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Talking to Strangers: What We Should Know about the People We Don't Know by Malcolm Gladwell

44 reviews

ferdie's review against another edition

challenging informative sad tense medium-paced

4.5

The audio book is amazing. Hearing the voices as much as we could felt important to the points Gladwell was making about what we really know from our observations of strangers. In a highly divided world, "Talking to strangers" makes me reevaluate my quick judgement and learn to move through it towards curiosity and nuance. 

TThere were parts I greatly disagreed with and times where I waited for Gladwell to bring in perspectives in that he just... didn't. Overall, I appreciated what he added to conversation and definitely learned some new things, but am also walking away from the book feeling like there big pieces missing.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Pedophilia, Rape, Sexual assault, Police brutality, and Sexual violence

Moderate: Suicide, Adult/minor relationship, and Alcohol

Minor: Emotional abuse, Torture, and Alcoholism

sidekicksam's review against another edition

2.25

A re-read of a book I read back in 2020, after the pandemic caused both a lot of isolation and division. People were literally keeping their distance, interacting less with strangers, but the summer of '20 also had some very painful revelations and awakenings for the race and equality discussions. 

Reading it again, I feel refreshed in the theories he outlines in the book. The 3 problems we have when encountering strangers (defaulting to the assumption that people can be trusted; thinking people's feelings always match their appearance and our inability to judge correctly whether someone is lying or the mismatch is happening; and that context is vital but also underappreciated) are a few that kept me curious, thinking and will stay with me in the back of my mind in encounters with strangers. Interesting food for thought and definitely contemplations that will stay with me. 

That being said, I am uneasy with some of the examples Gladwell decided to explore to prove his points. I already had some question marks during my re-read, but after reading multiple 1-star reviews (which have gained 1,000+ likes) on the first page, I'm seriously reconsidering whether this book is good enough to be read on its own (without the accompanying guide/reviews to also challenge the examples given). 

To use cases of rape and child molestation and trying to explain away the motives of witnesses or even instigators of the crimes is just... what? Why would you invalidate experiences of trauma instead of exploring the faulty assumptions on which we make errors (the cases of the Cuban spies in the CIA were much more compelling I think). 

Example: Brock Turner raping a passed out drunk girl on campus is explained away by their (mutual) excessive drinking and misinterpeted signals - I have never had to explain to any of my boyfriends that no means no (and that if I don't wake up or respond that is also a big fucking NO). 

Not taking the prejudice of race into consideration when discussing Sandra Bland's case, but explaining it away to miscommunication... especially with police brutality against Black people blowing up in the media in recent years, it's just harrowing.

I'm happy I don't just read books but also review them, because I may not have gotten further in my evaluation than 'whoo interesting material' without re-evaluating also the icky (and blatantly wrong) bits. 

Read it at your own volition, but do heed my warning. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Racism, Rape, Sexual assault, Torture, Child abuse, Hate crime, Sexual violence, War, Murder, Physical abuse, Police brutality, Racial slurs, Sexual harassment, Suicide, Confinement, Death, and Alcohol

bjdarby's review

slow-paced

1.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual content, Sexual assault, Racism, Police brutality, Adult/minor relationship, Suicide, Sexual harassment, Sexism, Rape, Child abuse, Misogyny, Pedophilia, Death, Violence, and Sexual violence

catherinemorganowen's review against another edition

challenging dark informative reflective fast-paced

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Rape, Racism, Sexual violence, and Torture

csnyder0018's review

challenging informative reflective medium-paced

3.75

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Classism, Sexual assault, Sexual violence, Domestic abuse, Death, Suicide, and Hate crime

mollyob's review against another edition

1.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicide, Sexual assault, Torture, Sexual violence, and Police brutality

Moderate: Islamophobia, Murder, and Racism

annaroses's review against another edition

informative medium-paced

3.5

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual violence, Violence, Suicidal thoughts, Racial slurs, Pedophilia, Rape, Racism, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Torture, Sexual assault, Self harm, and Police brutality

pagguini123's review

challenging informative reflective medium-paced

3.5

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Sexual violence, Police brutality, Pedophilia, Rape, Child abuse, Suicide, Murder, Injury/Injury detail, Hate crime, Sexual harassment, Sexual assault, Mental illness, Gun violence, and Child death

brianaisgoingplaces's review

challenging informative reflective slow-paced

5.0

This was my first book by Malcolm Gladwell, and if his other books are like this, I get the hype. I initially went into this book thinking it would be a guide on how to be more outgoing and make more friends. Maybe it is that in a very very roundabout way. More accurately, though, it’s a look into how we interact with the people we don’t know applied to very high stakes, sometimes life or death situations. I feel like there was a lot of nuance shared in the book, and I had some takeaways (like it’s okay to trust people because most people don’t lie, snd even if they do we’re notoriously bad at recognizing that) that made me feel a lot better about my own interactions with others. I’m excited to read more of his books. 

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Sexual assault, Sexual violence, and Police brutality

montyalmoro's review against another edition

informative medium-paced

2.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Drug use, Emotional abuse, Hate crime, Rape, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Alcohol, Alcoholism, Drug abuse, Sexual harassment, Suicidal thoughts, Child abuse, Gun violence, Police brutality, Self harm, Sexual assault, and Sexual violence