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An instructive guide on how to assess the factors in the world that disconnect us from our authentic selves and the severe real world ramifications of this disconnect en masse. Dr. Maté is a beautiful writer, and while a lot of his evidence rests on case studies and phenomenological studies, he is able to paint a picture of clear conceptual connections that I know I have struggled to articulate and grasp. This should be mandatory reading: it leaves me feeling hopeful and empowered to enact change
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I want to buy this book and give it to everyone I know.
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There is strong evidence that childhood traumatic events significantly impact the inflammatory immune system offering a potential molecular pathway by which early trauma confirms vulnerability to develop psychiatric and physical disorders later in life.
Young Kids stress hormone levels for example are heavily influenced by the emotional atmosphere in the home whether out right conflict or bristling tension. Asthma is a well-studied example; the inflammation of child's lungs is directly affected by their mother or father's emotion.
Experience in other words is what determines how our genetic material expresses itself in the end.
The rapid increase in auto immune diseases clearly suggests that environmental factors are at play, in other words something in our environment or a combination of things are inflaming our bodies.
The highly skew gender distribution of auto immune disease about 70% to 80% of suffers are women among whose conditions are a leading cause physical disability and of death.
Such hyperfunctioning on top of hidden inner distress is a recuring theme among many autos' immune patients.
A recent American study found that emotional physical abuse in childhood more than doubles the risk of auto immune diseases.
As in the other auto immune conditions in virtually in every case the childhood patterning that led people to be over continuous, hyper responsible, and emotionally stoic about their own needs was evident, as were stresses preceding the illness such as interpersonal conflict, family crisis, loss of a relationship, or added duties at work.
Its not love we get attached to but the lack of it.
Depression as an adaptation of the brain to the loss of connection, as a physiological shut down mechanism to terminates stress. Which if sustained would be dangerous for infant mammals.....depression appears as a coping mechanism to alleviate grief and rage and to inhibit behaviors that would invite danger.
Chronic state of panic. It is adaptive for a brain of a child in her situation to be in a state of hyper alert fear even when no immediate danger is present. These adaptions to adversity once habitual cannot discern between major and minor threat or no threat at all. The capacity to recognize safety or threat will evolve in a healthy way under conditions of safety but be disrupted under prolong insecurity. Possible outcomes include feeling besieged when there is no threat or conversely remaining oblivious to danger whenever it is present.
It is not your fault, and it is not personal.
In an atomized materialistic culture people are induced to take everything personally, to see their own physical and mental distress as misfortunes or even failures, belonging to them alone.
The manifestation of Unconscious transactions between men and women play out daily in our culture to the detriment of both sexes but especially at the cost of women physical and emotional wellbeing. The gender gap in health is real, if under appreciated. Women are more subject to chronic disease even long before old age and they more years of poor health and disability. Women have it worse.
It is no longer a secret that well beyond childhood females in this culture face the constant menace of constant sexual harassment in both private and professional life. (This poses a threat to their physical and mental wellbeing, not only in a literal since but with the constant threat, stress and hyper awareness poses a threat too.)
The sexualization of women, is another source of women's ill health, being valued for the use someone else can make of you is an assault to the self. (Assaulting autonomy)
The most popular, or profitable, kind of internet porn today is known in the industry as gonzo a genre characterized by hardcore, body punishing sex in which women are demeaned and debased.
Girls must contend with a toxic conflation of sexuality with severance.
The suppression of vulnerable emotions, of course, ins one manifestation of male trauma leading in execrably to a withering compassion to others, especially when those others have something we want. As in every instance of date rape and all nonconsensual aggression.
Mothers, women, are the shock absorbers of society.
Mother rage. Erupts from men and women must keep them happy.
The disreputably high rate of anxiety and depression in women stems in large part from their absorb of male anxiety and their culturally directly responsibility for soothing it. In that since women are ingesting anti dep and anxiety meds for both sexes.
The way to get along is to go along.
Fibromyalgia
A) Your personality is not you; you are not your personality. It is like clothing.
B) The personality is an adaptation. Jumbo of genuine traits and coping mechanisms some of which do not reflect us at all but reflect the loss of it. This takes shape on temperament and how one interacts with those around you. Doesn't express real needs and longings.
The disconnection of oneself is endemic in a materialistic society.
Compassion Inquiry, self - reflection.
Exercise. Self-inquiry without judgement.
Journaling is important. Writing by hand helps create a connection with oneself.
Once a week
Question 1. In my life's important areas what am I not saying no to? Where did I today or this week sensed a No but said otherwise. With whom or with who do I find saying No more difficult with?
Question 2. How does my inability to say no impact my life? Three spheres (Physical, Emotional, Interpersonal, and additionally Material)
Question 3. What bodily signals have I been overlooking? What symptoms have I been ignoring that could be warning signs? Regular survey of ongoing symptoms (fatigue, lower back pain, etc....) Then ask what unsaid NO is this due to.
Question 4. What is the hidden story behind my inability to say NO? A story, justification, a rationalization, these are spurts from limiting core beliefs of oneself.
Question 5. Where did I learn these stories? Looked into childhood experiences.
Question 6. Where have I ignored or denied a YES that wanted to be said? Joys have you denied, fear, and experiences. What is the belief keeping you from those actions you want to take?
Healing - Experienced, and mindfulness is needed for this exercise. 5 Step - practiced regularly.
Relabel, Reattribute, Refocus, Revalue, Re-create