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4.25

A collection of thought-provoking, outstandingly written essays about life, love, sexism, misogyny, racism, and growing up. Each one is short enough not to be tedious and simultaneously long enough to really explore the topic. It’s evident that writing comes naturally to Tolentino.

My two favourites were Pure Heroines (which examines the changing presentation of heroines in literature over time) and We Come From Old Virginia (which explores the intersection between rape/rape culture and gender using the University of Virginia as an example). 

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4.0

Yet another audiobook that was so good I need to read my own physical copy so I can annotate it. So many interesting stories and analyses that I need to pour over again.

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4.0

‘The nature of a revelation is that you don't have to re-experience it; you don't even have to believe whatever is revealed to hang on to it for as long as you want. In the seventies, researchers believed that MDMA treatment would be discrete and limited—that once you got the message, as they put it, you could hang up the phone. You would be better for having listened. You would be changed. They don't say this about religion, but they should.’

I really enjoyed this, particularly the essays ‘The I in Internet,’ ‘Ecstasy,’ ‘The Story of a Generation in Seven Scams,’ and ‘We Come From Old Virginia.’ Tolentino’s writing style is sharp and her voice is compelling. She often articulated feelings I’ve had about the internet, for example, with shocking ease and extraordinary understanding, in a way that I never could. 

I struggled with one small part at the end of ‘The Cult of the Difficult Woman,’ where I felt there was a less evenly-weighted mixture of grace and criticism directed towards Hillary Clinton - it felt very idolising and a bit uncomfortable to read when the rest of the book was so nuanced, thoughtful and critical. 

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4.0

if you're sensitive to discussions of rape, skip We Come From Old Virginia

some of these essays are absolutely incredible and thought provoking, but others felt flat in comparison.
 
My favorites were:
- Always Be Optimizing
- Ecstasy
- The Cult of Difficult Women
- The Story of a Generation in Seven Scams

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laurelmb's review

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5.0


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4.5


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camoo3032's review against another edition

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3.75

The first half was a bit of a struggle to get through but I thoroughly enjoyed the second half. My biggest criticism would be that she often recounts information or includes personal tales that are tangential to the point that she's trying to make. I also fear that aspects of this book will lose their relevance the further away we get from the Trump Administrative 

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4.25


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5.0


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saskiahill's review against another edition

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3.75

The first 4 essays were brilliant and I understood and found their content engaging and intriguing. I got lost in the essay about ecstasy and religion and never fully recovered from there (though the final essay on marriage was interesting). I tend to read books as a whole, but perhaps this is better digested as a series of one-offs, and if I'd chosen the essays based on my mood and interest in the subject matter I might have enjoyed them all as much as the first 4!

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