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idajoh's review
informative
reflective
slow-paced
4.0
The essays were great and really got me thinking. I want to revisit these in 5-10 years and see if my opinions on them have changed. I generally found Tolentino as a voice of reason, and therefore mostly agreed with her. I especially liked "The I in Internet" and a surprising favorite was "We Come from Old Virginia".
bleumingpages's review against another edition
2.0
This might be one of the books that make me go "it's not you, it's me" Lol. I have to give credits to how well this book is written, though. However, to put it very simply, most of the ideas presented are obvious and basic to me. I initially expected the ENTIRE book to be thought-provoking and make me go "woah", but those moments, I can barely count with my fingers. They might be eye-opening to those who are still not familiar with the ideas?? I don't know. I didn't finish it, which truly makes me sad, but I can't get through a single page without wondering what her point is - due to the long winded (unnecessary) explanation.
amandaahola's review against another edition
challenging
funny
informative
inspiring
reflective
medium-paced
3.0
maddiewarren's review
challenging
informative
reflective
slow-paced
3.0
I enjoyed the content of the book - good food for thought, lots of into - but the act of reading it I found really difficult. Didn’t always pull me in, sometimes overly wordy and academic for the style.
wiengal_22's review against another edition
challenging
emotional
informative
reflective
sad
medium-paced
4.0
katieurban's review against another edition
4.0
Wow this book was interesting, and so well researched. THESE TWO QUOTES keep getting me...
“And still I wonder how much harder it would be to get straight women to accept the reality of marriage if they were not first presented with the fantasy of a wedding. I wonder if women today would so readily accept the unequal diminishment of their independence without their sense of self-importance being overinflated first. It feels like a trick, a trick that has worked and is still working, that the bride remains the image of womanhood at its most broadly celebrated – and that planning a wedding is the only period in a woman’s life where she is universally and unconditionally encouraged to conduct everything on her terms.”
"...for plenty of women, becoming a bride still means being flattered into submission: being prepared, through a rush of attention and a series of gender-segregated rituals – the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, and later, the baby shower – for a future in which your identity will be systematically framed as secondary to the identity of your husband and kids.”
The author so perfecting provides insight into so many other topics including: how we construct ourselves on the internet, the constant pressure we face to curate every aspect of our lives, rape culture, and so much more.
“And still I wonder how much harder it would be to get straight women to accept the reality of marriage if they were not first presented with the fantasy of a wedding. I wonder if women today would so readily accept the unequal diminishment of their independence without their sense of self-importance being overinflated first. It feels like a trick, a trick that has worked and is still working, that the bride remains the image of womanhood at its most broadly celebrated – and that planning a wedding is the only period in a woman’s life where she is universally and unconditionally encouraged to conduct everything on her terms.”
"...for plenty of women, becoming a bride still means being flattered into submission: being prepared, through a rush of attention and a series of gender-segregated rituals – the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, and later, the baby shower – for a future in which your identity will be systematically framed as secondary to the identity of your husband and kids.”
The author so perfecting provides insight into so many other topics including: how we construct ourselves on the internet, the constant pressure we face to curate every aspect of our lives, rape culture, and so much more.