greatest benefit i got out of this was learning how to better spot the ways my mind distorts things and thus having more emotional peace of mind (i am still anxious and depressed af but it's like 50% of the time instead of 95%, lol, big win tbh). i've also benefited from the exercises hugely because i have been getting a lot better at understanding my emotions.
the greatest strength of this book is how practical it is. it's written in very easy to understand language, there are examples and they offer concrete and solutions that you can practice. it explains the psychology behind worrying/anxiety (what emotional payoff we get out of it), cognitive biases, the costs of this worrying, and simple solutions. i had a very clear idea of all the tricks my mind likes to employ after i read this book. after reading this, i also began to realize i have perfectionistic standards of myself and i suck at handling my own vulnerability/flaws, which is why i'm currently reading [b:Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead|13588356|Daring Greatly How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead|Brené Brown|https://i.gr-assets.com/images/S/compressed.photo.goodreads.com/books/1337110319l/13588356._SY75_.jpg|19175758].
some of the weaknesses of this book: it lacks nuance. it's a bit of a one-size-fits all type of book -- the advice and examples that he gives are general. and maybe i'm a bit sensitive but leahy's description of some of his clients/the general tone is almost dismissive/condescending. i'd say this book is an easy introduction/starting point to understanding the psychology behind worrying.
anyway, i am definitely checking out more cbt books because i find the practical nature of these books extremely helpful.
arthuraugustyn's review
4.0
Easy book to jump around with. Practical advice. Feel like I've got a better road map for addressing problems.
k8iedid's review
4.0
This book said "katie, you don't have to keep feeling like this. Let me give you some insights why worrying doesn't help, and what's at the root of worrying. Ok, now you have to do the work." It really did!
polinag's review
challenging
emotional
hopeful
informative
inspiring
lighthearted
reflective
slow-paced
4.0