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gossamerchild's review against another edition
emotional
hopeful
informative
reflective
slow-paced
4.0
yoggi01's review against another edition
4.0
Close relationships is the best indicator of good health.
Secure attachment
Anxious attachment
Avoidant attachment
Being vulnerable is good, creates closer, more intimate friendships.
Assume that people like you! We often underestimate how much people like us or how good their impressions of us are.
"that I have to treat people how they want to be treated and not how I want to be treated, because we're not the same. So, if I'm friends with somebody and they want this thing of me and it's not over the top, then why not do it?"
"Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments."
Best friends can feel a sort of romantic love towards each other, not sexual in nature. Men are scared of being seen as gay when expressing affection or closeness to other male friends which hurts their chances of forming close male friendships.
Show affection, some ways:
- Tell them how much they mean to you
- when they reach out, tell them how happy you are to hear from them
- Be excited at their good news
- Compliment them
- Praise their hard work
- Greet them warmly
- Let them know when they share something that's meaningful to you
- Tell them when you think of them in passing
- Tell other people how great you think they are.
- Let them know when they impress you
- Tell them they'll succeed in reaching their dreams
- Tell them when you think they have a great idea
- Smile at them genuinely
- Remind them you are grateful to know them
Secure attachment
Anxious attachment
Avoidant attachment
Being vulnerable is good, creates closer, more intimate friendships.
Assume that people like you! We often underestimate how much people like us or how good their impressions of us are.
"that I have to treat people how they want to be treated and not how I want to be treated, because we're not the same. So, if I'm friends with somebody and they want this thing of me and it's not over the top, then why not do it?"
"Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments."
Best friends can feel a sort of romantic love towards each other, not sexual in nature. Men are scared of being seen as gay when expressing affection or closeness to other male friends which hurts their chances of forming close male friendships.
Show affection, some ways:
- Tell them how much they mean to you
- when they reach out, tell them how happy you are to hear from them
- Be excited at their good news
- Compliment them
- Praise their hard work
- Greet them warmly
- Let them know when they share something that's meaningful to you
- Tell them when you think of them in passing
- Tell other people how great you think they are.
- Let them know when they impress you
- Tell them they'll succeed in reaching their dreams
- Tell them when you think they have a great idea
- Smile at them genuinely
- Remind them you are grateful to know them
ambergamgee's review against another edition
4.0
I like this info and data about friendships.
One complaint: the author criticized books like “How to Win Friends and Influence People” for being “manipulative” while simultaneously giving similar advice….?
Also, neurodivergent people are completely left out of this. Perhaps neurodivergents and their friendships are too big a topic to include?
But overall I liked it and applied tips right away. I used verbal affection with a budding friendship to great success
One complaint: the author criticized books like “How to Win Friends and Influence People” for being “manipulative” while simultaneously giving similar advice….?
Also, neurodivergent people are completely left out of this. Perhaps neurodivergents and their friendships are too big a topic to include?
But overall I liked it and applied tips right away. I used verbal affection with a budding friendship to great success
pecsenye's review against another edition
There is nothing new in the first 40% of this book and the stories she shares as examples are so bizarre that I'm having a hard time paying attention. I should have known when she quoted David Brooks that this wasn't going to be the book for me. Ick.
Content Warnings
Quotes David Brooks
cleighb's review against another edition
Kinda bored. Valid arguments but didn’t feel particularly new or applicable to me.
bakablue's review against another edition
challenging
informative
inspiring
reflective
relaxing
slow-paced
3.0