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donut_holer's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? Yes
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.0
Graphic: Emotional abuse, Panic attacks/disorders, Rape, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
Moderate: Pedophilia, Self harm, and Pregnancy
readbycarina's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
2.5
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Rape, Sexual assault, and Sexual content
Moderate: Gun violence
Minor: Death, Pregnancy, and Alcohol
zo__ish's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.0
This quote from the book is the best way to describe it’s story and meaning. The first half was pretty slow and hard to grapple. I got a little bored but at the second half I really understood what was happening & what the story was about. I loved the ending, though it was very heartbreaking.
Lots of internal monologue and analyzing of other characters. Choi really plays with trusting characters and unreliable narrators. She is clearly a very talented writer!
Graphic: Rape and Sexual content
Moderate: Vomit
Minor: Pregnancy
lucinotlucy's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.75
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Sexual assault, Sexual content, Sexual violence, Toxic relationship, Toxic friendship, Alcohol, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Emotional abuse, Gun violence, Rape, Pregnancy, and Alcohol
sageypants's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? Yes
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
4.5
I was first exposed to “Trust Exercise” when I, on a whim, decided to go to my University’s book store for a reading night. I had no idea what to expect, had never heard of the author or the book before, and was instantly struck by the contrast between my impression of Choi, her illustrative and smooth prose, and the subject matter. I was compelled!
I think for a lot of people picking up a book like this for the first time, it’s a very uncomfortable first impression. The book initially presents itself as a moody teenage romance with an uncomfortable amount of graphic detail and a noticeable lack of self-awareness. I am not surprised that there are people who were disgusted by graphic scenes of teenagers having sex and decided to close the book, rate it one star, call it annoying and pretentious and unnecessary, then moved on to the next. But upon reaching the perspective shift, the true narrative unfolds, and each layer peeling back reveals another layer I never knew existed.
To say the book is “trying too hard”, that it’s “pretentious” and says only vague musings about life instead of prompting real discussion seems, to me, and egregious and offensive misrepresentation of its concept and execution. I can understand the criticisms of some scenes feeling too intense, and I also wanted to pull back at some points, but I really challenge people to let themselves be uncomfortable. (Obviously if the contents are triggering and affecting your health then take care of yourself, but this is separate from feeling uncomfortable.)
The contrast between the first half of the book—the way the pain is muted and dulled, the way the darker aspects of abuse are disguised and rewritten to have happened to other people—and the second half of the book—the challenging truths finally being faced, and not only addressed but weaponized against the narrator of the first half, Sarah, is a thread woven so deftly that it’s a work which requires multiple read-throughs to catch every detail. Choi masterfully toys with our expectations of romanticized pain, disgust at obvious and unfettered abuse, and irritation with her self-absorbed “main” characters, flipping to a completely different writing style, perspective, and tone.
Karen hates Sarah and David as much as every one star reviewer. She doesn’t dance in frilly metaphors about the seascape of lush lawns in Mr. Kingsley’s neighborhood or languish in romantic prose about how tortured she is. Karen is matter-of-fact. She sprinkles multiple, exact definitions of words into her train of thought, she acknowledges every ugly feeling, and acknowledges every contradiction in her feelings. She plans things methodically instead of floating dreamlike through someone else’s story. She resents romantics like Sarah and her mother. She keeps her Self secretive. Where Sarah’s story was published for the world to see, Karen’s is a private performance for us and us alone. And even in her scathing depictions of Sarah’s book, we’re still given nuggets of information that change how we perceive Sarah’s interpretation of events.
Another review highlighted a quote to this point exactly, that we cannot know how our version of events will line up with someone else’s. Both Sarah and Karen are victims, but they’ve internalized and later externalized their conflict in completely different ways. Their abuse, their interpretations of their abuse, and their (imagined?) resolutions to their abuse are /theirs/. There is no manual to being the perfect victim or the perfect friend or the perfect lover or the perfect storyteller.
I feel like I could talk at length about the themes in this book, I’ve already highlighted so many striking lines of prose as well. While some people find it “pretentious”, I was moved. Choi’s sentences are illuminating—inspiring. She makes me want to be a more thoughtful author and a more thoughtful reader, which is really all anyone can ask for by the time they finally put a book down.
If there were any valuable criticisms I could offer, I would say that I wished some parts would linger longer than others. At times the pacing does drag, although this might be from the daunting layout of its chapter-less delivery with thick paragraphs and trailing stream-of-thought exposition. However, there were a lot of really powerful moments I wish lingered a bit longer, and there were themes/arcs I wish had been given more time to bear riper fruit such as Karen’s pregnancy, Sarah and David’s reunion (although I understand why it was limited), and understanding between Karen and Sarah over their shared and yet entirely different experiences of abuse.
I would say to give this book a try if you’re a reader or aspiring writer looking for an unconventional narrative structure and a challenging read, but if it proves to be too challenging for you, and you want to stop, please refrain from leaving a review. I think it’s important to review works as a whole, and not just parts we liked or didn’t like and why we liked or didn’t like them. Reading and reviewing just the first part because you couldn’t get through to the second is disrespectful to entire rest of the work, which completely impacts the reading of the first part. But I’ll get off my soap box for the night.
Graphic: Child abuse, Pedophilia, Rape, and Sexual content
jlboro's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
5.0
Graphic: Sexual content
Moderate: Rape and Sexual assault
lmshearer's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? A mix
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? It's complicated
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated
3.0
Graphic: Rape, Sexual assault, Sexual content, and Sexual violence
lilyaugust's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? It's complicated
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
3.5
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Rape, and Sexual assault
Moderate: Pregnancy
whorden's review against another edition
- Plot- or character-driven? Character
- Strong character development? No
- Loveable characters? No
- Diverse cast of characters? No
- Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes
1.75
the 0.75 is because I didn't dnf.
otherwise I despise this book
Graphic: Adult/minor relationship, Rape, Sexual assault, and Sexual harassment
Moderate: Sexual content, Toxic relationship, and Toxic friendship
katsmedialibrary's review against another edition
2.75
Graphic: Rape and Sexual assault
Rape of underage girls