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My Body by Emily Ratajkowski

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ichthusangel's review

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challenging reflective tense fast-paced

4.5


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mira167's review against another edition

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challenging emotional informative reflective tense medium-paced

4.0

Überraschenderweise sehr gut, obwohl es emotional sehr viel ist

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jessiejonesbentley's review against another edition

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challenging emotional reflective relaxing sad fast-paced

4.5


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coreyarch9's review

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challenging emotional inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.0

"I want more for myself. I will proclaim all of my mistakes and contradictions, for all the women who cannot do so, for all the women we've called muses without learning their names, whose silence we mistook for consent. I stood on their shoulders to get here."

In My Body, Em Rata unpacks her relationship with her body - her source of fame, her source of security, and a piece of her that is constantly evolving as she grows. 

And that's all this book is, and all it claims to be. There are other stories to dissect the particulars and modalities that are constantly in flux and in contradiction as Emily grows from a quintessential YOLO youth with pretty privilege to being thrust into the limelight as an example of what is (or what isn't) feminism, to legal cases literally determining the ownership of her likeness.

Extremely well-written and easy to connect to. I loved that there wasn't a clear angle for this book and that, instead, it embraced the conflict of different aspects of the relationship between person and body.

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bealittlebrave's review

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challenging emotional inspiring reflective medium-paced

4.75

I *loved* this. So insightful and observant, these extremely personal essays moved me deeply.

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sammantha's review against another edition

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emotional informative inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

5.0


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nebraskanwriter's review against another edition

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challenging dark emotional reflective sad tense medium-paced

3.0

Speechless. I’ll let the quotes speak for themselves….

“I want to calculate my beauty to protect myself, to understand exactly how much power and lovability I have.”

“I liked to tell friends that the French word for model is mannequin. “So,” I’d say, shrugging, “I’m a mannequin for a living.”

“As the number on my scale went down, the number on my checks had been going up. The agency had taken notice.”

“In my early twenties, it had never occurred to me that the women who gained their power from beauty were indebted to the men whose desire granted them that power in the first place. Those men were the ones in control, not the women the world fawned over. Facing the reality of dynamics at play would have meant admitting how limited my power really was—how limited any woman’s power is when she survives and even succeeds in the world as a thing to be looked at.”

“The stylist, their assistant, the client or the editor, the other models, and sometimes the photographer will stand right in front of you and wait as you strip. You understand that your body is a means for them to accomplish what they’re here to accomplish: to make an image to sell whatever it is they’re selling. They’re in charge of it now, not you. Now hand it over, they seem to say. Your body is why you’re here and we need it. Now.”

“I look down at my body and it doesn’t  feel like my own. It feels like something, but not me. They can look at me all they want, because they’re right; my body is just a tool.” 

“The world celebrates and rewards women who are chosen by powerful men.” 

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gteng's review

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dark emotional hopeful informative reflective tense fast-paced

3.25

Overall, a book that makes you reflect upon the way our society treats women in entertainment industries like modelling and acting. I think where the book fell a little flat for me is that at times Emily doesn't seem to recognize or reflect on the privilege that she has. 

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penguiniq's review

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challenging emotional reflective fast-paced

4.5


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krissyyne's review

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emotional reflective sad slow-paced

3.75

 "I thought of my mother's belief that spaces hold memories, that walls take on meaning, that homes become a part of us, just as people do. I imagined her, young and strong, in all the rooms she had known. I wondered whether the more I became a woman and the more space I occupied apart from her, the more she would deteriorate." 

Emily Ratajkowski is not someone I knew well before reading this book. I had first heard of her when she chose to raise her (now son, as I understand) as someone with they/them pronouns. It was an interesting thing to hear, especially as she was the first major person I'd heard of doing something like that. Her status as a model, though, was what made me follow her. It's what made me follow Gigi and Bella Hadid, Kendall Jenner, and a slew of lesser known models whose posts I ate up while simultaneously wondering why I couldn't look like that.

I think her book is fascinating. In a world where models are both rewarded and villainized for their beauty, Emily seeks to explain the enigma behind being famous for her body. From her mother to friends to employers, being "beautiful" - a standard, palpable beautiful - was paramount. It gave Emily rewards in the form of validation and attention from older men and women. But it also came with unchecked pain as that attention devolved into (TW!!!) occurrences of stalking, rape, and sexual assault. It provided people with the ability to write her off, because her looks stereotyped her as dumb and unworldly.

I admire Emily. I admire her courage for writing what she did. It is no easy feat to bare yourself, physically and emotionally, on a public forum for people to encourage or disparage you as they wish. Her book, while maybe not the cleanest writing I've ever read, is brave and provides insight into the possible mindsights of models in a way I've never thought to think about before. 

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