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jupitershallemerge's review against another edition
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
5.0
Very helpful information.
oceanelle's review against another edition
5.0
this book is painful and necessary and filled with truths. i needed it.
quigonchuy's review against another edition
5.0
This book was incredibly revelatory. I was just curious how much would apply to me, and expected to learn a thing or two about dealing with toxic relationships, but not much beyond that. I got a much larger understanding of just how much I have been affected and shaped by a situation I would have previously said "was not that bad", and without realizing it. It has definitely started me on a journey to learn more about myself and how to better handle difficult relatives and situations.
egelantier's review against another edition
4.0
concise, terrifying, useful and to the point. i feel that the first part, dedicated to the various types of toxic parenting and its (predictably horrifying), has became more or less general, facebook-level knowledge by now (which is good, or would be good, if it helped), but the second part, dedicated to dealing with these effects in therapy, was interesting and new to me. forward advocates confronting the parents to move forwards, and provides a nicely detailed, almost ritualized guide for doing so, along, of course, with a lot of therapeutic support and framing. in the real life the effects probably vary and depend, but it was still very good to read, know and consider.
hoyabear's review against another edition
1.0
Made me feel better at first, because my parents aren't as crazy as those described. But reading so many terrible anecdotes wears on one's soul.
meliemelo's review against another edition
5.0
Excellent. This book was of a great help to me, even though I'm already past most of the things described. I would advise it to anyone with toxic parents, definitely.
The first part helps you identify the problem if you aren't quite sure that there is one by showing you various types of abusive parents (although they can fall in several categories or be a combination of them). The second part gives you really simple and yet effective advice in dealing with your relationship with them.
What I found great was that it also helped me with other "figures of authority", not only parents ! I had grown so fearful and traumatised by stuff that happened that handling conflict (or even letting it happen) in my place of work was hard, as it always brought me back to my childhood, but this really helped on getting past that.
Once again, I recommend it wholeheartedly !
The first part helps you identify the problem if you aren't quite sure that there is one by showing you various types of abusive parents (although they can fall in several categories or be a combination of them). The second part gives you really simple and yet effective advice in dealing with your relationship with them.
What I found great was that it also helped me with other "figures of authority", not only parents ! I had grown so fearful and traumatised by stuff that happened that handling conflict (or even letting it happen) in my place of work was hard, as it always brought me back to my childhood, but this really helped on getting past that.
Once again, I recommend it wholeheartedly !
linnabraham's review against another edition
4.0
This book is divided into two parts, the first part which lets you analyse if you were in a toxic relation with your parents and the second part which is more of a self help guide. It was a recommendation that came out of Mallu Analyst's videos and one which was also engaging to read. Written by a professional psychologist, I believe this contains valuable advice which is relevant not only to people who have been abused or have reached a level where they need to seek medical help but also for people who don't consider themselves to be in a victim class. Its an eye opener for people interested in knowing what good parenting must be. I am tempted to believe that good parenting is probably to provide as less parenting as possible. Or in other words its an effort to understand and avoid the pitfalls of toxic parenting. There are times where I have felt less comfortable reading this because
1. This seemed to provide insights into my personal life or people whose lives I have come to know and I was afraid of the power of a book to do so. A need for cross verification comes up.
2. No one wants to be in a therapist's room unless you feel you have a problem at hand.
1. This seemed to provide insights into my personal life or people whose lives I have come to know and I was afraid of the power of a book to do so. A need for cross verification comes up.
2. No one wants to be in a therapist's room unless you feel you have a problem at hand.