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ayaelniaj's review
5.0
This book really opened my eyes to how different men and women are, and how things can be lost in translation which will result in conflicts. I like how unbaised the book is and how the author gave both genders tough love where it was needed.
butterfly_bombshell's review
5.0
This book was really helpful! I learned a lot about men and women. I will definitely be using some of these things in my marriage.
erinbrook's review
1.0
š¤® I listened to the audiobook at work. Had I not been able to tune it out to get work done, Iād have quit it after he told women to go shopping to give men their space. Hereās a brief summary: Men are basically children that need to be both babied and left alone, and women nag too much.
In my defense: I only read this book because of a prompt on the Pop Sugar Reading Challenge. Maybe Iām too cynical for this, or maybe this is why Iām single. Either way, I hated it.
In my defense: I only read this book because of a prompt on the Pop Sugar Reading Challenge. Maybe Iām too cynical for this, or maybe this is why Iām single. Either way, I hated it.
lisakerd's review
1.0
DNF 40%
John Gray makes broad generalizations about genders that are at best wrong, at worst very insulting. I had to stop reading when Gray continued to harp on the message that women need to leave men alone and essentially not communication their concerns with them. He actually said that if a woman does need to communicate an issue with her husband, she should broach the subject nicely then apologize if her husband gets offended. ...What century is this?
This book reinforces toxic masculinity with Grayās stereotypes. Also, early on he says typically only women read self-help books. Sooo heās admitting his target audience is women, but speaks with a lot of judgement about women and how āunreasonableā and ādramaticā they are
John Gray makes broad generalizations about genders that are at best wrong, at worst very insulting. I had to stop reading when Gray continued to harp on the message that women need to leave men alone and essentially not communication their concerns with them. He actually said that if a woman does need to communicate an issue with her husband, she should broach the subject nicely then apologize if her husband gets offended. ...What century is this?
This book reinforces toxic masculinity with Grayās stereotypes. Also, early on he says typically only women read self-help books. Sooo heās admitting his target audience is women, but speaks with a lot of judgement about women and how āunreasonableā and ādramaticā they are
vortimer's review
4.0
I've read many books in many genres, but this is my first expedition into the vast jungles of the self improvement/self help shelves.
I say read, but the last few months I've experimented with audio books, so I in fact listened. I've discovered that a skilled narrator can lift material, but in this case the book was narrated by the author, and whatever his other skills, this wasn't one of them.
I'm slightly surprised it was written as late as 1992, as it seems to invoke a world where the (American) middle-class male returns from work to the wife at home, and the problems in what seems to me an unequal, old fashioned, relationship.
He also hammers the, admittedly clever, central metaphor home until it forms almost a mantra. Thankfully, he slows this down in the final third.
Some of his points do seem to strike home, occasionally with almost the force of an epiphany, though the highly transactional relationship model he portrays does seem bizarre to me.
Some of the reasons he ascribes as the root causes for behaviours and actions have given me food for thought.
However, while giving me a lot to think about, I don't think I'll be sweeping my bookshelves clean to make room for other books of this nature.
I say read, but the last few months I've experimented with audio books, so I in fact listened. I've discovered that a skilled narrator can lift material, but in this case the book was narrated by the author, and whatever his other skills, this wasn't one of them.
I'm slightly surprised it was written as late as 1992, as it seems to invoke a world where the (American) middle-class male returns from work to the wife at home, and the problems in what seems to me an unequal, old fashioned, relationship.
He also hammers the, admittedly clever, central metaphor home until it forms almost a mantra. Thankfully, he slows this down in the final third.
Some of his points do seem to strike home, occasionally with almost the force of an epiphany, though the highly transactional relationship model he portrays does seem bizarre to me.
Some of the reasons he ascribes as the root causes for behaviours and actions have given me food for thought.
However, while giving me a lot to think about, I don't think I'll be sweeping my bookshelves clean to make room for other books of this nature.