Reviews tagging 'Abandonment'

Tous nos jours parfaits by Jennifer Niven

21 reviews

purplee_rain89's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful inspiring reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

It was so beautifully written and you could totally immense yourself in the story, almost feeling like you're the one living through it. The topics it talks about are difficult but important nonetheless and it's done in a way that portrays the seriousness of mental illness and suicide/suicidal ideation really well but even despite this, the end of the book leaves you with some sort of hope that healing is possible and you can in fact find your own way. It was heart wrenching and devastating but has its own beauty after all and I'll definitely read it again.

Sending lots of love to anyone struggling right now, you matter and you're so so strong. You will find your way through this eventually; I believe in you, truly <3

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Death, Emotional abuse, Grief, Mental illness, Suicide attempt, Suicide, Bullying, and Car accident

Moderate: Cursing, Child abuse, Abandonment, Self harm, Addiction, Physical abuse, Vomit, and Violence

Minor: Panic attacks/disorders, Eating disorder, Sexual content, and Toxic friendship

thebluntbibliophile's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful reflective sad medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.5

This one hit me right in the feels. Holy heck.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Mental illness, Death, and Suicide attempt

Moderate: Abandonment, Child abuse, and Car accident

whatbidoureads's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional sad tense slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? No
• Loveable characters? No
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

2.25

(TW: heavy topics are brought up in this review, if you are triggered by mental illnesses, please skip this review and have a great day!)
I bought this book when it first came out and left it on the shelf because the main topic is one that hits close to home.
Then a movie came out (because every best seller needs a movie am I right…) and I watched it. I know you’ll say you should read the book first blablabla and most times I agree with you. But this time I don’t.
The movie I watched, even “enjoyed” to some extent.
BUT THE BOOK.

I usually put a book down when I don’t like it but I finished this one just to write a review. Bare with me as I try to word it out in a clear nice way.
As someone who has an understanding, and first hand experience of the main topics in this book I would never recommend it to someone. I’d go as far as to say it can cause so much harm if I’m the wrong hands (aka someone dealing with S.A and mental illnesses).
I understand this book was written by a survivor of suicide through the loss of a friend and it almost feels like an autobiography dedicated to the love Jennifer had for her friend, and I can get behind that. (note: everyone’s grieving process is different, and I am in no way undermining her grief, or the process she has gone through)
But the take she has on mental illness, and teenagers is appalling.

The book starts nice and gentle with 2 teens connecting under the circumstances of Violet - popular girl- dealing with the loss of her sister in a car accident, and Finch - outcast- dealing with bullying and depression (to make it short). The beginning is sweet as he kind of forces his way into her life and picks her up off the ground to “live again” after her sisters death. But on the other side you have his story. A glorified anti-hero who is at first portrayed as this cool, misunderstood, handsome so called “freak” with personal struggles, who towards the end is portrayed as someone who was trying to get better, and wanted to live. As a survivor myself, I can tell you I didn’t see it. (And I’m one to annotate and highlight my books). 
At no point was there any indication of character growth towards that, or any indication of help he could have gotten from others. So on one hand you have Violet, main character, good growth, she eventually grieves all her losses (without any counseling, help group, friend or family’s help but finch - like what), and Finch who was left for dead from the beginning of the book.

There’s a few topics that annoyed me in this book as well, and that in my eyes are cannot be overlooked as they are everywhere in the book.
- Talk of mental illnesses in the sense that some characters are simply restricted to their illness (such as self-harm, eating disorders, depression), and Finch is basically a glorified suicide victim,
- slut shaming,
- body shaming,
- Speech about the girls in the book (they are looked down upon),
- the lack of adult/parental figure. In fact there was literally NO ONE helping Finch to get better.

His mother too worried about her own personal struggles, the COUNCELOR too busy explaining that if a student dies on school grounds he will get a lawsuit, his dad with a new family, his so called friends who randomly pop into the story, and the help group with literally one session and no follow ups on that lead in the story.

Overall, this book is very disappointing and if you skip it, you won’t miss anything unfortunately.. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Child death, Bullying, Physical abuse, Death, Emotional abuse, Suicide attempt, Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Eating disorder, Toxic relationship, Toxic friendship, and Child abuse

Moderate: Bullying, Death, Abandonment, Body shaming, Car accident, Eating disorder, Self harm, and Mental illness

z0z's review against another edition

dark emotional funny inspiring reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

5.0

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, and Mental illness

Moderate: Cursing, Grief, Death, and Abandonment

Minor: Child abuse

potassiumk's review against another edition

challenging emotional sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.25

This book was hard to read. I related to Violet and Finch due to their mental health struggles. I was known as the girl who tried to hang herself last year. So, seeing Finch being referred to in similar ways really hit close to home for me. Finch was one of the most real characters I've ever read. The way he acted was a great example of someone that is passively suicidal and broke the typical norm for books that have to deal with the subject. Most of the time a character who is suicidal or recovering from that is treated like the typical always-depressed person. But not for Finch. He displays a more realistic and different take on the trope. I really liked that. 

This book was powerful. It was sad but hopeful. And even if I didn't like how it ended, it was still good.

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicide, Physical abuse, Grief, Car accident, Cursing, Domestic abuse, Injury/Injury detail, Suicide attempt, Death, Violence, Bullying, Mental illness, and Suicidal thoughts

Moderate: Abandonment

Minor: Death of parent, Alcoholism, and Sexual content

valeriayp98's review against another edition

dark emotional hopeful mysterious reflective sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

8/10
Me gustó mucho la historia, es pesado de leer y te cansa emocionalmente, vale la pena pero si recomiendo leer las advertencias. 

Amé a Violet y a Finch, realmente son muy complejos y te hace ver las cosas desde la persona que sufre.

Me hubiera gustado un poco más de desarrollo en el tema de terapia. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicide attempt, Suicide, Car accident, Abandonment, Death, and Mental illness

margaritium's review against another edition

emotional funny sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? It's complicated
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.0

I cried, I laaughed, I was happy, I was sad, I was delighted and I was devasted.
The way it ends really made me stop and ripped my heart out 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Abandonment, and Emotional abuse

_tee_'s review against another edition

dark emotional funny informative sad slow-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? It's complicated
• Loveable characters? It's complicated
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

3.5

didn’t really like it but then it made me ugly cry at 1am. so thanks for that. 

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Car accident, Suicidal thoughts, Mental illness, Grief, Suicide attempt, Suicide, and Death

Moderate: Physical abuse, Child abuse, and Sexual content

Minor: Animal death, Injury/Injury detail, Cursing, Abandonment, and Gore

ouchy

jasmineslibraryy's review against another edition

emotional hopeful inspiring sad tense medium-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? Yes
• Flaws of characters a main focus? It's complicated

5.0

this book hit close to home. finch and violet felt so real and i wish i could hug them both. sobbed my eyes out reading lmao

what a beautifully told story </3

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Content Warnings

Graphic: Violence, Grief, Car accident, Suicide, Mental illness, Bullying, Emotional abuse, Cursing, Child death, Death, Child abuse, Suicidal thoughts, and Suicide attempt

Moderate: Drug use and Abandonment

carlwheezer's review against another edition

challenging dark emotional funny reflective sad tense fast-paced

• Plot- or character-driven? Character
• Strong character development? Yes
• Loveable characters? Yes
• Diverse cast of characters? No
• Flaws of characters a main focus? Yes

4.75

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Content Warnings

Moderate: Suicidal thoughts, Suicide, Suicide attempt, Abandonment, Bullying, Car accident, Child abuse, Death, Mental illness, and Panic attacks/disorders