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4.2 AVERAGE
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informative
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emotional
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reflective
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Although the book is was long and complex, Maté is able to provide examples and studies to show that a lot of the feelings and thoughts I have are not unique and that getting to the bottom of my traumas ("little t" trauma, not physical "big T" Trauma) may be incredibly beneficial to my overall health. Many of my chronic illness symptoms are frequently observed in others. Chapter Seven was particularly relevant to me, but I didn't feel like he provided any tools or advice on how to approach these things he acknowledges aren't even part of our conscious behavior.
This is the book i am now recommending to everyone, as the wellness of our community and lives depends on our healing our individual and collective trauma. You might be someone who has risen out of trauma with resilience, and not recognize your trauma, or you lived through working in a hospital during COVID-19 and were told you were better for it, or some maligned bandaid term like, “what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” The truth is exposed in this tome, we all have trauma and the most impactful thing you can do it take means to heal it.
10000000 stars. Dr. Maté challenges what we view as our “norm” in society and speaks to sooooo many larger issues we need to tend to as a society if we want real change. So much wisdom in this book. It seems like I have highlighted the entire book looking back through it. So many good points I will absolutely be going back to as a therapist and a human.
A must read for everyone!!!!!
A must read for everyone!!!!!
Lucid albeit somewhat over extended take on society’s impact on mental health.
Enjoyed the bits about body mind connection, and the many facets of trauma. What I didn’t think was as interesting was the authors extreme progressive stance on certain issues masquerading as obvious/ scientific.
Trauma is a fracturing of the self / relationship to the world
An event is traumatizing if the renders one diminished in a way that persists
One of the most poisonous consequences of shame is the loss of compassion for one self
Self puffery is a sure manifestation of self loathing
Hyperfunctioning on top of inner distress is a theme among autoimmune
The autoimmune are prone to self negating traits: compulsive self sacrificing for others, suppression of anger, excessive concern about social acceptability
There are two essentials needs that clash: attachment and authenticity
Inauthenticity is misidentified with survival because the two were synonymous during the formative years.
We develop pseudo strengths like overachieving, but like addicts, the relief we buy with our compensatory pseudo strengths do not last: we crave more and more, again and again. Physiologically, among the the brain chemicals released are our internal opioids or endorphins.
“I spent 40 years in insanity, looking back, my focus was 99% what success looked like in society and the corporations I worked for, no focus on what I needed”
Social contact reduces ADHD symptoms
Social belonging is equally important as autonomy and achievement
Healing is a natural movement towards wholeness
Anger in its natural form is a healthy boundary defense mechanism
What am I not saying no to?
Enjoyed the bits about body mind connection, and the many facets of trauma. What I didn’t think was as interesting was the authors extreme progressive stance on certain issues masquerading as obvious/ scientific.
Trauma is a fracturing of the self / relationship to the world
An event is traumatizing if the renders one diminished in a way that persists
One of the most poisonous consequences of shame is the loss of compassion for one self
Self puffery is a sure manifestation of self loathing
Hyperfunctioning on top of inner distress is a theme among autoimmune
The autoimmune are prone to self negating traits: compulsive self sacrificing for others, suppression of anger, excessive concern about social acceptability
There are two essentials needs that clash: attachment and authenticity
Inauthenticity is misidentified with survival because the two were synonymous during the formative years.
We develop pseudo strengths like overachieving, but like addicts, the relief we buy with our compensatory pseudo strengths do not last: we crave more and more, again and again. Physiologically, among the the brain chemicals released are our internal opioids or endorphins.
“I spent 40 years in insanity, looking back, my focus was 99% what success looked like in society and the corporations I worked for, no focus on what I needed”
Social contact reduces ADHD symptoms
Social belonging is equally important as autonomy and achievement
Healing is a natural movement towards wholeness
Anger in its natural form is a healthy boundary defense mechanism
What am I not saying no to?
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emotional
informative
inspiring
reflective
slow-paced